My girl and I are getting married soon and we just found out that her uncle has lung cancer (i'm the guy who asked how long can a person live with lung cancer) and I don't want to postpone nor cancel my wedding only because her uncle didn't care enough for his health, I don't know what am I going to do if he dies before we get married. Advice and criticism are welcome.
2006-09-11 07:33:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Not at all. Your wedding day is for you and your bride to be, not uncle fester. It's unfortunate he has lung cancer; however, you aren't marrying uncle fester. Move forward with your plans for the wedding. If she is using this as an excuse to postpone, she may not want to get married and is too scared to tell you.
2006-09-11 08:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wouldn't want you to postpone. Be sure he gets an invitation whether or not he can come. He's not dead yet. It would also be good to send him a wedding video.
As for the crack about him not caring enough for his health, DON'T say that. #1 cause of lung cancer is cigarette smoking, but #2 is pesticides and other chemicals and #3 is asbestos. You could easily end up with some kind of cancer yourself and not know what the exact cause is.
Continue with your plans. If he dies just before your wedding, expect some people not to come.
2006-09-11 14:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are good things and bad things that happen in this world today, as we all know. Why postpone the good? I know I wouldn't. I'm getting married soon too and I hope nothing bad happens......because the wedding is on no matter what. I hope things work out for you two and I wish you a lifetime filled with love and happiness.
Also, the comment you made about him not caring for himself....we don't know the facts. I do understand that some people are told to stop smoking or drinking, etc, and they don't take their doctor's advice. He is still a family member of your fiance's and you should respect her feelings on that matter.
2006-09-11 14:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by chris' angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give your wife to be a little sympethy you guys are going to be husband and wife and her family will be apart of your life, cancer is nothing to play with and it does not mean he did not take care of himself you should not have said that i would be mad at you too, hope nothing happens to him apologize to your grul and make things right you don't even want to go into a marriage with the attitude you have now because not would i not be talking to you but i would postpone the wedding if not call it off , figuring if you act this way now how are you going to act later or if it was my mother or father or other family member, and would you like it if she did or said something like that about you family members.
Think about it and fix it Hope your wedding goes as planned Good luck
2006-09-11 14:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpeachyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Postpone. It will help you in the long run. If her uncle is more important than your marriage, you may want to take note.
2006-09-11 14:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be a bit more considerate to your future wife and ask what she wants to do, as for him not looking after his health, a bit harsh. I'm sure he didn't want cancer and would change things if he could.
2006-09-11 14:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Platinum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he would want his niece to postpone her wedding because of his sickness.
congratulations on getting married
2006-09-11 14:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Coxie Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her and see what she wants. Out of respect find a way to brooch the subject with him as well. As for him not caring enough for his health thats harsh, yet I do understand your feelings.
2006-09-11 15:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, just a hair self-absorbed aren't you? Why don't you think of her and give her some support? How about asking her what she would like to do and take her advice? Well, I guess that would be too considerate.
2006-09-11 14:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by JuJitsu_Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends on how close he is with your future wife.... ASk her what she thinks if she wants to postpone then do it make her happy...
2006-09-11 14:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋