my daughter split up with her boyfriend last wednesday night. they have been together a year.they are both 25 years old. i have never seen a couple so compatible. basically the split up came out of the blue ,all because he could not make a commitment. she now feels she has blown her chances ,. his mum is devastated also, .she has had a text from him for the last 3 nights .a goodnight text ,and she has done the same . do you think she should give him a time limit ,or just wait and hope.?
2006-09-11 07:17:46 · 18 answers · asked by Linda 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes time away from each other is all i takes to realize what they want. and guys do not work well with "time limits"
2006-09-11 07:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 26 and he seems so go through this commitment ordeal he has in the past had two very serious relationships, where both my husband and I think great he's going to settle down then suddenly out of the blue he breaks it off, as parents we have become attached to his girlfriends and have felt gutted with the outcome my son is on serious girlfriend number three now and I am not holding my breath - if I was to offer any advice to your lovely daughter it's that its not her fault, he doesn't feel mature enough to settle down and may even feel slightly pressured into making a commitment which has made him panic and run, tell her to give him an ultimatum one of them being to carry on seeing each other no strings attached or no communications at all, so she can get on with her life and find true love elsewhere.
2006-09-11 14:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by darkhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on the circumstances of the break-up. If he can't make a commitment then she doesn't want to keep trying because it would probably just be a waste of time. If she really loves him she could be friends with him until he's ready for a commitment, but she could also find someone who's willing to treat her right. Tell her to be his friend for now and see what develops from there. But if he's not willing to be in a commitment, she shouldn't push it, she should move on.
2006-09-11 14:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by *♥T0mb0ygirlygurl♥* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by him not being able to make a commitment? she didn't expect him to propose after just a year, did she? if the reason for the break up was that he wasn't ready to get married, then for heaven's sake tell your girl to relax about it. what a shame to lose a love because she couldn't wait to walk down the aisle. therefore she shouldn't give him a time limit but talk to him about what they both hope for and if there's a middle where they can meet.
2006-09-11 14:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by new-in-town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men have trouble making a commitment! If she truly loves him, and he treats her well, than what is the hurry. SO many women make the mistake of trying to force their partner into a commitment. BAD IDEA!! She needs to enjoy the time she spends with him, reassure him that she loves him, and wait for him to be ready. It will me much better to get a proposal from his heart vs. feeling like she forced him into it.
2006-09-11 14:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There only 25 get on an 18-30 and see what they think after.
2006-09-11 15:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Goatboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should stay single.
What's so hot about getting married of forming an exclusive 1 to 1 bond with some guy?
No one who is married really enjoys the lack of freedom.
2006-09-11 14:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to say this but I really don't think you should get involved or even be worried about it. I think you won't be able to understand everything that is going on because it is not happening to you, it is happening to her. You should just trust her judgement and let her know that you are there to support her if she needs it, but let her know it is her decision to make and that you will stand by her either way (and mean it).
2006-09-11 14:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cannot wait forever for him to come back to her. It sounds like he still wants to be friends with her and maybe that is what she should hold on to. I think after a reasonable time she should move on.
2006-09-11 14:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a year seems soon to ask for a commitment. by commitment, I assume you mean marriage. if this is what she wants, they she will have to move on and find someone else who wants to the same thing as her. as long as they dissagree on this point there is no hope...
2006-09-11 14:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy dog lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋