I am currently in my second year of college. I am married to a Marine who is currently in Iraq. I am going to college to get my degree, and then I want to become a USMC Officer after I graduate college. My question is, when is the best time to try and start having a family with my husband? School is very important to me, and if I had a baby during school, then I would have to miss quite a bit. But at the same time, being an Officer in the Marine Corps is very important as well, and that would be hard to have a child during that time too. My husband is open to having a baby whenever, but having a baby is a big responsibility! Any ideas? Sorry if this question sounds a little odd... And if you bash me about this question, it won't do you any good, so just spare us both..
2006-09-11 07:13:05 · 11 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I just want to wish you and your husband the very best of luck. No one can tall you the right time to start a family, but whenever you do have a baby, your child will be blessed with two loving parents who are real American Heros.
Ignore any negativity on here. You just know that a lot of us appreciate your service to our country, and our thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
2006-09-13 06:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think there will never be a right time,... just keep that in mind.
If you can work for at least a year before you get pregnant then I would probably choose that time. Then they have to save your job for you, and you are finished school.
Just make sure you dont wait too long, If you are young, odds are your baby is healthier and your pregnancy is not as difficult on you.
You will find a way to accomplish everything even when it seems difficult..
ultimately the decision is up to you,..:)
good luck
2006-09-11 14:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Katie,
Non one can really help you answer that question but yourself and your Hubby.
You just need to look at all the factors and weigh them and see what pops out.
Attempting College at the same time as having a baby is going to be extremely difficult. and with an active duty father who can be called away at any time even more so. but it still can be possible if you have very close support from nearby family and friends willing to help with things such as the Baby and even the household chores.
A close friend of mine just started back to college for "Respritory Therapist" and she has two little ones at home and a Hubby who is away most the time (Truck driver not Military). She has some supprt from friends and Family yet still she is going crazy with housework, kids, and trying to find time to study.
Think EVERYTHING through completely and discuss it with your husband. and even with family whom you may be counting on to help. then decide.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-09-11 15:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by CG-23 Sailor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that one you finish school and finish your Officer Canidate School would be the best time. Right now seems like a time you want to devote to yourself and your husband. Enjoy the time that you have right now and continue bettering your life and then you will be able to offer more to your child. God Speed to your husband and your family. and best of luck
2006-09-11 17:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dylansmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish school first, then you can gt your job. hire a babysitter or nanny to take care of the baby while you are at work. If you have the baby while you are trying to do your schoolwork, you'll end up taking care of the baby and never get your homework done. granted the baby should come first but you'll end up falling behind and never end up getting your job. finish school so you can get your job. squeeze the baby in between. so here's how I tihnk it ought to go: School, baby, job.
2006-09-11 15:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Retired military here. I would wait to finish school and then officer training. If you have to miss too much time due to sickness et al, they could drop you from the program.
2006-09-11 15:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is something you'll have to decide. You know the pros and cons about both - either delayed degree or leaving child with family if you're both deployed.
Sorry I can't help more - but that is why I'd decided against joining myself.
2006-09-11 14:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't have it until you have accomplished everything that you want to in life, cause once you have kids, you have them forever, my husband is in the Air Force and i'm 24, i don't plan on having kids for another 10 years because we're having to much fun right now as it is, babies are forever
2006-09-11 14:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by AFwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After your husband is home full time, you have your degree, and you have your own house, and a plan for the future.
2006-09-11 14:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should finish your education, start a career and when you get into your thirties then have kids
2006-09-11 14:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋