why does the life comes to a standstill,why no charm is left after few yrs of marriage?

Question

i'm so bored of my daily routine and house chores,that i just need a change,or what to say i want charm in my life to live.i just want to have fun or easy going "happy go lucky"life many will call me naive or childish, but i think i want to live life to the fullest,then only i'll gracefully except my old age and will not be afraid of old age.my hubby think differently and is workholic.so no compatability in this regard.what should i do.Earlier also i never had so called FUN in my life.it is always like duty or "dont do this and dont do that,"type.now i feel that good part of my life is finished and what i had done in this.i have 2 kids both boyz,its gr8 to have them,i'm thankful.secondly my hubby thinks that this is the only age to work and i think that this is the age to have fun too,b'coz work will never end.life will end.so what u guys think .m i right or wrong?m i living in dream world??

i just want someone to look after my house and things and i dont have to worry for anything,sounds great,isn't it.and me mostly travelling around the world,what FUN.hehehe

i engaged myself in a course of textile designing and finished it few weeks back.but again the same problem arises,

Answer 1

I say take it to the max without neglecting or negatively impacting your family. Go ahead and live it up. Travel as long as you plan way ahead and let everyone else know. Bring them with you if you can. I don't know your schedule, but everyone has a few hours a week to go out to meet new people at toastmasters, women's club, or excercise or maybe even treat yourself to a spa. If you give into we should work all the time and not have any fun, then explain to me how you are any more free than our fellow black slaves 200 years ago.

That being said, be careful of your perspectives. You need to sit down and understand why you are doing it. Don't forge ahead with being wild if you are trying to avoid a pain or forget a problem. Fun should be a bonus and not a tool of procrastination.

Answer 2

Because people over estimate (Hype) about marriage.
Everyone think about LOVE & Lust fulfillment,but
there is a tag of responsibility & Commitment and Moment
they face the reality, The reality pricks.

So people soon become shocked about the Marriage.

Why there should be charm in an association packed with True
Commitment & Loyalty. But If few more years are rolled it will become MATTER OF FACT

Answer 3

There's a time for work and a time for play. If your hubby is tired from work and so are you from constantly taking care of everyone's needs...Get a babysitter and spend some time alone together! Get romantic. Take midnight strolls on the beach or just walk around the block holding hands! You dont need 'fun'...you just need to give each other some mutual affection and attention...just you two! :D

Answer 4

Yeah, you need to grow up and get out of dream land. Life doesn't have to be boring because you are married, but you are also a mother, so it is never going to be carefree either. If you wanted to travel and have no worries, you should have did that before you married and had kids.

Answer 5

excitement in your marriage is what you make if it.

one of my closest friends has been married 14 years. she still sends her husband little text messages saying things like "did i tell you today how much i love you?" or "i can't wait to see you tonight i have a surprise!!" it keeps the spark in their marriage and they are truly a happy couple.

marriage and family don't have to be "work" .... it's just life. you can have fun and do things and yet still be responsible. unless you are independently wealthy, you will always have to clean and take care of the kids and the house .... but perhaps make one day every two weeks a "family day" where you all go do something. bowling. dinner. a movie. bingo. something ... doesn't have to cost a lot .. just do something together.

then .. make time for you and your husband by yourselves. rekindle the flames. let him know that you miss being close to him .. not necessary in the physical sense but in the emotional sense. work life will end (when you retire) so i understand that he wants to work to secure your future .. but he also needs to take time off to recharge his batteries.

find a hobby. find a book group if that's what you like. scrapbooking. learn to do a craft. write. dance. do something that makes you happy in your free time! work out! get a puppy! there are many things you can do to achieve happiness for yourself .... you just need to take the first step!!

good luck!!

Answer 6

Oh Dear, life is not just fun alone, wheather you are married are alone, right now i feel you are still in your college days, dreaming and trying to imitate the movie actresses, and heroines of the celluloide world, sing danceing swinging come to the world of reality. Please know your limits, know the wings, how far can you go, how high can you fly, it will be dangerous to go beyound your limit, now in this present world you just can not trust any one, you are open mindedly letting your feeling be known to many on the net, but be wise in choosing the directions shown to you. we can not be in the same level we have to grow,

Answer 7

Find a hobby, explore new interests, like try out tai chi or dancing or something on a schedule. You can't neglect your work, but you can do fun things alongside your regular routine, you don't have to stay cooped up at home or work.

Answer 8

All good things in life loose their value and charm when they become routine of the life. Charm and happiness does not depend on how much you possess but how you use them to enjoy!

Answer 9

Be innovative. Develop new ideas, see new places. Change your living. To get bore is the only problem human have. So find out ways. You will enjoy.

Answer 10

Sorry my dear friend, actually I dont know becoz I am not married. So I will tell u after some years.