Ok I'm dating this guy who is 6 years older than me. He is so sweet....the guy I've always wanted but never thought exsisted. The problem is...some of the things he says are awkward. I know he has friends...but I'm sure they are the same way. Put it this way, in hs he would have been in the dorky good boy crowd I would have been in the popular crowd. dumb analogy sorry....but I attract a lot of attention socially, people always tell me how they have heard I'm so fun to be around, I always say the right things to make people laugh and I'm witty...I'm never awkward. What do I do about him? I want him to not be so awkward esp if he is around my friends and fam.....and it annoys me as well. Other than that he is perfect so it's not worth giving up on. Can I stop and tell him when he says dumb things or will that hurt his feelings?
2006-09-11 07:01:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sound to me you are so full of yourself nothing will help
2006-09-11 07:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by tacoma_fast_ball 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright - listen closely because I am going to give you the answer:
He will NEVER change - Never Ever in a million years.
If you try to change him - he'll resent you for it and will passive aggressively do it even more.
And why would you want him to change? Is that the kind of man you're looking for? Someone who will bend whenever you have a fancy that maybe he isn't behaving the way you want? Can you respect a man like that?
If you can't accept him the way he is right now - end it fast. It's better for both of you.
FP
2006-09-11 07:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you seem a lil full of yourself. Did you ever stop and wonder whether your narcissism annoys him? Every relationship requires compromise. He might be putting up with your vanity b/c he sees a lot of other good qualities about you so if you can't put up with his "awkwardness" due to the fact that your "popular", you should consider ending the relationship
2006-09-11 07:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by ntlgntbtch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Request him nicely to keep a little quiet when with your friends and family and do more of listening. Explain him that people in your circle have a different attitude and perception about life and things and is different than his's. So they do not appreciate his thoughts. So I do not want you to be ridiculed in any way.
2006-09-11 07:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by JIM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's the problem...this is your issue...
"Faults are high when love is thin"
If you love him, you should accept him and respect him for whom he is...even when he's a dork.
You shouldn't try to change him...you should change the way you look at him. Clear up your vision and stop thinking him so un-cool...if you truly love him...he's the coolest man in your world.
2006-09-11 07:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a mind wander, but.... do you think yourself "better" than this guy. It seems like you just might... and I'm not judging... I know where you're coming from... but I do want to point out that if you feel you're a step above this guy, you might want to find someone who will be compatable. Otherwise, you'll eventually start resenting him and neither of you deserve that.
2006-09-11 07:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that people are not perfect. He's going to have faults. Calling him on his faults will only hurt him and your relationship. He can't help it that's the way he is. You will have to accept him for what he is. If you think you can live with this that's fine then. If you think you can't then he's not the one for you. I would move on. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 07:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't and I stress DON'T tell him he says dumb things. Help him with socializing. Get in there and help him. Don't let him figure it out by himself. Eventually it won't be awkward for him.
2006-09-11 07:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree...you popular chics were b****y towards anyone who wasnt in your "clique" think on that one for a while...and why are you dating someone who you call a dork. Thats mean, low and selfish. How would you like to have been one of those dorks? We have feelings to ya know
2006-09-11 07:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you so amazing why don't you cover for him? When he says something lame, you can cover for him and make it into something cool. The problem is you, you are too concerned about what other people think. If he makes you happy, who cares about what other people think.
2006-09-11 07:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you use your experience at being "fun" and "say[ing] the right things" to convey to your family and friends that you like this guy?
oh, wait, he annoys you
guess he's having difficulty portraying confidence in himself
when you so obviously display none in him
2006-09-11 07:07:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋