I ask the question earlier today about this lady not accepting my son as part of us. I knew the answers I would get. I just need a little help letting go of her and moving on. I really love her but the kid issue is more than I can deal with. I have to let go and move on,but how? I am a very insecure person to begin with and now this. I can't keep up the schrade of being happy about has happened or pretending to know how to fix. Please help.
2006-09-11 06:24:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest and open with her about it. Move on.
2006-09-11 06:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" the kid issue " looks like were talking about a (thing) not a person. I think ur family comes first. No matter what family is always first. But I think ur confused about ur priorities don't u think. If the lady didn't want a part on this, than she did good in letting u know. You need to find some one who is going to love u for who u are and be willing to live with all the responsibilities.
2006-09-11 13:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be puzzling and hurtful that this woman you love so much will not accept your son as a part of your relationship. It is never easy letting go...you need to either just cut it off...or if you think there is any possibility of a future - discuss it with her and tell her. Your son is your primary concern and there will be other women out there that would love to accept both you AND your son...
Personally, I would just cut the ties...life is too short to waste on someone who will not love ALL you are...that includes your son!
2006-09-11 13:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Angelfood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the big issue if you have a son? if the situation is reverse she would want you to love her kid as your own. just let her go man it is not worth it. your son is more important than any woman. it will be hard but do it now, if you don't when your son gets older he will be able to sense it and there will be trouble. sit her down and tell her the situation and if she cannot deal then not to make the door hit her on her way out.
2006-09-11 13:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by katz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really just have to say goodbye, and don't look back.
I've been a kid in a situation such as yours. My family (me, dad, brother) moved in with her family (her and her son). The problems began when she would treat us like her own with my dad around. When he wasn't, she was totally different. I was older, so I moved out. But my brother had to deal with her telling him she wanted him to move, (he was school age), saying she was going to call the cops on him to make him leave. She would eavesdrop on his conversations with my father. And she would make up stories about him, and tell my father the lies.
My dad and brother finally left, but after my brother had to endure her crap for a year or so.
Since then my father has gotten together with her again. But I will never forget what she put my brother and I through. Consequently, we don't speak to my father very often. She wanted him, not us. Unfortunately she got what she wanted.
Let her go using the very likely possibility of this story happening to your youngest. No one is worth the love and respect of your children.
Good luck. It certainly won't be easy, but it is absolutely necessary.
2006-09-11 13:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do now is break it off with her even though it might her feelings but how did you feel when she didn't want anything to do with ur son?Just spend time with ur son then maybe the right one will come along and she'll accept and love your son.
2006-09-11 13:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know I kind of proud of you, just because you know that you are insecure and says it
now you learn to believe in yourself so you can deal with her being gone remember if she loves you enough she would have understand your feelings for your son and put your need a priority
where he concern first and try to accept your son
You will be OK
2006-09-11 13:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to do other things to occupy your mind. One day you will wake up and she will be gone from your mind. It's not going to be easy, but if she can't accept your son then she is no good for you or anyone else for that matter. I know this really hurts, but you will be OK. I wish you luck.
2006-09-11 13:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by drubaby32698 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had too much "baggage" for her liking---just stop seeing her and stop calling her etc----JUST DO IT
2006-09-11 13:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know!
2006-09-11 13:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by NIKKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋