She only goes where she absolutely has to. She thinks she is morbidly obese, because she used to be very very (people thought she was anorexic but she wasn't) thin (20" waist!!) but she had to go on a medication which altered her metabolism/ hunger /whatever & now she is around 170 lbs.
She wants to lose around 80 lbs.
I guess it feels like being 500 lbs since she was so petite before, but her MD said she can go off the med next month.
Has anyone else gone from ultra small to overweight like this? What did it do to your self esteem?
(btw she's only about 5' tall & 23 years old)
2006-09-11 06:22:22 · 3 answers · asked by nicolenewcanaan 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Been there.
There are a gazillion 'n one ways to lose weight, but no hard work would make a difference if she's got such a low self-esteem =/
You need to get her outa the house.
Roll in a gym with her, make it fun. There she'll realize there are people with even more severe issues, who don't give a damn about what the people think. Or take her walking by the beach, if possible. Or dance, whatever! Just anything that would get her have some fun and lose some weight OUTDOORS. "Indoors" will ONLY make it worse. Trust me. Eza shi, let her take in comfort that those people just don't care how she looks, and she's never gonna meet them again anyway!
2006-09-11 07:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It's so hard, most people don't understand what it's like. Make sure that you and her other friends and her family are very supportive of her when she goes off the medication and help her lose the weight in a healthy manner. Going from one extreme to another makes you more prone to anorexia and bulimia or other eating disorders.
What finally helped me feel better about myself was to pack away all of my skinny clothes, and put away all of the pictures of the thin me so I didn't have constant reminders depressing me. Then with the help of family and friends I bought a whole new wardrobe (even undergarments) in my new size. If she doesn't want to buy new clothes for a size that she doesn't plan on staying, help her justify it by finding clothes at resale shops and on sale. Remind her that she can resell everything on Ebay and keep buying smaller sizes as she loses weight. There are ways to dress to help mask the figure problems that she's most self conscious about. When she has a closet full of cute clothes that fit her she will be more likely to regain some of the self confidence that she lost. And when she's happy and self confident she's more likely to want to take charge of her life and lose weight, rather than being too depressed to do anything about it.
If she's anything like I was, she was probably able to eat anything she wanted when she was skinny and never gained weight. And now that her metabolism has changed thanks to the medications she's on, she's finding that same eating habit is her worst enemy. She's used to being able to eat whatever she wants, so now not being able to do that is proably torture (I know it was for me). I am just now beginning to learn to eat healthy and have learned that I don't have to stop eating everything I love, I just need to practice restraint and moderation.
I wish your friend the best of luck! I hope that she's grateful to have a supportive friend like you.
2006-09-11 13:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am just like your friend. I weighed 47 kgs 3 years ago and now a year ago weighed 70 kgs...i felt like i needed to die..i shouldnt live this life any more. My own mother asked me not to attend a cousins wedding, coz she would be embarrassed of me. she constantly nagged me about it. but one day i found this lady near my place who supplied diet food. i did a program for 3 weeks and gradually strated eating smaller meals.i counted my caloires and it worked like magic. now i weigh 54 kgs . my mother still thinks that i m extremely fat. there is no one to support me or inspire me or stop me when i reach out for those delicous cookies. so i fight with my self. some times i win and some times loose. but i have decided that i will once again get back to 47kgs and make my mother proud! your friend is very lucky to have you around. i know she can do it and one day she ll be normal again. be her strength and tell her that she will make it one day.Good luck
2006-09-11 13:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by p_suzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋