I've been best friends for 7 years with this girl, but lately she's been acting completely different. She's been sleeping around, causing fights, breaking couples up. She's just a mess. I've tried to counsel her, but I'm having a hard time putting up with her. What do I do? Stick by her side and hope she smartens up or ditch her?
2006-09-11 06:21:19 · 24 answers · asked by Lola S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're trying your best but it's understandable that you're getting annoyed. It's probably best to talk to her, give her one last chance and if she screws up again, move on from this gurl
2006-09-11 15:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one because 7 years is a long time but also think of yourself you need to not be aroung this enviorment if shes not giving a **** about what you have to say stay away for a while and see what happens you can tchange ppl unless they need you. Just le her know how you feel and if she care she will listen if not shes not really a friend just another girl you know. The way she is will reflect on you. Let her be and you need to be. Its part of living she will learn jsut sit back and watch.
2006-09-11 06:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really tried for her of those things u've done for her. Brother i'll advice u to still try more for a while coz u are all that she has that can understand her pls do not leave her alone. relationship should be in good times and in bad times. I understand u love her thats why u still care about her so pls keep on the good work keep talking to her she will change. let her know that u'll call off the relationship if she doesnt change and pretend to leave her for a while then she will no the space u've been occupying in her.
2006-09-11 06:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Peace G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie i know its difficult because you dont find so much i common with her anymore, and you probably think her lack of respect for herself is a big turnoff, But you can still be a friend to her even if she acts like that. Continue to be there for her and let the friendship take its natural course. If the two of you become distant then the friendship will die down, and if you reamian close despite your differences, tehn you've found a true friend worth keeping regardless of your differences
2006-09-11 06:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and tell her that you see a change in her for the worst and it's hurting you to see her acting this way. Tell her that you know she's better than what she's been acting like, and ask her to talk to you about what's going on to make her act like this. Be sincere and not too pushy, and avoid calling her a ****. If she talks to you, then great, help her out and make her realize the way she acts shows she doesn't respect herself. If she won't talk to you then you really can't do anything. Then you can walk away bc you shouldn't associate with girls like that. But try first.
2006-09-11 06:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teen a had a best friend turn into **** queen. I tried to help her but she just kept saying that I was jealous. I had to stopped hanging out with her when guys started thinking I was like her. That when i realized my mother was right when she said birds of a feather flock together. I was not a **** and chose to stop associating with her because I did not like being thought of like that. So the choice is yours, If she will not listen to you do you want your reputation to be put together with hers?
2006-09-11 06:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else is gonig on with her. If she didn't act like this before and just started behaving this way, then something is wrong.. Be a friend as much as you can, but do not go in so deep that you are enabling her behavior or making it easy for her to behave this way. At this point she needs good friends to set her straight.
2006-09-11 06:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is a long time to have a friend. She sounds like she is having a tough time in life. She most likely has low self esteem and feels better when she gets attention even if its negative. Back off a little sooner or later shell realize what she is doing is wrong and will get sick of it.
2006-09-11 06:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by malorieks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 17 so i'm used to friends ditching me continually for boyfriends and girlfriends. besides the very undeniable reality that you're proper that's impolite, that's finally his determination who he spends his time with, taking away his boyfriend is a huge no no because he will hate you for it. i imagine in case you care that a lot for his different friends you need to instantly up tell him about himself and say that you imagine that he might want to stability the time he has to spend between his friends and boyfriend. also it is significant, do not at cutting-edge get mad at him if he remains all about his boyfriend. Is it attainable that his friends weren't as supportive as you imagine they were and probably he has left them for that reason? enable him know bf's may be temporary yet friends are continually.
2016-11-26 01:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAY BYE! You don't want to be put in the same catagory as her...do you?! Guilt by association!! Just tell her when she's done acting like that...to call you... Until then...tell her to be careful, give her a big hug and walk away!
2006-09-11 06:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems very vulnerable at this stage and really needs ur support. if u feel that she is straining the friendship i suggest that u sit her down and tell her that she is jeopardizing ur friendship by her erratic behaviour. if she persits 2 behave like this then i wud break away from her untill she comes 2 her senses. dont let her walk all over u!
2006-09-11 06:23:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋