i am nineteen and have a stable relationship with my boyfriend. we are planning to get married within the year and we want a baby within the next three years. Do you think this is too soon? or that i am too young!!! he also wants me to be a stay at home mom!! i am not sure i like to contribute too but money is no issue!!!!
2006-09-11 06:19:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Get married and enjoy each other in marriage for a year and then add children to the mix. It is so important when raising a child that you two be as firmly planted in your relationship as possible before taking on the challenges that children bring with them.
Your child will be a better person, the healthier your relationship is with each other. It sounds like you are excited to get started on kids, but really, spoil yourselves for a while and then spoil a little peanut.
2006-09-11 06:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are planning things out, planning to get married and all that. It's not as if you're trying to get pregnant ASAP, so I think your timeline of having a child within the next three years is logical. You didn't mention whether either you or your boyfriend have a job or are going to school, but you will probably want some good, stable income before starting a family. Also someplace with health insurance for your pregnancy and for your baby. Also, think about where your friends are going to be in three years. At age 23, they might all be going out to clubs or taking weekend trips, and if you're planning to have a baby at that age, you'll be missing out on that stuff.
2006-09-11 13:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by L G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... I'm 19, been married over a year and I am 7 months pregnant with my first baby. Couldn't be happier...
just get married first... take things one day at a time. Relax. When its meant to happen, it will happen. I wish my husband wanted me to be a stay at home mom though. LOL. I plan to be one anyway... at least for the first few years. Money's not really a major issue in my life either. I say go for it, if its what you want to do.
And I wanted to say... I don't understand why people say "dont you want to live life first?"......... umm... I think she may have been doing that for the last 19 years. And having a baby doesn't mean your life has ended. It's not like you die once you have a kid. It's just the beginning of a new stage in life. Besides...... we have our WHOLE lives to live... I can "live my life" when I am 40, while all those people who say "live life first ... have a kid at 30" are stuck home watching their ten year old children.
2006-09-11 13:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my point of view you are WAY too young. But I get it...when I was your age I thought I was ready to make all my own adult decisions and in a way you are... but having a bay is not a glamourous as most woman think... what's the hurry??
Don't you want to enjoy your 20's going out, traveling and simply enjoying life to it's fullest??? You will not be able to do all this if you have a baby. I decided to travel and see the world when I was your age and my sister decided to have a baby at 19 ...then she had another at 20 and another at 23..... now they are all grown up and she is still young (in her 40's) but she feels that she has missed out in life and if she could do it over she'd do things differently.
In the end you will do whatever is right for you... but when you turn 40 and look back at your life..... I guarantee you that you will feel that having a baby at 19 is too young!! I would gives this a little bit more thought.... perhaps you should talk to woman who had babies at a very young age....
2006-09-11 13:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really is your choice. But I would say get married first then make sure that is what you really want 2 or 3 years later. Make sure marriage is really want you two want. Then later have a baby. Children are a big priority and your life changes. Good luck!
2006-09-11 13:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by spice2621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready for your life to change,when you have a kid your life as you no it stops.maybe you should get married,and enjoy that for a while.then have a baby,just make sure you get all the schooling you want out of the way.because it is hard to go back to school after a child.you will get tired of staying at home all day with a child.you need a career,be able to take care of your self,you have to face it over 50% of marriages do not last.you have to be able to depend on your self,be independent.wish you luck.
2006-09-11 13:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're too young now because i am a year older than you and in a stable relationship where we live together. but by the time you're 22 you should be ready.
2006-09-11 13:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Katie*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things one at an time.get married first,try to work before you have a baby save up .if everything goes ok then have a baby.You will be a stay at home mom with no money.and your boyfriend/husband will control you.you can still work part time and be a great mom.
2006-09-11 13:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a little young yet. It is not something you can change your mind on.
Try babysitting some infants and get a dose of reality. It is not a money thing as much as a commitment issue. You should also be married. The kid deserves a 2 parent household.
2006-09-11 13:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If u're ready, then go for it! I'm 22 with 3 kids. I had my first at 17. I think being amother is great.. even though I work.. it takes a strong person to do it. So do what u gotta do. ..Don't worry bout what other ppls say!
2006-09-11 13:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mz J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋