i have a bf that has been taking me thru changes for a while. we go a month sometimes without being together and then i let him come back. its been two yrs and i see no changes. i feel like a fool each time thinking he will be different. ive been fooling myself. he acts like he cares but when its time to put it to action i get pushed to the side. its hopeless. its changed me as a person. in a case like this is it best to just cut all ties with him and move on. cuz when i think about it i dont even think i could just be his friend.
2006-09-11 06:18:14 · 23 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ditch him.
Refuse to speak to him ever again. You can not be his firend.
That way you will not be subject to his game playing, and he will understand, finally, that there is a limit to your patience, and that you've given up on him.
Choose someone who will respect you.
Sometimes you will still get pushed aside, but you should not always be the least important person on one guys most important people list. More often than not you should be right at the top, and if you aren't you deserve better.
2006-09-11 06:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same prob with my guy best friend. As long as he is single I am first on the list but as soon as he gets a girlfriend seems like i am last. What I have learned to do is take him for what he is. Don't expect too much from him. He has put u in the order of importance in his life and there is not much you can do to move your self up that list. :You are where you are. Accept the relationship for what it is. Get out and spend more time with other friends and meet new ones. Will take your mind off it.
2006-09-11 06:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like hes taking you for a ride. I think you should dump him for good and get over it. If you feel that you been fooled by him then why are you still with him? your making it sound like hes the only person in the world for you. Find some other person that will treat you right or at least the way you want him to be
2006-09-11 06:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I played that game for 3 years & wish I never would have taken him back the first time. It was nothing but a waste of time & the only thing I got from it was knowing what i dont want in a man. I still cant think of any one reason why I stayed, I wanted so bad for it to work, knowing that it wouldnt, but at the same time I think I wanted it so bad because it was comfortable. Go now, it only gets harder!
2006-09-11 06:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on. He will never change. He's had two years to show you that he cares and that he can change for you, and he hasn't. I made this mistake too. Remember that actions speak louder than words. He's just coming back to you bc nothing better has come along yet. But when he thinks he found something better, he'll be gone again. Don't stay friends, kick him to the curb.
2006-09-11 06:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't even be his friend, then how can you continue a relationship with him. You have to like the person you're dating or it won't work. If it's been two years, sorry to tell ya, but I doubt he's going to change. I would cut all ties with him and go on with life without him. He's only bringing you down with him and that's not fair to you. Good luck.
2006-09-11 06:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew to become into interior the right comparable subject. My Bf performed his interest actually all day whilst he grew to become into unfastened, and slightly frolicked with me (i'm 20, he's 22 and we are residing collectively). We had gotten into numerous fights approximately it, and then sooner or later I basically have been given so uninterested I informed him i grew to become into leaving, because of the fact i wanted to be in a dating with him and not watch him have a dating with a working laptop or computing device interest. ultimately he have been given the hint, now he in user-friendly terms performs whilst i'm at artwork, and as quickly as I come living house, he gets off to spend time with me. Or on days off, he will spend time with me, and in user-friendly terms bypass on as quickly as I say its very nicely. however the hardship is, talk over with him approximately it. Get mad. Dont be passive, because of the fact he wont substitute on his own.
2016-12-18 08:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! Are u a woman or his toy?! And u could never be his friend or he yours. The end of relationship means just this END. No looking back and trying to return the time.
2006-09-11 06:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if he has not showed any signs of changing by now he never will. He doesn't really care for you, he just keeps toying with you because he knows you will let him.
2006-09-11 06:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by smoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right on the dot, so i'm wondering what makes you stay, coz it's clear that he is so full of himself it's the only thing that is important. he's not showing enough responsibility in this relationship, so that most likely it will grow. it's about time you think for yourslef too and move on to somebody worthwhile of your love and care.
2006-09-11 18:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by paoui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋