My friend is trying to get me to go to her church and do the things she does and I don't want that to mess up our friendship, what do I do?
2006-09-11 06:16:39 · 12 answers · asked by sillygirl227 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just tell her you don't want to go.
2006-09-11 06:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Trinity♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might do a couple of things. First you might explore how she might react if you were to ask her to worship with you, or with anyone else who has a different faith than her own. It is often surprising that those who espouse their own faith the most are not very open when someone else does the same (with a different faith). I would say though that openess and honesty is always the best policy. Assuming you are certain that you are not interested in pursuiing or learning more about this faith, explain to your friend that you accept him or her for who he / she is and you would like him / her to do the same and accept you for who you are and respect the fact that you have chosen a different path, and you do not want your friendship to necessarily rest upon a common faith - you're not getting married afterall. If your friend cannot accept this, then you may have to end the relationship.
2006-09-11 13:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Strangerbarry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One solution is to go once as a matter of courtesy to the request. After that, you have the abililty to politely decline to go in the future if you do not wish to. If she is truly your friend, she will not let her desire to get you in church to get in the way of the friendship. Heck- ask her to pray for you while SHE is in church!
2006-09-11 13:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mike R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her honestly that you feel that religion is a personal choice and you are asking her to respect your choice and your firendship. Keep religion and your friendship separate. Talk about it by all means, but in any good realtionship - even friendship you can agree to disagree.
Good Luck!
2006-09-11 13:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her and respect her as a friend, but that if she feels the same about you then she'll let you live as YOU choose to live and not as SHE does. If she respects your decisions, this will be fine. If not, then she wasn't as good a friend as you thought she was.
2006-09-11 13:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN FRIENDS IS LIKE A SILK THREAD WE MUST TAKE CARE OF IT...IT DOESNT MATTER WHICH RELGION U BELONG.. IF SHE WANTS THAT U GO WITH HER IN CHURCH I DONT THINK SO IT WILL CREATE MESS OR ANYOTHERS IN UR FRIEND.. AND WAT SHE WANT U TO DO.. SERIUSLY IT WILL NOT CREATE ANY MESS... AFTER SHE IS UR FRIEND SHE NEVER THINK ANYTHING WRONG BOUT SO DO HER IT ANYTHING FOR FRIENDS HAPPINESS .... EVEN IT WILL SHOW HOW MUCH U ALSO LIKE or CARE HER...
2006-09-11 13:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by CUTI... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same with God He does force in worship and to do right she cannot force you to go to church. simple as that
2006-09-11 13:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Muslimah4Life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are not interested in going and doing those things, then tell her so - if she can't respect that, she's not your friend
2006-09-11 13:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her NO, accept me the way i am, or hit the road.
2006-09-11 13:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she your real friend she let it go
2006-09-11 13:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋