I RSVP'd for a friends baby shower, and was unable to make it. (Personal reason, regarding a family memer) I called her the next morning, and left her a voicemail becasue she didnt answer her phone. I gave her a brief description of why I was unable to make it, gave her my apologies, told her I hope she had a GREAT time, and also told her I did have her gift at my house. She never responded its been two weeks and when I did speak to her she acted as if she was mad, and she never returned my original phone call. Am I wrong or is she childish, how would you deal with it?
2006-09-11 06:05:53 · 9 answers · asked by peacfulwar 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It sounds like you did the right thing. IF you want, give her the present. If she don't straighten up soon after (and say thank you and send a thank you card), ditch her.
If you don't want to give her the present (you can re-gift/return) that's your call too. If she asks about it, tell the truth; you were offended at her attitude towards you regarding her shower; you did the right thing in letting her know in a timely manor, wishing that she had a great time, etc. If she couldn't return you call in a timely manor to ask how you and/or your family member was doing, much less to schedule a gift swap, then it's her fault; she doesn't deserve it.
2006-09-11 08:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by gingergirl4747 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's pregnant. That says a lot. Are you best friends? It would hurt my feelings if my best friend didn't show up, but if she had a really good excuse I would understand. With my baby showers, I didn't care who showed up as long as I got the gifts. Just figure out a way to make sure she gets your gift. If she still insists on being a victim, she has issues, don't take it personal.
2006-09-11 15:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Amy P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this but, you should have tried to contact her before the baby shower started or tried to contact her at the baby shower to let her know that you could not make it...No matter what the reason was. She is pregnant and emotions can run high but I would not call it childish, wait for her to call you and if she doesn't call you back there will always be more friends... next time try to let them know whats going on... just be honest with them, even if you forget and miss the next celebration
2006-09-11 13:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate that feeling! It sounds like you had an unexpected last-minute situation on your hands, and you did what you needed to do. You've apologized for having missed it, and I'd leave it at that where the apologies are concerned. She may need time to get over her disappointment, and that's out of your hands. If you can manage it, buy a gift or send the gift you have with a card with your best wishes. That's a response that, in my opinion, honours you and her/her family.
2006-09-11 13:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by semper 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She's being childish AND she's either pregnant or coming down off the pregnancy hormones. Be patient with her. Go ahead and give her a gift. Don't confront her or anything, and don't push it. Just be kind to her and wait for it to blow over. She probably wouldn't act that way if it weren't for all the hormones in her system. She'll come to her senses eventually and if she doesn't, she's done you a favor by blowing you off. No big loss.
2006-09-11 13:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels slighted, so her feelings are hurt. If you could have called her the day of the shower to warn her you would not be there it would have been better. Now she thinks you just blew her off. Make the effort to go to her with your gift. Spend time with her and let her know it was unaviodable. After that it's up to her. Give her a break though, she's pregnant. We tend to rely heavily on our friends in our times of need and get hurt easily.
2006-09-11 13:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would have been a nice gesture for you to have called the night of the shower so she wouldn't be expecting you. She should let it go though...stuff comes up.
2006-09-11 13:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont blame yourself, you had a valid reason for not making it.
She may well be away for a while. Is there anyone else you can contact about her.
2006-09-11 13:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by daisymay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lose your friend. She is an idiot.
2006-09-11 13:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋