My husband and I have 3 children ages 6, 4, and 3. Two of them are in school and we're both in this " I want another baby" phase. I will be 24 this month and he will be 28 in December. We both feel like we want another one but I still have doubts. We would have to start all over again. However, I feel if we don't have another one we will regret it in the future. I would love to be pregnant again and take care of a newborn but I feel like I would be cheating my youngest out of being the "baby" she has been for 3 years. Then again, I want another boy because I already have 2 daughters but then I feel I would be cheating him out of being my only boy. Decisions, decisions. I'm just curious what your opinion is?
2006-09-11 06:01:35 · 18 answers · asked by a.kranz 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm not asking for you to make the choice, just an honest opinion. We are financially secure and I don't want to wait much longer if we do have another one because at this rate if I have another with in two years I will be 45 by the time they are ALL 18 years old. I don't want to be any older than that when the graduate high school.
2006-09-11 06:09:03 · update #1
It's kind of weird for us also because we never really planned a child before. Our first child was some what planned but the other two were surprises.
2006-09-11 06:12:15 · update #2
Our opinion is irrelevant -- it's your choice. But since you asked..... If your marriage is strong and your home filled with love, and if you are financially and emotionally capable of raising 4 children, then go ahead.
2006-09-11 06:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one can make that decision for you and yuor husband. If you are financially able to take care of another child, and it will make the both of you happier- i say go for it.
Your youngest has had plenty of time to be the baby- if you have another, she will just have to adjust to being the "big sister", which is WAY more fun than being the baby! The thing to consider though about having another child is that you arent guaranteed another boy- it could just as well be a baby girl that you conceive.
You arent old by any means and you have plenty of time to add onto your growing family. Since it is a big decision, I say sit down and have a nice long conversation with your hubby. Just because you both are feeling the "needa baby" syndrome, doesnt necessarily mean it has to be done right now.
My opinion is if you want it- go for it! The more the merrier!
Good luck! :0)
2006-09-11 06:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this should definitely be a family decision, ask your children how they feel. Its a big decision for sure. I want more myself but its impractical because I am in college. I want to see what happens after college and after I get a really good job. But look at the economics of it as well (Can I afford more?). There is no right or wrong answer to this question. I think a lot of it is maternal instinct. If you miss having a baby to hold, maybe volunteering to help out a friend with their little one might ease the "missing having a baby to play with", I get that way a lot till it comes to that poopy diaper and then I hand her back to her dad with a big smile cause I know I dont have to change it. I love playing with my neighbors baby! :)
2006-09-11 06:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about your youngest. Nobody has a "right" to a chosen birth order. Were you cheating your first and second children out of being the "baby" when number 3 came along? And besides, it doesn't mean your other children won't be loved!
You should know from experience that it's impossible to be truly "ready" for a baby. So, if you have the capacity to love another child, and your finances can accomodate, and you both say you want a baby, go for it!
2006-09-11 06:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be happy with the three you already have. We have a population problem already!! I can't believe how many people these days have 4 or more children!! What kind of future do you expect for them? We do not live in a sustainable way, so it's all going to fall apart here sometime! You have no guarantee you will get another boy anyway. Somebody has to start thinking about the population explosion!! The strain on this earth is to much already!!!
2006-09-11 06:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you have a good 16 years of childbearing left in you. Take your time & wait until you're absolutely positive that the answer is yes. Your 3 yr old hasn't been asking for a new baby?
2006-09-11 06:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by M W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three and I am 33 years old. I just got my youngest into kindergarten. I wouldn't have anymore now. Its time to move forward and start my career and have fun with the ones I already have. I want to be able to traveling with them and enjoy life to the fullest.
Do you know how greatful you are have the three you have? Enjoy what God Gave you and focus on what you already have. Having another one will take more attention away from the three you have already. Its hard enough getting attention in a big family so why make it more difficult on them as it is.
I think your being Selfish. Its about them..Not you!
2006-09-11 06:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get over the baby thing and worry about taking care of the three that GOD blessed you with and make the most of yourself and your family. Participate in their schools, get a job or go to school. Empower yourself.
2006-09-11 06:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by ASALJA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you afford to put 4 kids through college? You are still young enough that you could wait a few years before having another baby.
2006-09-11 06:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you are still young and so is your husband take a little while to make your decision even talk with your kids also four children could be alot to take care of!!!! and make sure you are financally able
2006-09-11 06:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋