I have been friends with this girl online for a few months. We have become very close and we care a great deal about each other. We both are attracted to the the other's personality, but while I think she is physically attractive, she says that I am good looking but not pysically attractive. However, she alternates from thinking that physical attraction can develop over time if you are attracted to who someone is to being adamant in feeling that she never will be physically attracted to me (sometimes both).
In our time as friends we've talked about her situation with other guys. For the past month she has really liked this one guy at work, and she had been talking about him a lot (a couple hours/day). Within the past week she has stopped talking about him as much (she'll mention him for about a couple minutes/day) and she has started to call things that I do/say cute (which she equates to attractive). Do you think this means she is starting to develop a physical attraction for me?
2006-09-11 05:35:15 · 5 answers · asked by clarity_is_peace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this hurts, but I would not he hopeful about a relationship with her. It sounds like it didn't work out with this other guy, and now she is coming to you. Her heart doesn't sound like it is in the right place.
Yes, physical attraction can develop over time, but there has to be a spark for it to work. People can say that looks don't matter, but they do. The things I love most about my boyfriend are his caring personality, his ability to make me laugh, but I am not too shy to admit that he is hot! If you aren't physically attracted to someone, then you are not as inclined to show affection and intimacy. You want to kiss that person and show you love them in physical ways as well. So while the insides are what counts the most, there does have to be physical attraction.
Also, I would think it would be hard to "develop physical attraction" for someone over the internet- no offense. I am not saying internet relationships don't work, I have two friends who it did work out for) but you have photos to go off of- you don't see that person day to day, watching their face light up and stuff like that. Honestly, I would say keep the friendship with this girl, but don't expect anything to happen.
2006-09-11 05:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, you've been jerkin' each other's chain for a couple of months. Sounds like you've exchanged pics, and nobody is panting like a dog yet. She's playing with some dude at work, and talking to you to feed her ego, cuz you're so interested in her. Unless there's a face to face meeting coming soon.... this arrangement is nothing more than heavy breathing and masturbation. Find a real girl to wrap your arms around, and quit torturing yourself.
2006-09-11 05:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a tough situation- its hard to fall in love over the internet...and it will especially be hard to gain a physical attraction to someone who isn't even in person!
2006-09-11 06:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by BLoNdE22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
2006-09-11 05:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means she doesn't know what she wants, she only knows what she doesn't want
2006-09-11 05:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋