I just lost my partner of 25yrs a short time ago, and I wanted to know what would be an appropiate time frame to pass by before entering the dating scene again without having others judge your actions!!!
2006-09-11 05:17:24 · 8 answers · asked by "N"saysable 1iric 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like someone else said, people are always going to judge you. "It's only been six months.... or It's only been a year.." People love to stick their nose in other peoples affairs and try to impose their own standards on someone else.
It's totally up to you and how you feel. If you meet someone who you feel is someone you want to get to know better than I think you should pursue it. Your mate wouldn't want you to be alone for the rest of your days would he?
2006-09-11 05:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about how others look at it, do what is right for you. Give yourself time to heal and when you feel ready, take the plunge. Whether that be one year, five, or never. When my mom died, she and my dad had been married for 20 years, he waited a few years before he started dating. It just depends on you. Be warned, if you have children though, they might not be too thrilled with the idea of you dating. I know I wasn't and it took me about a year after they got married before I was really okay with it. Good luck!
2006-09-11 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say how very sorry I am to hear of your loss. My husband died 5 years ago so I can relate. I would say 1 to 2 years is appropriate in most cases, although that can vary from person to person. I don't think anyone has the right to judge you so do what feels right for you. If you are not ready your heart will tell you so.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-11 12:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam sorry for your lost. after 25 years of marriage i am truely sorry. the truth is sweetheart there is not time line. just when you feel ready there is not one that will every take the place of the love of your life and not one to take the 25 years you had with him those are yours and not he is gone keep the always in your heart. be dont be alone it a heard to go though life a lone be happy and as you may feel a little badly for bring some one else in your life dont be because iam sure your love of your life does not want you to be alone. just take your time and you will know when the time is right.
2006-09-11 12:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by heathermwarner19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No certain time limit. The sooner you get over your greiving ,the better. I went thu losing my spouce twice. lol Two different guys. The hurt can be so tramendest. Nobody has the right to judge your decision. Nobody can take your parners place. You will always have him in your heart,,,but it is time to move on with your new life without guilt
2006-09-11 12:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, people are going to judge you regardless of what you do. Listen to your heart and do what feels right to you. Only you hold the "time frame" in how long you should wait.
Good luck to you in what ever you decide.
2006-09-11 12:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. When the time is right for you. Are you ready now? Don't worry about what others say it's your life. If they confront you tell them how you feel. If your at ease with it all then do it. Who cares what people say! It's your life not theirs. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 12:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't
2006-09-11 13:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by what attitude? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋