2006-09-11 05:16:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If they ask for money in the shower invite then you probably should give it to them. Some people consider it tacky because its "rude and upfront" to ask for gifts at all.
But think about how it would be if you were really counting on putting a downpayment on a house from your shower money. And instead, you got a bunch of gifts that you really didnt want or need, and tried to return but only got store credit instead of cash back?
I dont think there is anything wrong with asking for money as long as you tell people what the money is for. :) Give them money!
2006-09-11 05:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Since I was a bride in June I can kind of understand. (money was very tight when you plan for a wedding (not that we pd for all of our wedding) but you are going to live together in a house now and maybe start a family and fix up a house. We wanted money because we were trying to fix up a house and we need some money for our honeymoon. If they need money then just get them money. Try to be a little more understanding of maybe why they might need some money. Money is a VERY COMMON wedding gift and a shower gift. One of our showers we did was a wishing well shower. What is was is we did a covered dish (it was thrown by our church) and we had a wishing well and people just put a card and money in the wishing well this was to help pay for our sofa and we had a picture of the sofa we wanted. We actually received so much we were able to purchase a couch and a love seat to help furnish our house. It is not as bad as it sounds.
2006-09-11 06:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who told you to give money? I think that's the bigger question.
The bride should be registered somewhere. Ask where and you can get a gift from there.
I, personally, never give money. I think it's kind of tacky, like putting a price on friendship or love.
That aside. Part of the fun of a bridal shower is seeing what the bride gets when the gifts are opened, and frankly it is no fun to see the bride open cards with money.
Get her a gift.
2006-09-11 05:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understanding that many people don't have a lot of wants or needs for "shower" gifts - I still am old fashioned enough to believe it is tacky to ask for or demand only money be given. It should be an option - if I know the couple is saving for a down payment for a home - I'd consider it - but if the money's to be used for their over the top wedding - no - learn to live within your means!
2006-09-11 05:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I was invited to a shower and TOLD to give anything I wouldn't go.
Of course, I wouldn't show up to a shower without a gift, but gift demands are just plain wrong- cash or otherwise. I'm not even real hip on registries unless it is for china/silver/crystal.
Tacky tacky tacky.
2006-09-11 07:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give whatever you want. They were probably just making a suggestion most likely because that's what they do. Ask some other people what they have given or seen given at bridal showers.
2006-09-11 06:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by what attitude? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are only 3 types of parties where the hosts can require (or even imply that they expect) gifts -- fundraisers, showers, and small children's birthday parties. Excepting the fundraiser, it is over the line to dictate the nature of the gift. I'd decline this invitation; these boors will probably attempt to shake you down for further funds, perhaps even send you a bill for the cake and punch you consume.
2006-09-11 07:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how well you know the bride. Is she the kind who would request something like that for selfish reasons, or are they struggling to put the wedding together and, perhaps purchase a home or something of that nature where you know your money is going to something necessary? If in doubt, ask the bride. Maybe if you told her you'd rather get her a gift card or a practical gift, she might be apt to tell you the reason money was requested. Good Luck.
2006-09-11 05:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If all that the bride and groom want is money than yes it is right. Some people don't need anything and just would like money.
2006-09-11 06:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, this is NOt acceptable, they are being totally greedy and RUDE. I would decline to attend if I were you.
2006-09-13 11:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋