i have son of two and half yrs old.he has got a habit of crying always.even at nights all of a sudden he started crying.we both are pissed off.before he didnt have this habit and last six months only started this .since getting up from bed he starts and whenever he doesnt get something and i m asking him to go to bathroom or whtever crying starts.plz help me out .
2006-09-11 04:58:21 · 16 answers · asked by kc 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have son of two and half yrs old.he has got a habit of crying always.even at nights all of a sudden he started crying.we both are pissed off.before he didnt have this habit and last six months only started this .since getting up from bed he starts and whenever he doesnt get something and i m asking him to go to bathroom or whtever crying starts.the major prob is he cant speak except a few words.and when i ask him "tell me wht do u want or wht happened?"i dont understand as he doesnt speak clearly.first i used to hit him.but that didnt work as well.plz help me out .
2006-09-11 06:15:00 · update #1
I have a two and a half year old son too. And beleive me he is just the same. He cries for everything he wants and does not want. He will start crying first and then ask for it. Here's what I do or am trying to do, it does not always make him stop, but helps . . .
a) I try and talk him into something else. Divert his mind to something else which interests him, make him curious about something. This usually makes him forget why he was crying.
b) I start crying with him, sometimes effective. He then tries to hug me and tell me to stop crying.
c) ignore him by singing his favorite song/rhyme for a while
d) Try and make him laugh - tickling him, making funny noises/faces. It works, trust me.
Try these and when he is calm, give him a reward and explain crying does not help at all.
2006-09-11 09:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by chatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am utterly shocked and horrified at some of the answers on this page...."a belt will take care of it"? Are you out of your goddamn minds? The kid is just going through a phase that ALL kids go through. Hell, I cried for years for no reason. Everyone has their emotional highs and lows and you just have to love him, make him feel loved and secure and eventually the crying will stop.
In other words, be a loving parent. Don't be "pissed off" and callous and beat the kid. I guarantee beating him will just make him worse, mentally. In a year or so, if it doesn't stop, go to your doctor and ask to be referred to a child therapist who can talk to your child and see if there is any underlying problems that need fixed.
2006-09-11 06:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cardinal Richelieu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After checking and making sure there's nothing wrong with him, let him cry. If you can stop him from crying by giving him attention, then do just the opposite. He'll eventually cry himself out.
If he doesn't stop crying, though, you might want to take him to his pediatrician. Maybe there's a medical reason he's been crying so much. Might want to do that as a precaution.
2006-09-11 07:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by CruelChick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is frustrating, try to calmly ask him what is wrong, why he is crying, or what he wants. My daughter of 2 years recently started this as well and I find when I am calm and ask her what is wrong, even though nothing usually is wrong, she stops crying. It may be a form of attention seeking or frustration at not being able to accurately voice his feelings. Just keep working with him and soothing him and it should pass. Or at least that is what I am trying to convince myself of.
2006-09-11 05:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when kids start new habits--it's fun to find ways to help them get over it.
When my nephew started crying for everything, we started crying WITH him, or crying spontaneously when he asked a question or wanted something. Of course, we couldn't help him while WE were crying--so he stopped in order to comfort us!
A few days of crying fests cured him altogether of using crying as a communication and manipulation techniques.
2006-09-11 06:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a visit to the pediatrician rules out other causes,he is engaging in a terrible twos power struggle.As much restraint as this takes,ignore him,walk away.No response over time will subdue this brattish behavior,GOODLUCK
2006-09-11 05:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you won't respond to his cries anymore. (He understands). Tell him the only way he'll get what he wants is by telling you nicely what he wants, no crying. If he cries, you just have to tell him, "no crying, tell me nicely". If he continues, you have to ignore him and be firm. If you give in, he will never change. This will take some time, but it will work.
2006-09-11 05:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you are just going to have to let him cry and NOT give in to what he wants. It will suck for the duration of the fit but the fits will lessen and finally he will figure out he isn't going to get his way every time he cries. Eventually they will stop. It's hard but worth it.
2006-09-11 05:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant give into him when he crys. I know that is hard because it is much easier to give in so you dont have to listen to the crying. But if you give in that just shows him if he crys about something he will get his way. Be firm, but dont get angry. Not to be rude but its probably your fault that he does that. You have taught him if he crys you will give in.
2006-09-11 06:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by mommylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more attention he gets from crying, the more he is going to do it. He knows he can get a reaction from you. Kids want so much attention!
2006-09-11 05:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by XiE18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋