Now dont get me wrong. I love my boyfriend, this feeling of unhappiness has absolutly nothing 2 do w/ him. But there R those times when I forget how special he makes me feel & I blaim whatever I'm going through on him, of course he never knows i'm angry w/ him, because I don't express it verbally & I only give slight hints that I am. But he never catches on, which is good.
Anyways, the trouble isn't even him. It's me, it's like i'm going through an emotional rollercoaster ride all by myself & I'm terrified of rollercoaster(seriously, I am) & it's like the most tinest things he does, sets me off on the inside, sometimes causing me to forget how much I love him, & how much I know he loves me.
I think I'm going through a depression, but i'm not really sure. sometimes I just wake up unhappy & sometimes throughout the day i just find reasons 2 get mad @ the world. I know a huge part of it has to do w/ not going to school this fall, but is there some other reason why I may feel this way?
2006-09-11 04:49:11 · 29 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, as far as your anger issues the only person that can answer what you're mad about is you. As far as your boyfriend, if you love him then treat him like it. Would you want him blowing up at you with no warning? I didnt think so. Treat him the same way you want to be treated and things should be fine. Its good that you know when you get in your moods but you need to either try and correct the issue or seek help from a professional [therapist], if you're comfortable with that.
The issue with you using the word depression is slightly troubling, many people have been misdiagnosed with it and that might not even be the issue, try not to embrace that label so readily. You said something about not going to school this fall. Perhaps, you are a habitual person and need habits to make you happy... losing school could be a good reason why you are angry and uncomfortable. Take a step back and REALLY think about why you're angry then you will get your answer, if you get your answer then you should get closer to your solution. Think of how to rememdy the problem instead of exasperating it.
You may think hes not catching on but I can assure you that he is and is affected by it. If you two love eachother then you might be able to work through it together. Explain to him whats going on after you [by yourself] have figured out what the problem is and give him the option of staying by your side. Its unfair to him to have to walk on eggshells because you're having issues that you wont explain to him.
Good Luck. Contact me if needed.
2006-09-11 04:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you expect him to do about it? Get a grip girl. Depression is a serious mental problem, do you really want to label yourself as this type of person? If you are mental unstable, cut yourself loose, get medical help and leave him in peace. So decide; are you really clinically depressed or are you just going through a rough time because as humans, most of do not go changes very well. Take a deep breath and take one day at a time, do the best you can and stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Believe me things could be a lot worse than starting school.
2006-09-11 11:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can't read minds... even most women can't!
I'd suggest talking to some friends about this and if it doesn't go away, talk to a doctor of psychiatrist. Non-situational depression can be very serious... May I suggest exercise? That may sound dumb, but I was in a depression study at Duke and working out 3 days per week at about 20 or 30 minutes a pop really helped me out without taking medications.
You could write your thoughts down in a letter or e-mail and give it to your boyfriend to let him know what's going on and that you're going through a tough time. I hope he's supportive during this time. Good luck!
2006-09-11 11:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say figure out why you are feeling angry. You might be depressed it happens to the best of us. And i just say tell your boyfriend. If he loves you as much as you love him he will understand and be there for you. That is what a significant other is there for; someone to talk to when we need someone to talk to. And yea that does sound like depression to me but i am not doctor so i could be wrong. But i know i have felt like that in the past. You are just sad for what you feel to be no reason at all or do not know why you feel so down. Yea i just say talk to him. I told my fiance when i felt low that i was depressed and sad.
2006-09-11 11:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend how you feel, if you really care about him and he cares about you, both of you may be able to work it out together. maybe he has been having some of these feelings too. This will grow bigger and bigger untill you get it out in the open, and since you're getting mad for no apparent reason, you may react in a way that will make every thing worse. Get it took care of right now. OK? May God bless you.
2006-09-11 12:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jeannie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you love him? Or do you feel an obligation to him? Because I went through something similar with my now exboyfriend. As soon as we broke up, its like a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders. No more depression, no more snapping at people, just an overall happiness came back to me. If this is not the situation, maybe you just have an electrolyte imbalance. this could cause depression and irritablility.
2006-09-11 11:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by kay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the rest. Just tell him exactly how you feel. Communication is a very important part of relationships. You have to be able to be able to express yourself even if it's not what the other person wants to hear. I would be horrible to leave every bottled up inside you and just flip out one day.
2006-09-11 11:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate Kisses 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, talk to him about this. It might be hard, but I think it will be worth it. If you love him, he can be by your side, understand what's going on and give you support. We men are not that good observers of human emotions, and if you don't tell him you're angry, or why you're angry, it's more likely he won't know.
Good luck!
2006-09-11 11:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Roberto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't u ask him out n go to the place where most of ur happy moments are.tell him how u miss him or tell him exactly how u've been feeling all this while.guys tend to ignore all this details...they jus need us to tell them off...me used to b in ur situation 2. learn to express each other feelings more by saying out rather than keeping to urself.
2006-09-11 12:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mama_Lee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i use to feel this way and treat my ex like that occasionally as well...for me though, it was my birth control pills setting my hormones out of wack....i switched pills and feel like my old self again!:) if you can't express it verbally....write him a letter...he should know what you are feeling right now...so he doens't think it's something he did. he;'s suppose to be your best freind too...you should be able to tell him everything...i know it's not always easy, especially when you can't explain it to yourself..let alone anoter person. do the best you can though.
2006-09-11 11:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋