Do you (or would you) spank your child? Why or why not?

Question

I do not have kids, so I really can't answer this, but I personally believe I would and my husband feels the same way. Both of us were spanked as children and turned out to be successful adults who never got in trouble @ school or with the law, etc. I think too many children don't get spanked now days and thats why they have so many problems. My nieces/nephews are never spanked and they act terrible all the time. Spare the rod, spoil the child....

Answer 1

I have a 3 year old son. He gets spanked from time to time. I also feel that too many kids these days are not spanked and now there are too many problems with them. Both my husband & I were spanked as kids and we are well adjusted and educated adults that never got in trouble. I will spank my child if I feel he needs it. He will always get at least 1 warning before he gets spanked. He will grow up into a healthy adult.

Answer 2

As far as spare the rod spoil the child goes, there's more than one meaning to that saying, however I do spank my kids and always have. A good honest to goodness, controlled, proper spanking is something that keeps order right at the top of the scale in my home.

When I march one of my kids into the bathroom for a spanking, they know it's not going to be just one or two smacks on the butt. A spanking in my books is 15 to 20 good and hard, well meant spanks on a bottom. After my kids get one of those, they don't dare step out of line again for a while, because they know there's another waiting if they do.

I can't stand a parent administering a namby-pamby spanking on a child.

Answer 3

I am a 26 year old mother of 3 boys ages 6,4 & 2 1/2. I certainly spank my boys. I feel that if I don't show them some kind of disipline they will show me something in the future. No, I don't go and spank them for every little thing they do. My oldest one now gets less spankings. I now try to take things that he likes cause i have found that he hates that more than a spanking. I do have members in my family that don't spank their kids and it is a big different as far as respect that my kids have that their kids don't have. I got spanked when I was a child but kids these days aren't like I was, they are worse....grown... and i must admit some are so spoiled...Some comes from mothers only being children themselves having kid. (Kids having Kids)

Answer 4

It depends on the child and what they're doing. Some children will straighten right up if a parent raises their voice to them. For others, time-outs are very effective. But there comes a point where I believe spanking is necessary, and that's when you're dealing with a child that is too young to understand reason (READ: Under age 8) and the child is throwing a tantrum or tells a parent "No." Children need to learn that they are not the bosses of the household -- Mom and Dad are, and they also need to learn that screaming and throwing a fit when they don't get what they want is NEVER acceptable behavior.

Answer 5

I belive children need discipline, and you have to find what works with your child. Every child is diffent and they also change as they get older. I was spanked as a child. However I dont spank my son very often. He gets put in time out and he gets toys taken away from him for misbehaving. If he does something really bad or keeps doing it over and over and nothing else seems to work he will get a spanking. I dont belive you should spank you child over every little thing. I also think if you spank your child all the time it will make them more violent and more likely to hit other kids when they are upset. Every person to their own, I guess

Answer 6

First off, don't blame the lack of spanking for the current state of our children. Children that have no respect, manners, or social abilities are not the result of being "spared the rod" but rather of our inadequacies as parents. Parents are not involved in their children's lives. We use anything we can to not have to listen or interact with our children. Children never need to be spanked if they have correct discipline and respect from the moment they are born. Adults don't spank other adults for messing up because it would show a lack of respect, do our children deserve any less respect??
I was spanked for the first few years of my life, until my mother did some research into the psychology of spanking. She said she always felt worse about spanking me than it ever made me feel. After that, our household started the positive reinforcement/time-out idea to living. I never feared my parents, yet still respected them so much that I would go to time-out, even knowing that if I didn't, they really couldn't make me stay there. It gave us all a moment to calm down and think about the situation.

Maybe spanking or not spanking doesn't cause a difference so much in the success of the individual (jobs, delinquency, etc.), but rather the true success of the parent-child bond and all further relationships. I have a closeness and honesty with both my parents that I have yet to see in any child that was spanked throughout their childhood.

Answer 7

I would try reason first and then the rod.
I watch my brothers kids run circles around him and his girlfriend. When I was young, I would never have spoken or behaved the way they do. A look from my mom from across the room would freeze me midstep on the way to misadventure. I have no hard feelings and I am a responsible adult. I believe there should be consequences for bad behavior. I don't understand why parents today would rather let the kid get away with it than to go to the trouble of correcting the behavior. It just makes their job harder in the future. The "Naughty Corner" loses it's power after the first visit.

Answer 8

Yes I spank my children. But not for something stupid, if they're back talking or if they're repeatedly not listening to me then I ground them and ground them harshly. They usually have to write lines or lose TV or something that they absolutely love for the rest of that day and well into the next. Our school does not have corporal punishment and I completely disagree with that. If these spoiled brats that go to school now had some kind of threat there then maybe they wouldn't be as bad as they are, but I think it starts at home. If the child knows that what's coming is going to be 100 times worse then what they're getting then they would straighten up. I know for a fact because I've gone through it with my son. "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." Proverbs 13:24. Think of what other things this verse could mean before reciting it.

Answer 9

I have spanked my child before but I'm trying to steer away from that.I asked my Dad the other day if he remembers being spanked.He has 22 brothers and sisters.anyway he said his dad only spanked him 2wice in his whole lifetime and he turned out to be a great,wise man.I guess I'll just carefully choose my battles

Answer 10

I'm afraid that DCF will knock at my door. I've known this to happen after kids got a spanking and told the teacher at school Mommy or Daddy hit them. The teacher in turn called DCF simply because they are required to when a child says that.