For Parents of teenagers ONLY?

Question

At what age willl you let your teenage daughter date and what are your main concerns? Serious answers only, please and thank you.

Answer 1

As a parent of a 16 year old boy who had dated at 15 year old girl... if I had a daughter, she wouldn't be "dating" unless I were absolutely certain she was going to be with a group of people. Do NOT leave your teenaged daughter alone ever with a boy. Girls and boys at that age are horny. Period. Boys, once they get started, are difficult to stop -- it's difficult for them to stop the physical reactions they're experiencing.

No matter what -- teach your daughter to respect herself AND THE BOY. She needs to know that it's not fair to her or the boy to start something because boys are very hormonal and physically driven, particularly at that age.

No dating without other friends around until they are old enough to take on the full responsibility of their actions. They can date, just not alone. Or - let them hang out at your house in the living room with all of the lights on. Sure - they'll still find places to hide away, but you don't have to make it easy for them. Don't restrict her from seeing her boyfriend, because that will just cause more rebellion. Set fair parameters and talk openly about sex and responsibility.

Answer 2

I have a fifteen year old son that is involved with a girl his age who can not go anywhere without a chaperone. I respect this, my son respects this . There is nothing wrong with protecting your daughter. I wish my parents had not been so liberal. I feel like some of my friends were loved more because their parents said no. If there is a really important event that they want to attend together.. let them go... with a chaperone. Big sister, aunt hire a college student... who cares.. just make sure your daughter never has to make that decision on her own before she wants to. Everybody always needs a bad guy , so they can say...." I can't. I will be in trouble... They won't let me... " If a kid has no bad guy then they are forced to explain why they don't want to do something and they might not even understand why yet! So the answer would be when the individual child is ready.

Answer 3

I'm not a parent, but I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16. By that time, I felt like I lost my chances with my peers. I ended up dating a different guy every week when I was 18, though.

My suggestions would be to only let her date in public places... date rape is far too common, even in teens! Some times I felt like I was the only virgin left in school... make sure she knows the consequences of her possible actions. I'd say let her date when she can be the one to drive... so she can leave a bad situation should she need to. A mobile phone is essential. I didn't have one while I was dating and had to use my date's or a pay phone (those are impossible to find nowadays... luckily movie theatres still tend to have 'em) to call my parents to pick me up.

Answer 4

Probably 15 or 16. My main concerns are what all parents worry about, but I hope that I am raising a daughter that can make her own decisions, the right ones, and feels comfortable coming to me when she has a question or needs help.

Answer 5

Well as far as an age I am not sure, I would say 15, but details have to be exact, location everything,
I would have a trust with my daughter/son and always have an open relationship, concerns are obvious, sex, drugs, alcohol, I would want to meet the person, first impression is important, i wouldn't just say no you can't, i would have to meet him/her and give my kid a chance and see where they went with it and go from there

Answer 6

Wow, I can't believe people are saying 13 and 14. My daughter is 13 and I don't let her date. I think a good age is 16. Kids are starting to do things way too early as it is. Babies are having babies!! Why put a kid in that situation before they are ready.

Answer 7

My oldest is 15 and she's been on a couple of dates already; the character of the boy in question is the main concern. If he's polite and respectful, we have no problem with it; it's finding one who meets those criteria at that age that's the hard part.

Answer 8

I don't have a daughter but instead a 15 year old son and honestly,I don't want him dating until he's out of highschool. I remember daing this one guy in highschool who broke my heart badly and it really messed up my schoolwork and home life because I just couldn't think about anything else and it took me a very long time to recover. I don't want my son having that burden of (falling in love) so I just discourage it and so far it's working well. I tell him there is plenty of time for girls later once he's got his life figured out. Highschool love is just too emotional especially when your heart gets broken.

Answer 9

they become an adult when they reach 18 (that's the right age anyway). although it doesn't mean they've grown.
my main concern with my 3 children is getting sexually abused. i pray to God everyday nothing like that will happen to any of them because they can not control that. as for dating and doing "it", i would just advice them to stay safe (number one because there's all kinds of stds everywhere. i would teach them that too) and to make sure they won't regret it, and would they be proud of it and carry that memory until they grow old. teach them respect to themselves and dignity. they need to know the ups and downs and they need to hear it not only from their friends. they need to know they can say NO if they're not ready and not to be afraid to say it. be friends with your children, they might open up to you and ask your advice along the way.
goodluck.
remember, strictly 18... they won't regret waiting until 18 when they get old, they'll realize that. and they will know their mom cares and loves about them for leading them to the right direction.

Answer 10

she was allowed to date at 14, but had to be home by 9pm and had to keep her cell on at all times.