my husband is only home 1 day out of the week (and sleeps half of that day). im a stay at home mother of a 1yr old and a 2 1/2 yr old. we live in an apt. its really hard for me to take the dog out to pee. the dog poops in the kids rm all the time. the dog dont listen to comands, and my husband has never taken him to the vet. im the only one who feeds him and baths him. my husband has told me for 2 yrs now i promise ill take better care of him but never does. huby wont let me find a good home for dog. is it wrong for me to get rid of the dog behind his back?
2006-09-11 04:30:43 · 24 answers · asked by eyth 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Don't do it behind his back. Tell him that taking care of the dog is time-consuming and you have your hands full with the kids. Try to reason with him and if that doesn't work find the home for the dog, call hubby and tell him you are giving the dog to the new owners.
2006-09-11 04:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one day that he is home. Wake him up very early to walk the dog. When he goes back to bed 2hrs later wake him back up to walk the dog. If he doesn't get up or complains about him then tell him you will be calling a dog rescue group that coming week so someone can find a home for him. The poor pooch needs someone to exercise him and take him on long walks. You are doing a disservice to the poor thing. You hating the dog is wrong you should be hating your husbands irresponsible ways. You are not going to be able to take care of the dog anyway you don't want to or can't. Don't take it out on the dog he deserve better from humans. Did he asked to come live with you? Alright then. Someone has to take responsibility for this situation and it sounds like you'll the only adult in the house. Good Luck
2006-09-11 05:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks. I don't know how forceful with your husband you've been in the past but it's time to lay down the law, and in no uncertain terms. Tell him you can't handle having this stupid dog around when you have so much work to do, especially when you don't even like the dog so there's no reward in it for you, just frustration and more work. Apparently he doesn't even like the dog that much either if he doesn't even care to train or care for it or spend any time with it. I would definitely not give it away behind his back, but maybe discretely look for some possible homes for the dog without telling him. Then when you sit down and make him listen to all the trouble this dog that's not even yours causes you, tell him he doesn't even have to worry about it, you've already found a solution to the problem, you just wanted to clear it with him first. BUT if he puts up a fuss, saying he won't get rid of the dog, tell him he has to figure out some other way than leaving it with you, like bringing it to work with him, doggy day care, etc., because you WON'T DO THIS ANYMORE. Or maybe at the VERY least he has to promise to go to training classes with it. He has to give up SOMETHING here.
2006-09-11 04:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by heehaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong to get rid him behind his back. However, I also think it's wrong for hubby to leave you with the responsibility of the dog when you have other priorities (like your children.) Maybe you should discuss with your husband and tell him how you feel about this. Is there a way your husband can take the dog with him the rest of the week, since he is only home once a week?
2006-09-11 04:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it's wrong to get rid of the dog behind your husband's back! Marriage is all about communication and you have to TALK to your husband about the situation. If it's really a big problem you need to sit down with your husband and REALLY talk about what you need to do. Ask your husband if he really wants the dog to suffer (by not taking him to the vet, and the dog not getting proper care) or if he wants you to be happy too. It's all about compromise, but I would definitely talk to him first!
2006-09-11 04:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its wrong to get rid of him(the dog, of course) w/o your husband knowing. Butforcing you to care for this dog while you have 2 little ones isnt fair either. I would suggest warning him. If he doesnt take better care of the dog, then hes gonna have to go. Tell him he is being unfair and you simply dont have time to properly care for the dog.
2006-09-11 04:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the dog to a good home and good luck getting in selling your husband behind the dogs back :) Have a good day :)
2006-09-11 04:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Zenas Walter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should take care of him but he doesn't. Poor dog and poor you. If you can find a better home for the dog, do it and make it understandable to your husband that it is the best option, for everybody. Don't do it behind his back, though.
2006-09-11 04:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Avatar13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should get rid of both of them. You can call the RSPCA tell them the owner of the dog doesn't take care of it and you can't manage either, that way they'll talk to your husband and take the dog to a new home if they need to
2006-09-11 04:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Amy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing so will result in problems in your relationship down the road. While it is not right for you to be stuck with the responsibility, neither is it fair to get rid of the dog behind his back.
Dogs have an uncanny sense in knowing who likes them and who doesn't. If you tried being more relaxed with the dog, pet him, he should start to co-operate with you better.
Talk with hubby, tell him it's the dog or him, but one of them have to go !
2006-09-11 05:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋