Okay, I was seeing this guy for 2 months then he breaks up with me because he said that things were moving to fast and he wasn't ready to make that commitment with just one person. He also said that he didn't think that we were made for each other. Even though he said i was perfect and he couldn't ever imagine fighting with me. We still talk on the phone all the time and go out. While we are out he plays with my hair and finds every excuse to touch me in any way possible. Yet, he doesn't kiss me goodnight. He isn't seeing anyone else either, this I do know for sure. He said when we were dating that I never got on his nerves either. Also, he just recently told me not to cut my hair and let it grow cause its so pretty. I mean, what would you think?
2006-09-11 04:26:27 · 17 answers · asked by kay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honesty
go with the flow
do not talk about relationship
do not add any pressure to him
and watch the relationship blossom n uguys will get closer
hold ur self from asking him to commit to u
just enjoy each other time and watch him realize what he has and watch him come to u
good luck
2006-09-11 04:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little confused to me. But you cant wait around forever until he decides what he wants to do. What I would do is continue to be friends with him, but do your own thing as well. Go out and date, meet new people. Do not make yourself always available to his guy every time he asks. Come on now. He broke up with you, said he cant be commited, but yet you go out with him still and flirt with him back. Of course he wants his cake and eat it to if he can. Let him know you have a life beside him and see how he feels about it.
Maybe what he needs(is a kick in the a** lol) to realize is that you wont always be there waiting for him and it will give him a wake up call. Either that or he will just go his separate way, but either way you will find out.
2006-09-11 11:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jsst don't move too fast. Don't try to be sexy for him, don't do things for him, have your friends, show a little independence, but let him call you on the phone and out. Don't try to kiss him goodnight. But do say some provokative general things here and there, in order to get his attention on your tenderness etc. --women "properties" that makes men protective.
2006-09-11 12:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some sort of commitment issues. He may just be scared, and maybe he really is gay. Maybe there are underlying issues in his familyor his past that you don't know about. If you want to take the time to get to know him you might figure this out and eventually help hi with the issues.
2006-09-11 11:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has issues. He obviously likes you, but something holds him back. If he is a good friend, ask him. Tell him he doesn't have to talk about it, but you are interested. If he tells you, then you know what you are up against. If he doesn't, move on until he is ready. Sometimes just the act of you moving on will spur him to action.
2006-09-11 11:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Homer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? What are you waiting for? It seems like he'll get you all wrapped up in his own confusion. Stay clear from him, stay friends. Don't allow him to get any closer to you, because then you'll be setting yourself up for failure. You sound young. Stay clear from relationships then, because this seems too easy to confuse you. Don't bother with him. I don't think you're sure about what you want. And don't forget, there's many men out there. Make sure you don't end up w/some boy.
2006-09-11 11:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by ControVerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront him with your confusion. Tell him that he's sending you mixed messages. Then tell him that if he's still interested, then you'd be happy to be a couple. But, if he still feels like he just wants to be friends, then move on. Tell him you want to start seeing other people. Maybe if he knows he'll lose you, he'll step up. Good luck
2006-09-11 11:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by CrissKross 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a nice guy, but you need to get on with your life. You need to see and date other guys and if he is OK with that then you have no problems. If he is not OK and expresses himself to that extent, then you need to have a heart ot heart talk with him about where you stand with him. Some guys just like to be seen with nice women, and never really intend to get serious.
2006-09-11 11:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's gay or just a seriously vicarious metro sexual who likes you a sa friend or person! If you like it then I love it why kill something prematurely wait it out and let things blossom a bit! Good Luck!
2006-09-11 11:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's gay, or at least bisexual, and that's why he is having trouble with commitment. I'd having a cooling off for two months - no dates, calls, contact. See if you both are still INTERESTED after two months.
2006-09-11 11:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋