feel like it has meaning? I don't have kids and I feel like my life is pretty much the same thing day after day. And people who have kids do seem happier in life.
2006-09-11 04:19:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's hard to explain, but my son was born when I was 22 and I had just reenlisted in the Air Force. During my first 4 years, I wasn't very focused or serious about my career. After he was born, I just turned it all around. I gave up a lot of bad, unhealthy habits and started earning promotions, taking classes to work on a degree...
Today, I retired from active duty after 21 years, have three college degrees and working on a Masters, I work for a nationally known university; and I give my children the majority of the credit because they provided the drive and motivation in me to want to better provide for them.
They've given my life meaning, direction, LOVE, focus, commitment... I thank my God everyday for my children as I would not be the same man I am today without them.
2006-09-11 04:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having kids will completely change your life!! They are a wonderful blessing from God. We were put on this earth the create life, that is why we feel so much better when we have kids. It is our responsibility and duty. Aside from the spiritual side of it, there is nothing greater than a new born sleeping in your arms, that first smile, the hug and kisses for nothing, the feeling of knowing that little life needs you for everything!!
Trust me when I say your life will never be the same day after day when there a children running around. I can imagine what my life would be like without kids. Sure I would have more money and more material things, but they do not matter, you can't take them with you when you die. But you can still be with your family after you die, and for eternity. But I would never trade what I have now with kids for what I could have without them. The riches and blessings of children far out weighs anything else you can have in life!!!
but don't get me wrong, they are a lot of work and they test your patience on a daily basis. Somedays are very frustrating, but the good far out weighs the bad.
2006-09-11 04:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having kids CHANGES your life. If you intend to be a good parent, that is. My son just turned 15 on the 7th and I have been watching my "best friend" pull away from me for a few years now. It is hard on both of us to grow. Having a child teaches you things you will never learn without doing this. It is the slap to your for head of.."that's why they did that!". You have to make the decision yourself in life as to how much you want to learn and of what. If understanding WHY is a request you have made to the universe then there is no other way for you to learn unless you have a child.. Believe me I was the last person anyone thought to be a mom and I did commit to changing my life for this child I have pretty much raised single handed. I have done a great job and learned far more than I ever thought and have grown to respect my parents , grandparents and other parents more by the experience. Happier? Oh no.... Ignorance is the Bliss. But Ignorance gets you no closer to learning what we must learn to prepare us for eternity and the jobs waiting for us there.
2006-09-11 04:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by goneblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way... if raising kids were unpleasant, or even just boring and didn't make you feel better about life, the human race would come to an end fairly quickly - nobody would be motivated to have kids.
So, there's a rational explanation for why most people would report feeling happier having kids, even though what they are reporting is subjective opinion.
My personal experience is that it's so deeply rewarding, that I've given up a lot of other things to have more time to raise my son.
It's like having a chance to experience your own childhood again, but with the added knowledge of an adult. I also feel like I get a 'second chance' to do things differently, and not make the same mistakes my parents made in raising me... but also, to reflect on what it might have been like from your parent's point of view as they tried to raise you.
In my case, I grew up very angry at my dad for ignoring us.
So, I became very close to my own son.
After years of observing us, my dad started to realize that maybe he missed out on something, and started warming up to us and his grandkids.
But also, I began asking myself (in my 40's!) how I'd like it if
my son treated me the way I treated MY dad. And I resolved to
be nicer to my dad, no matter what.
Things got better all around. All due to a child. Who has no idea what effect he's had...
2006-09-11 04:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mark P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having kids certainly changes everything, especially the way you feel or react to things. I don't know that I'm any happier then someone without kids though. Its an individual choice. For me , I'm happier now that I have my daughter(most of the time anyway..lol). I honestly think though if you feel like life has no real meaning, having a kid won't fix it!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 09:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think life is what you make it. I have a 14 month old daughter, her father and I are together and since having her, life has honestly seemed better. But you need to live life to the fullest with or without kids. Someone mentioned about knowing some ppl who have kids and are frustrated , we take our daughter every where and I couldn't imagine vacationing with out her! I think it depends on who you are as a person and maybe what you enjoy in life!
2006-09-11 04:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by o0xmmx0o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are great! but there are times when it drives you crazy! one word of advice...Have kids before you are 35! i am 43 and i have a 10 yr old and a 18 month old and I really love it. it's just that i wish i could have had my kids when i was young. Just like everything else...there are happy times and unhappy times..so yeah I would say..it's wonderful to have kids. but you have to sacrifice a lot, be patient, be involved in their lives by participating. Children can cause a lot of stress and joy, put a damper in your love life and a lot of other things...so think about all that before you want to have kids..are you the type that can be patient, tolerant and give up the single life you have now?
2006-09-11 04:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having someone who is totally dependent on you and that you can love unconditionally definitely gives life meaning.
But that doesn't mean you should go out and have kids right away. I'd try to find something that makes your life have meaning first. You don't want to be a parent that has nothing in life but her kids. That can't be fun
2006-09-11 04:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the day I had kids .. it really put a lot of meaning into it for me. To me .. little things count so much more. Treasure all the little moments you get, plus they grow up so fast. Sometimes it feels like a blink of a eye.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-11 04:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Father of 5, yes there is a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Being sigle makes you independent, whatever happens only happens and effects you. Having kids changes all that, everything you do affects you child or children. But having them is not the answer, the answer is finding what makes you happy and doing it. I wanted kids so I had them.
2006-09-11 04:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by asajous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋