Today is my birthday and my grandmother died this morning. Right now I don't even care about my birthday. I am really hurting today becasue she meant the world to me and my birthdays will never been the same. Sorry if this sounded weired but I am having so many mixed emotions right now.
2006-09-11 04:04:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh! How sad! I'm so sorry for you! It really sucks when things like that happen. You're grandma didn't intentionally go on your b-day so you have to look at it like it was just her time and unfortunately it just happened to be on your b-day. I think you should still celebrate your b-day because your grandma would want you to but I think it should be done once things with grandma are settled and the family is getting back into their regular routines, and next year and so on it should be celebrated the day before or the day after your original b-day so your original b-day can be a remembrance for grandma. Maybe visit the cemetary on that day.I'm so sorry for your loss!
2006-09-11 04:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you lost your grandma, and on your birthday too. I lost my grandma who raised me and I never found anyone who came close to taking her place in my life or in my heart.
It's sad that it happened on your birthday, but think of it this way, every year as you celebrate your birthday, celebrate the love your grandma and you shared too. As you get older and the years and decades go by, what is pain right now will be comfort in those years, because you will always remember on the day of your birth how much your grandma loved you in this life and she will always be with you, especially on your birthday.
So embrace this day and spend it remembering how much your grandmother meant to you. It's just a birthday. You will have many more. Some things in life are bittersweet. I hope your friends still visit, maybe not today but soon, and bring you presents! :~)
2006-09-11 11:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when my grandmother died. She lived with us and was like a second mom to me. I miss her terribly. But trust me, it gets easier to cope as time goes by. You will remember her with a smile on your face sooner than you think.
And that is a good thing. I promise.
And to celebrate a birth on the anniversary of a death is a good thing to do. It is like an exchange. And think of how happy your grandmother was the day you were born. Now she shares a sort of "bond" with you on this day. Think positive about it and it will be ok...
2006-09-11 11:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by chattykatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a reason to be sad..
Cry your heart out,, don't be ashamed,, that is the only way to get off that bad feelings, and only after you have cried out.. My heartfelt condolense
I know how it feels, I grow up with my grandparents.
Yes indeed your birthdays will not be the same again. But be assured that next year,, it will not be as bad as it is today.
Grandparents have to go,, and we have to live on. We must accept that fact.
Bear the pains of loosing them,, it will not last a lifetime,
2006-09-11 11:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have many birthdays, but yhou only have 2 grandmothers and usually only one your close to, with me it was my grandfather, when they closed that coffin for the last time I freaked, my father who is strong and my uncle and 2 of the employees could not hold me down. Only time will heal, but the memories will live on, it is something you can't totally forget just gets easier with time, may God be with you and help you through this!
2006-09-11 11:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The death of a family member is a hard thing to take, no matter what the circumstances. But if your granny was anything like mine, I know she would want you to spend less time mourning her death and more time celebrating her life. I suggest that from now on, you put one big extra candle on your cake as a tribute to her and as a reminder of all the great, happy times you had with your grandma. I'm sure she'd want it that way.
2006-09-11 11:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear that. Your birthday should be a celebration every year, but I understand how that will be hard for you now.
Trust that she is with God now, and that everything will be ok.
She wouldn't want you to be so down on your one special day, would she?
Be thankful for all of the memories.
2006-09-11 11:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by misscongeniality711 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!
celebrate it...
I am sorry your grandmother died - I dont have any encourging words other than, we all must die..and, because we have a God who loves us...it is a beautiful experience to die..(so I am told)...our lord takes us when he wants us..
again, celebrate your time this earth, I am l00 percent certain that your grandmother will be smiling down on you...to see you happy...
take care, and keep your chin up...after all ITS YOUR BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 11:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im having mixed emotions too...Im real sad and depressed. Are you pregnant too, because I am. But sorry about the loss of your grandmother, things will get easier.
2006-09-11 11:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by SEXiiNESS_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completey understandable...and I'm sorry for your loss!
I lost my mom about 4 yrs ago ~ and I still find it hard to face certain days..BUT you will find that as time passes ...things will get better... it will always be a sad memory on your birthday...but think of her with smiles NOT tears..cause that's what she'd want for you!!
2006-09-11 11:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋