Please give me your honest, truthful answer, thanks.?

Question

Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??

Additional Details

3 hours ago
But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?

Answer 1

i dont think she wants to be with you i think she sees you more as a friend then anything...you should respect her decision and be just friends with her maybe later on she will develop feelings for you......good luck

Answer 2

Hmmmm difficuult one this, not least due to the age, its unfortunate that u have had to learn this elsson at such a young age. However its a known fact that people do get wires crossed and feelings for another do become strong and at times not to our advantage. Obviously you wanted more and she didnt, its admirable that u ahve respected her decision and now its best to move on. Giving her space was the 1st thing and that u have done. u say that u want to move on and ur going the right way about it, but it WILL take time....and yeah it does hurt we all know this, but "time is a great healer" a well known verse but one with an element of truth in it. As time passes u will learn to look at her not as a almost love but as a gr8 m8 and that love u have for her wont go it will stay with u but will present itself in a way that will let u become closer than ever.....basically ur doing the right thing give her space let her follow her own path and hey who knows what the future holds she may well come back to you if she feels the same love as u do. If she dont well atleast she can go and meet someone in the future that she can be happy with but also have a gr8 friend in you.....good luck :)

Answer 3

Sweet heart remain being her friend yes you both are young but that's to your advantage, you see you both have a lot of time ahead and for now she wants to stay friends, It does sound as if she would like to go further than friends but too it scares her, you see some friendships are ruined when two people jump into a relationship to soon, so for now just be there let her know you understand her fear and please don't push it I truly believe that in time you two will make the perfect couple but being so young so many things can go wrong, I believe her decision is a good one for the time being, but I also believe your future together looks bright..Be the best friend you can be and that will show her that your willing to wait on her...Give it time .. you'll see the wait was well worth it..Good Luck to both of you..

Answer 4

Okay maybe your not too young - but she is.
She needs sometime to grow up a bit and once shes alittle older then you will know exactly what she feels.
Just be friends for now - be a real friend, once she could talk to about anything and get good advice from.
If she likes you it will come out sooner then later.
I could only say this cause I used to be 13 and yes its a young age to seriously date - girls usually want to just be friends and get to know people at that age and have fun.
Now don't pressure her or keep asking her cause she might just get fed up with you and say forget it to everything including your friendship.
My advice would be to wait alittle more if you really like her that much and let her come close to you if she likes you.
In the meantime just be her friend and have your own fun.
Both of you are young and have time - don't rush into anything!
Plus who knows if there might be someone else who truly cares about you and loves you .
Just give each other some time.

Answer 5

I'm 20 and when i was 14 the same thing happened to me. A friend waited 4 years to tell me he liked me, and by that time i REALLY considered him a friend. We hung out like there was nobody else in the world but us. But when he told me i slowly stopped hanging around him because it was awkward. To this day we're still friends (no benefits) and tighter than we ever were, even though we're in different states now. He actually chased me for 3 years, but he still dated other people. If she really likes you, she'll come around soon. If not, shell still be your friend no matter what.

You may feel a little pain now, but trust me it'll work out.

Answer 6

yes, indeed you are still young. please don't assume things that she obviously likes you. she was clear enough when she told you that she had not ever thought of being more than friends with you. she even added "that's how things should stay". it simply means thatshe wants to keep your friendship but don't expect for something more for now.

it may hurt you but you also have to be grateful to her because she was honest to tell you things. moreover, you have to respect her decision for now. if it's too painful for you to see her with other guys, maybe you have to keep your distance.

hope and pray that in time she will overcome her fears and take the risk of being more than friends with you.

there's an adage, there is hope as long as we live so for now try to busy yourself with something that you like to do and go out with your other friends. you're still young so enjoy your life while you still can.

if you're meant for each other, then it will really happen no matter what the circumstances are.

good luck and be happy in life!!!

Answer 7

I have several guy friends... and people use to think we were dating... She probably didnt want people thinking that and backed off... She ONLY likes you as a friend. So call her up and joke with her about it. But dont ever go for anything other than just friends... she is perfectly clear in this letter.

Answer 8

Sounds like she's definently, deeply attached to you as just a friend & is afraid of the friendship being ruined if it were more than just friendship.
Assure her & repeatedly reassure her, if necessary, that you care about her as a friend... if you push her into anything other than just friendship, you'll push her far away from you... possibly out of your life.

Answer 9

okay im not saying that my answer is right but one of my friends asked me out after we were friends for like 5 years i was really scared because we had been friends for so long i didnt know what to do he started getting really clingy and i didnt even know if i wanted to date him but finally he backed off gave me my space to think that really helped because that was what i needed to realize that it was worth taking the risk. And it also helped to see him with other girls because then i realized that i didnt want someone else to have him so my advice is back off and give her space to think and be seen with other girls and then maybe she see what i saw!!!!

Answer 10

Be persistant. She probably wants to explore her choces to see whosright 4 her, just b at the top of ur game and b there 4 her. help her, b sweet to her, buy little gifts . write a poem just for her. bake her some cookies.(girls love that) hope ive helped

Answer 11

well she obviously likes you as a friend not like a bf..well im sorry tellin you this but you wanted an honest,truthful answer and i guess i did take care and good luck ;) by the way im 20 and i have had similar relationships so i know what it is