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Question

I just read a question about “real sex!” It made me think--what do people consider “sex” now days? If you found out your daughter or son preformed oral sex on their partner--is that considered “sex?” If there was any penetration for any amount of time, do you consider that “sex?” What measurers are you going to/taking to prevent your son or daughter from having sex at a young age? Do you even think teenage sex is even preventable? Please, if you aren’t going to be mature--save your answers for another question. Thank you for all your responses.

Answer 1

Oral sex is sex.

And how do you prevent your son or daughter from having sex too young? This has to be done LONG before they reach the time when they're alone with the opposite sex.

Parents need to sit and talk about things that don't matter (but also, matter so much). The communication line has to open from the very beginning. The job of a parent is to prepare the child for being a responsiblie citizen, this is done with many steps.

When the child gets to the point when they're interested in the opposite sex, they should not be allowed to be alone. Maybe a movie, but never alone in homes or rooms. This is where the communication line being hope helps. It is easier for the child to be honest with their parents if they know they can trust them. And it also helps with making good decisions.

Answer 2

Sex doesn't mean much anymore to most people, thanks to the fact that it's displayed as a daily nothing. Sex should be spoken about as early as possible because it's out there in society, but a parent should take the primary responsibility of doing this. Why? Because it's intimate, and personnal. Sex ed in schools don't teach about the attachments that come with sex. They don't teach about the emotional damage that it causes. They only say, you may get pregnant, so use a condom or any other contraceptive. If you don't use a condom, you may get an STD.... but that's it for them. Thus why parents should be the first to talk about it. I think sex is anything that involves intimacy. Anything is preventable, but it requires effort and consistency from parents to achieve this goal. Prevention is the best method to avoiding mistakes.
I advise that a parent avoids the display of anything sexual at home. Parents can show each other affection, but a child, little or teenager should not be seeing anything beyond this. TV shows, Music videos, Movies, they have little or no respect for the innocent or young and naive mind. I say that's a good place to begin. Avoid those things which aren't healthy. Then comes communication. We use it in our daily lives, so we must use it with our children. They need to know what we know and they need to feel comfortable talking about sex. It's amazing how much we can learn from our children if we listen.

Answer 3

Teenage sex is near impossible to prevent. This culture does not help with the continual images of sexuality all around. Im a healthy sexual male but I have a 5 year old daughter and of course my oulook has changed in this area. Anything with the genitals is sex, if that area is stimulated , whats to really stop screwing. The measures Im taking is to keep talking in a real way about the world(not fully at this time) and how men and women operate differently. That will be my objective, to be open and honest. Adult sex can still be enjoyed screening a person. You can sort of say , "lets get it on, got your papers". Im talking std medical paperwork. It just involves a simple trip to the doc for blood work. Sex is powerful, beautiful and extremely pleasurable, it is tough to control that kind of force. Kids cant fully grasp that (and some adults) so we must be pro active. I know i did all kinds of fun stuff in the sex realm growing up, and hope i can continue to. Todays climate is alittle different, so my daughter will be taught to use common sense and self control(the best i can). Peace.

Answer 4

I started talking to my daughter about sex when she was young. I kept it an open subject over the years and just updated as her age required. I taught her that sex is not something just to do to pass the time, that you always use two forms of birth control to make sure you are protected from diseases and from pregnancy. I taught her that oral sex is a form of sex. Do I think teen sex is preventable, not if the teen decides they want to have sex. My daughter came to me at age 17 to ask for birth control because she and her boyfriend were considering having sex. She was on birth control within a month. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with them. Repeating over and over don't have sex doesn't stop them from doing it, but it does make them hide what they are doing. My daughter once asked me why sex is only for people who are married, I told her flat out it isn't, but it is better when you really love someone, but the truth is you don't have to love someone to have sex. She may have only been 17 when she decided to have sex, but her friends were much younger (their parents were of the no sex and that was the discussion pack), and she showed responsibility in coming to me about birth control, and she had been dating her boyfriend for over a year, and she made him get tested for diseases before she had sex with him. So maybe she wasn't married or in her twenties but she showed more responsibility then many who are.

Answer 5

Oral sex is still sex to me any penetration is sex for any amount of time i will tell my girls everything they should know and if they still decide to have sex then i will make sure they are educated on it so that there are no accidents it isn't preventable that's why the parents should jump in and teach their kids what they really need to know about birth control and condoms and other forms of contraceptives

Answer 6

I talked to my children about sex from an early age. I brought up the oral sex question, but it was very uncomfortable even though they were older. At one of my sons colleges they would put condoms and dental dams in the bathroom and it is the first time I had ever even heard of a dental dam. I would also give them condoms when they were in puberty and tell them that they were not to be used for sex at this time, but to practice with so when they were older and in the moment they would know what they were doing. 2 of my children were okay with it and one was shy, but thanked me later on.

Answer 7

I don't know where the idea came from that oral sex is not sex but believe me, IT IS!!!

I think sexual contact (with two people) resulting in ejaculation is considered sex regardless of whether a vagina was penetrated or not.

Answer 8

My understanding reading about this topic is that about half of all high school sophmores have had intercourse and a greater number have had manual penetration and nude play with the opposite sex. Teach your children to have sex only with those they want to give their virginity to etc. Teach contraception. Teach the truth. Sex happens like it or not I guess.

Answer 9

Well I think that sex is sex and really there's not a way for you to stop young kids from having sex and the only way is to be with them wherever they go and i wouldn't do my chld like that because i would have trust in her but what i don't know want hurt me but if i find out me and her is going to have it out!!!!!11

Answer 10

It is sex, and it can still pass STDs this way. Is she is giving oral sex having vaginal sex is right around the corner and you need to talk to her about being safe. That means being on the pill AND using condoms for ANY kid of sexual activity.