I have been in an awesome relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We have lived together for 2 and now work together also. We do everything together. He has had a "cheating" past in other relationships though. He wants to marry me one day and tells me he would never cheat on me because i give him everything he wants. Recently, his best friend was seeing this girl. He didnt like her so he quit seeing her. She seemed extremely nice and a decent person. Well, I have been noticing she calls my boyfriend. I just got his phone records and he has talked to her every fews day and one time for 24 minutes! He swears he is not cheating. What do I do?????????
2006-09-11 03:53:18 · 16 answers · asked by kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, because he is talking to another girl doesn't mean that he is seeing someone else. If you are truely concerned then try to notice if his daily schedule is starting to change; for instance, is he staying out later, is he going to the "gym" more often, who is he going out with? Is he sexually more/less active with you?
If you are starting to notice these things than maybe you should bring something up to him; until then, I would just be patient, you don't want to be too pushy about this.
2006-09-11 03:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old was he when he was a cheater? If in his teens I don't think you can count that. People are stupid when they are young. She may be using your man to get info on the other guy. She is probably just trying to figure out why that other guy broke up with her. I mean what better way then talking to his best friend. there is a slight possibility that she is trying to make the other guy jealous by talking to his best friend. also, if it bothers you that much call her yourself and see whats going on. If she is a decent and nice person then she will talk to you.
2006-09-11 11:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to say really talk this through with your boyfriend but remember that everything in a relationship is about
trusting each other if you trust him you shouldnt have a problem with just talking on the phone with another girl
Stay confident in yourself!!
2006-09-11 10:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by sam (joe thornton) pro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like the the girl is working on getting your boyfriend by becoming closer friends with him. It also sounds like he enjoys the conversations they have and does not want you to know they talk because you will either get mad (like you are) or he may be thinking that this girl could be a potential girlfriend but until he is sure, he wants to keep you. Watch this closely, but if you say too much you will push him into her arms. Good Luck. You may want to become friends with her before she is able to get too close to him.
2006-09-11 11:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by lynddd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he might see you viewing his phone records as an invasion of privacy, unless of course there is a valid reason for your seeing it such as a shared plan or you pay the bills. second, don't accuse. I think thebest approach to this may be to as him if he has seen or talked her since the break up. If he says no, then that should be a red flag that he is hiding something.
2006-09-11 11:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be open with him about your concerns about his past track record for cheating and tell him how you feel about this other woman calling him. It might be just innocent talking on his part, but your feelings need to be heard.
2006-09-11 10:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a great chance that he is cheating . take it from a guy like me... nobody knows but you anyways .. how do you see him behaving with you .. if a guy doesn not worship the ground you walk on it means at a point in time he will cheat ..
2006-09-11 10:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by fsaroufim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
about it that way you dont get hurt finding out from someone else
noone deserves a cheater so catch him before its too late
and talk to this girl about it
maybe they are just friends
you never know
2006-09-11 10:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk to him about it; if that does not work and he continues to cheat, leave him!
2006-09-11 10:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it looks like a sh$t, and smells like a sh#t, then it probably is a sh#t. communication is the only way to truely find out. good luck
2006-09-11 10:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋