my little boy will be 3 on wednesday, and we've been trying to potty train him for a few months now, but he just refuses to use tho potty or toilet. we've tried reward charts and a different potty but he still refuses. Help!!
2006-09-11 03:32:58 · 31 answers · asked by Samantha B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-09-11 03:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by helene m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing in potty training is to be CONSISTENT. Sit him down on the potty every half hour, every day, no matter how much he fusses. Praise him to the high heavens every time he successfully uses the potty, but don't be critical of him if he has an accident.
As far as specifics go.....
1.) you might try keeping a small bowl of Cheerios by the toilet, and throw a few in to let him have "target practice" trying to sink them.
2.) You might have a second bowl of "Potty Treats" (M&M's, chocolate chips or some other small bite-sized treats), and he gets a couple each time he puts something into the potty.
3.) You might hang a calendar in the bathroom and get some colorful "potty stickers" (dinosaurs and vehicles of all sorts are good choices), and give him a sticker to decorate the calendar with everytime he successfully uses the potty. You might even differentiate between "pee" stickers and "poop" stickers, and let him earn a special treat once he collects a certain number of them -- say, a trip to the ice cream parlor for a cone, or a Matchbox car or a "Thomas and Friends" train....
Best of luck, and keep our chin up! I promise -- he will have mastered the potty by the time you send him off to college....
2006-09-11 03:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 3 also and still won't willingly go on the potty or toilet. I bought a book 'How to potty train in a week' but still got nowhere with it as the book says if he doesn't want to do it don't force him or it will put him off the idea. I am also ripping my hair out and although I have had advice from health workers I am still stuck with a little boy who hates not wearing a nappy. I know thats no help but you are not alone.
2006-09-12 12:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by LISA H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried just jumping in the deep end and getting him to wear pants all the time? My son is a real handful, and I was dreading potty training him. He didn't like his potty very much. About 2 months ago, his Nursery told me to start sending him in in pants. I had been doing this for a while at home, but without much luck. He almost got it overnight! He still has accidents, but 90% of the time now he asks for the toilet, and he is also dry most night, and he is only 2 years and 2 months! Now is the time to just grab the bull by the horns and do it.
2006-09-11 05:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by lillysutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was almost 4 when he decided he was ready to use the potty all by himself. We had tried a number of things, we made him wear underwear all the time at home so he could feel when he was wet which really helped. Even though some of the pull-ups say they have that wetness liner i dont think they can really feel the wet. We also started having him pick one of his toys to put into a box in our room everytime he made a BM in his pants, but he got a toy back everytime he would make a BM in the potty. Also for a while we did the toy thing with peeing in the potty until he did that.
2006-09-11 07:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little boy was quite slow at potty training as well, he refused for ages to go to the toilet and tried so hard to hide when we went to change his nappy in case we wouldn't put another one on him. He has only recently started using the toilet properly and in fact thinks he is so grown about it all now!
Although he is a stuborn child (much like his mother hee hee) and has recently started getting annoyed when people aske him if he needs the loo answering 'there is no pee left in me' with a scowl on his face!!! No idea where he got that from!
Do you have any younger children? I'm just wondering because I feel one of the set-backs we faced was after the birth of my daughter in the middle of his potty training. He began saying he was a baby and not a big boy as he had been doing and reverted back to demanding nappies and refusing to use his potty.
My little boy is turning four now in October and thinks his pants are great - we have to keep buying him ones with his fav cartoon characters on them which helps and he is only wearing nappies now at night although I'm starting to faze this out soon! My little girl is 8mths and i'm hoping she wont be as much bother as he was!
Anyway, good luck
2006-09-11 03:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Rock-Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boy who is 5 years old and he was a late trainer, too. As far as peeing, you want to put him on the pot about every hour or so (your time may vary...just check his diaper or pull up to see how often he goes) and be consistent. Another way is to let him run around naked. Most likely, he will give you some kind of sign that he needs to go and if not, he can see how he goes (if that makes sense). As far as pooping in the potty, I tried everything I could think of to get mine to go to the potty. My son held it in for days without going. There is nothing I can tell you exept that he will eventually do it when he is ready. My son started going when he realized his friends at preschool were going. Yours may need that awareness, too.
2006-09-11 03:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mujer Bonita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is very difficult. I have 2 children and my oldest is a boy. He never learned to use the potty until he was 4. I was very concerned and asked my DR. why.... The doctor will tell you that every child is different. They will use the potty when they are ready. My son just one day went to potty all by himself and continued to use it from there on. He will eventually do it. DOn't rush him or get angry at him. That will only scare him from doing it. Just be patient and it will happen....
2006-09-11 03:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by carolinagal28168 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses, back off and wait awhile. We went through the same thing with our son. We tryed when he turned three, but no luck, so we backed off and waited until he was 3 1/2. It went great then. He was ready then and it took only a couple of days. Take a break for a while and relax. I think every parent goes through this. Boys just seem to take a little longer and they usually have to feel that it's their idea. It will happen in due time. Every kid makes it, just in their own time. So take a deep breath, know that you tried and taking a break will be good for all of you. It will be fine. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 03:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pay attention to his facial expressions. I knew when my son was pooping because his face gets all red and he squats a little. Fiquring out if he is pooping is a lot easier than figuring out if he is peeing. A quick pee lasts maybe 5 seconds tops and he might stand for just that time. It might not even seem like he is peeing.
My son is almost 2 and he's already pooped in a toilet. We constantly ask if he has to pee or poop so he is aware of his bodily functions. Odds are that he poops once a day around the same time slot, so if he poops 5 pm yesterday, he might poop between 4 and 6 pm today.
We ask if he has to pee maybe half an hour to an hour after a drink. We haven't perfected that yet, but were on our way.
2006-09-13 14:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by millertime2585 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋