2006-09-11 03:30:30 · 16 answers · asked by figgymac 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
whatever you feel in your heart...
say something sincere and not circumstantial
2006-09-11 03:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by emanu 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I found myself in this position when I lost my husband last year. Our twins were 7 at the time, and it was a rough time for all of us.
Looking back, I know that I appreciated those that offered their condolences and added " let me know if there is anything that we can do". Although I didn't need the help then (or at least I thought), I did and found their comfort in the fact that they were not dismissing my feelings.
Whatever you do, be sure that it is from the heart.
2006-09-11 03:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by coachls 4 · 14⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do not say "they are better off" or "they're in a better place" or "I know how you feel." Each person handles grief and the loss of a loved one differently. My suggestion would be to say "I am sorry for your loss. If there is anything I can do to help you (cook, help clean, write thank you's, or just listen) please do not hesitate to call me."
2006-09-11 06:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by ncmom 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you say, do not say, "I know how you feel" unless the same thing has happened to you.
When my little boys died, people who never lost a child would say that and I wanted to slap them.
Just let the person know how saddened you are by their loss. Sometimes, they really need to talk. Be there for them.
2006-09-11 03:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 26⤊ 0⤋
Nothing if it not needed; give a shoulder and a hug instead. Actions speak louder than words anyway.
2006-09-11 03:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by M D 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Condolence and my sympathy for your loss
2006-09-11 03:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Trixie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Occasionally, well-timed silence has more eloquence than speech.
2006-09-11 06:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by puz 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
if they r a good friend give them a hug. otherwise tell them deepest sympathy.
2006-09-11 06:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry. If there is anything I can do let me know.
2006-09-12 04:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Pixie 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"I am so sorry for your loss." Sometimes the less said is better.
2006-09-11 03:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋