I became really close friends with this guy and started to really have strong feelings for him. He was in a relationship but we'd talk every day about everything and even when he left work, we said we'd keep in touch and we did. He made the effort as much as I did, maybe a little more. I always felt there was something between us. I felt he was a very genuine person. Then him and his gf break up, and I was there for him, and one night when we were hanging out, we ended up sleeping together. And I still have never told him how I feel about him. Things didn't get weird or anything, they pretty much stayed the same for awhile. And we only slept together that one time. But now, he moved in with his buddy and he's all about partying and being single. And his personality totally changed. He's cocky, arrogant, and immature. Why is he being like this now? Does he just want to enjoy the single life for a bit or does he not like me like that?He's pushing me away and I dont think he cares.
2006-09-11 03:25:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think he thought he was being "bad" by flirting with me when he had a gf. We didn't really flirt all that much and his gf knew of me.
2006-09-11 03:43:30 · update #1
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
Yes, you firgured it out pretty much on your own. He may not treat you as well as he had might have something to do with his break-up with his girlfriend. He may have bitterness towards women now, and he needs time to be single with his buddies and turn his emotions off from having a relationship with a woman to avoid getting hurt.
Just be his friend, touching bases with him from time to time, but give him his space and allow him to contact you most of the time until when and if he gets back to normal. There is a chance that he is forever changed -these things happen from time to time as you grow as a person.
If he truely views you as a friend, he will come back to you. Maybe not as boyfriend material, but as a friend as before.
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
2006-09-11 03:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well honey, you being his friend while he was in a relationship was going to happen whether you were his friend or some other woman was. The truth is no man rightfully dedicated to the woman he's in a relationship with would be looking to make any female platonic friends ever unless he was already disinterested in his current relationship and looking for away out. Then Wallah! He made "friends" with you, you know the difference is men make friends with females for many reasons but they all know that under said circumstances sex is always (9 times out of 10) a possibility. We as women most of the time usually consider a friend a friend, with out the possibility of having sex in fact it never really crosses our minds! So with that said he is not going to continue to be close like you all were you were his crutch and now he's fine and just because a man gets out of a relationship and was courting you doesn't mean he's ready to get back into another relationship. To men when relationships end to them this means they are a newly found "Bachelor". Although, most women mistake the newly separated men as men seeking a relationship, NOT! Grab your bootstraps and get over it! He thought you were "cool" with things (like one of the guys "wink", or "we're just friends right")! Honey, don't hold your breathe he's just getting started! Good Luck though!
2006-09-11 03:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he was with his girlfriend he had you to talk to and to discuss things with. He probably felt he was being "bad" by having some kind of relationship with a girl other than his girlfriend and it was exciting for him.( like he was having an affair) Then when he got rid of his girlfriend it was no longer exciting.
Sometimes sleeping together for some people does not mean all that much unfortunately. I would just let him go. I dont think he thinking about a relationship at this time.
Anyway, if he was flirting with you while he had a girlfriend, he is probably not that trustworthy anyway. He was playing a game with you, let it be somebody Else's problem now.
2006-09-11 03:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He may have viewed it as sympathy sex or friends with benefits sort of hookup. If you haven't told him about your feelings, he may not know. If he's being a royal jackass, you may want to just chalk it up and move on... and if he returns to "normal" you can tell him how you feel and try for a second (well, first) chance.
A lot of people go hard and heavy with singledom after a breakup in a serious relationship... is he hooking up while partying? If so, do you really want to waste your time on someone who will go from person to person like that?
2006-09-11 04:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The friendship line was crossed when you slept with him. It's next to impossible to go back to just being friends when you've done that. And it sounds like that's not what you want anyway.
He probably misses the friendship, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by making it clear that's what it was. It won't ever be the same again.
Move on and remember the lesson. It will be the same every time.
2006-09-11 03:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by desertrat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yen, sorry to say this, but it looks like you were nothing but a booty call, and his feelings for you weren't on the same level as yours. You might have been a rebound booty call. You should have told him how you really felt, although I'm not sure that would have made a difference. Perhaps its all good in the end, he seems like a jerk.
2006-09-11 03:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own question. He is enjoying the single life. Party on, dude!!
2006-09-11 03:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he likes you that way...i think he likes being your friend.. and the incident was just that....move on..your emotions are going to hurt you if you keep pursuing him...
2006-09-11 03:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by turner32542 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋