It seems like you can give a teenager a simple project (like painting a window frame) and halfway through they stop because their tired or some other reason. All my friends have the same problem with their teenagers. I don't want to have to punish him and I don't think I should have to bribe him either. What do you do?
2006-09-11 03:25:19 · 9 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If as a parent you have asked your teen to do something and they don't complete it, next time they want you to do something for them simply say, ya I'd love to just as soon as I get that window painted I asked you to do. Let them know if they expect you to do things for them its a two way street.
2006-09-11 03:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it punishing, I would call it consequences.
We always have tons of work to do around here, and most of the time we have to ride the kids. Sometimes I am amazed though that they take initiative and do things on their own.
Sometimes I write it down and say this is what I need done. It doesn't need to be done right now, but if you are planning something for later today, it needs to be done, and done well, at least an hour before you go.
And I follow through with it.
Also, if they do a half a** job just to get it done, they go back and do it again.
I get tired of pushing them, and sometimes I just have a group 'pep' talk, saying I don't ask them to do anything I wouldn't do myself, and if we all pitch in doing the dirty work it will be done much faster. I split them up so they don't argue, and I hope someday that they have kids just like theirselves!
2006-09-11 20:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by ewema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teen-agers.............. what a mess! I agree with Granny. When one of my kids do not complete a chore, I make a mental note. Then when they need a ride to the movies, the roller rink, a friends house or to the store.......... I tell them I am sorry I can not do it as I have to finish what they started and did not finish and I am too busy to get to it right now but when the chore is done I will let them know when I am ready. Most times it gets done but with a little huffing and puffing!
2006-09-12 04:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at this way...if your teenager was at work and did not complete the task that was assigned then they would be fired. I think teaching teenagers work = pay.
2006-09-11 03:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the parent here? They don't go anywhere or do anything until they finish and have done it correctly. Would your boss let you do your job at your lesiure or not finish it? It teaches your kids to cope outside in the real world. It's called being a parent......
2006-09-11 03:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try teaching him the value of hard work by helping him for a little bit, offer some guidance, and remind him he is not eating until it's done.
2006-09-11 03:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a teenager myself lol theres no other way hahaha sorry..it seems we have to have a good reason to do sumthin besides mom or dad said "do it"
2006-09-11 03:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by dixie_gurl872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish him so he could get his work done you can't make it easy for him what will happen when he gets into the real world
2006-09-11 03:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away their Hormones!
2006-09-11 03:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by just1more 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋