I have alwasy been told by people that the reason why I am not coping with things in my life, is because I don't have God's love in my heart. How do I get this? Why do I always seem to battle more with things in life than with other people? Am I not normal? Is this why I don't feel accepted by people?
2006-09-11 03:09:39 · 11 answers · asked by weeroppadc2 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"Why am I not coping with things in my life, is it because I don't have God's love in my heart?" That is a question with many sides and many ways to approach. Hope this helps. First we have to take responsibility for our actions or in-actions. Secondly, We need to recognize that We are not in charge or in control of how others will perceive us. Thirdly, we must acknowledge that we have a hole inside us. When we acknowledge that We aren't in control of our lives and that there is a Void in our soul.....That is when God is there to help. Look in Matt. 14: 22-33. Peter is a great example. It wasn't until Peter asked for help that's when Christ reached out to him. He does the same for us. He will fill that void in us IF we allow Him to. But we have to start with hearing the word Rom. 10: 17, Repenting Acts. 2: 14-47, tells us how to obey and be added to Him. Rom. 6:4 calls us then to walk in newness of life. I don't have all the answers but hope this will lead you to His light and His way! And when you feel like your questions imply read Job and Psalms. Look at how they dealt with feeling persecuted and how they overcame. Study on!
2006-09-11 03:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to Christian theology, accepting God in your life makes things better. Accepting him as the one true god establishes a relationship that will carry you through life's hardships because you put complete faith in him having a purpose for everything that happens to you. Some Christians believe that only through this can life be made bearable.
Everybody struggles in life. They may not show any outward signs or even have it as a conscious thought, but the truth is there is always something bothering people. As I am not of the Christian faith, I will explain to you what I believe. I don't think it is necessary to have a higher power in your life though I'm sure it helps some people. But I think the problem with that is SOME use it as an excuse to not do things, they say everything that goes on in their life is god's doing when really they don't want to take responsibility for their actions, or lack there of. Mind you I said SOME do this, not all Christians are alike in this respect. I believe that dealing with hardships in life is a way for us to learn and give aid to those that come after us. I believe that hardships are inevitable and can be used as a way for us to become more completely ourselves. It's not about how I would deal with the situation, it's how I did deal with it and what I learned from it.
As to why you don't feel accepted by people. Depending on how old you are this is perfectly normal. Heck I don't feel accepted and I'm 20, not old, but not in my teenage years anymore. I went through a period last year where I didn't know who I was because I kept changing to be what other people wanted me to be. I realized I wasn't accepted, my facade was, and that's no way to live. So I did some soul searching and found me again. If you don't feel accepted by people, and you are being yourself, you should try to find people that do accept you. There is nothing wrong with the people you are hanging out with, they just aren't like you and can't see past that to see how wonderful a person you are. Find people who will appreciate you for who you are. I know I spell it out like it's easy and I know it isn't, but you are worth it.
2006-09-11 10:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What people would ever tell you that? Seems to be an attempt at encouragement that lacks substance.
Love of God is not automatic. It comes from appreciation. Much like companionship with a friend:
Do you have any really close friends?
Why are they your friends?
Likely you have spent much time with them, and over that period of time developed an appreciation for their ways. You likely have some shared experiences, and likely think about them from time to time. Maybe even call them or make appointments to meet with them. The more the two of you do together, and the more you think alike... the stronger your bonds of friendship becomes.
If you do the same with God you will draw closer to him and he will become your friend, rather than a little known but prominient individual. He has made the first move in friendship by trying to communicate via the written word. Why not begin getting to know him better?
Next time someone says you don't have the love of God in your heart, tell them you love many things, but you don't love being put down. That will likely cause them to be more upbuilding and if you are Christlike you won't try to make them pay for their unkindness as it was likely a genuine but misinformed attempt to encourage.
2006-09-11 10:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by icyuryy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've coped very well with many bad things, without any god belief. I spent a few years watching my wife die, and I never felt the urge to turn to any deities for help.
Everybody deals with life differently. In that, you are perfectly normal in having to deal with life.
Without any further details on what you're battling, I can't really give much advice on how to handle it. However, if people are trying to push a religious guilt trip on top of your other problems, resist it. You don't need to deal with that in addition to other problems you have in life.
Religions love to use the carrot and stick strategy. They'll threaten you with Hell and godly wrath and punishment on one side, then lure you with promises of reward and talk about "God's love" on the other side. Just realize it is just an empty tactic and move on. I'm sure if you go to one of these churches, they'll "love bomb" you, telling you how much they all love you and how great it is that you're following their deity. They'll use lots of emotional tugs to get to convert. Emotion is their number #1 weapon because it is effective. They really have no other weapon. They really don't have many facts on their side.
Basically, with them, you'll be covering up all your problems with an emotional veneer. But it won't get to the root of any of your problems. They'll still be there.
Instead, just realize that the world is pretty much as it seems. Stuff happens to everybody, so you're not alone. Everybody has a harder time than others sometime in their life. You just have to pick your battles carefully and let the rest slide. If you need to unload some emotional fallout from any of them, find a friend who will listen.
Hope this helps some, and good luck.
2006-09-11 10:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you get? read and discern...
1st Corinthians
Chapter 13
13:1 If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don't have love, I have become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal.
13:2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but don't have love, I am nothing.
13:3 If I dole out all my goods to feed the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but don't have love, it profits me nothing.
13:4 Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud,
13:5 doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil;
13:6 doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
13:8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will be done away with. Where there are various languages, they will cease. Where there is knowledge, it will be done away with.
13:9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part;
13:10 but when that which is complete has come, then that which is partial will be done away with.
13:11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things.
13:12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, even as I was also fully known.
13:13 But now faith, hope, and love remain--these three. The greatest of these is love.
2006-09-11 10:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by joseph 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God's love is everlasting and without stings attached, if you want his love simply ask him to forgive you and allow him to enter into your heart. After that he will take care of the rest.
Contact me if you need more help and suggestions. God Bless you.
2006-09-11 10:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Commander 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well gods love is the wrong place to look. thay say good helps those who help them selfs. cut out the middel man and help your self. you might just expect to much. the pepole that told you that. are the ones not acepting you. so its not you. you can find some less judgmental friends.
2006-09-11 10:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by brakedown61301 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All of the above... With the exception for the monkey-kid.
2006-09-15 05:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept the death and ressurection=sacrifice of Jesus Christ for your life and i guarantee things will get better.it wont always be roses but it can be great
2006-09-11 10:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by norm s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you change your life because Jesus gave up one Saturday?
2006-09-11 10:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋