Im getting really angry! My ex and I have been done for almost a month but he still texts me sometimes @ night

Question

My ex and I have been over for almost a month with NO talking..He hasnt even called me. Occasionally he has sent me a text message on the weekends late at night. This saturday he sent me a message @ 3AM saying "I wanna c u sometime"....ok I know he was probably drunk, and everyone is gonna say he wants a booty call! But if he doesnt ever call me, and ONLY messages me at night what do I do? I havent written him back ever but it just hurts me so bad cuz I feel like if he doesnt want to be with me then he should just never talk to me or text! I dont know what I should do? Hes still dating other people from dating websites, and he hasnt even attempted to call or email me...Is this over forever?? How long do guys usually need before they realize they made a mistake? ugh..help!

Answer 1

It seems he is confused and does not know what he wants. The best way to overcome this is to approach him or call him and discuss what he wants. If thats something that you no longer want to be a part of, make him aware of it in the nicest possible way, as quite clearly its tearing you apart too. My advice is make it crystal clean, iron everything out and put an end to the games that are being played. x

Answer 2

Think of this as a wake up call for you. Don't respond to his texts just like you haven't. He just thinks that you'll be sitting at home waiting for him. Never let a man do that to you. Yeah your right, he is probably drunk just wanting a booty call and trust me it is nothing more than that. If he respects you then he will actually call you and try to conversate with you other than sending a text late at night when it's most convent for him. Just move on and enjoy being single. What's meant to be will be : )

Answer 3

you need to let that relationship go! you've said it yourself. he's dating other people, and he has not communicated with you for over a month. text messages are very impersonal. he's choosing the easy way out to ask for some booty. the same effort he put into writing a text message, (it takes little to no effort!), could be the same effort he used to call you but he hasn't. i'm sure you're in a lot of pain from the break up. that part always sucks. you need to continue what your doing. don't answer his messages, ignore him and move on. it's gonna be hard but this will show you how strong you really are. stand firm and don't waver. someone who loves you, wouldn't do what he's doing to you. believe me. good luck to you.

Answer 4

You know I believe you are confused. From the question I got the impression that you two were over but then later I get the impression that you are playing dolly house or room for rent apply within. I think you should really sit down and give yourself sometime to think about what you really want to do with your life and move on. Get a list of the qualities you want in a lover and work on becoming the right person.

Answer 5

Lets be honest i think u already know the answer to this one dont you ? He has proved himself in his lack of communication over the past month or so. And suddenly he wants to see u ? yeah i rekon its a booty call. As for what to do now ? Well 1sts things 1st u gotta seperate urself from this guy as much as u can, ok its probly not practical to move but there are other things u can do, for instnce ever thought of changeing ur mobile number ? I dont know where u are but here in the uk u can buy a sim card only for a releltavly cheap price. Aside from that what bout ur circle of friends? any mutual friends or aqquantences ? if so it might be worth a thought of changeing or maybe explanding ur circle of friends.....if ur socialising with a mutual friend then he still gunna know whats going on in ur life...people talk. He probly wont even be bothered if he is still seeing people from the dating website and if he is coming to u for a booty call....who r u to know who and whats hes been doin ? Trust me he aint respecting u or ur feelings in the least on this one. If it aint over inhis eyes, i highly suggest u end it in your eyes, cos even if u got back together whats to stop him doing the same thing over and over again.....if u take him back its just showing him that he can break up with u go shag other peeps from the site and get back with u as and when he feels like it.....only my opinion, but drop him and move on, ur worth more than that :)

Answer 6

This is only my opinion but I think it's over. I mean if he's only texting and not calling or anything I wouldn't bother with him. And yeah I am going to say he's probably calling for a booty call. But that's my opinion.

Answer 7

Well for boys is really hard to express their feelings. So maybe you should answer one of his messages saying " What's up? , "Hey" or something quick just what a friend will say than depending on what he says you will know if he still misses you as a girlfriend or just as a friend> If you still like him tell him , or if u just want a friend tell him that>

Answer 8

hey u know are some kinds of men like that.. stupid pride. u know my man told me something like this. if u leave me i will no run after u even die coz of pain in heart... they just wanna be real man. and they all same. i think right now he thinks u don't wanna see him again. and i m sure he understood his mistake. just not enough brave and too pride to call u. waiting sign from u. same was with my friend man. he had a big problem with his gf.. but even he behaved so stupid and i told him he should first call. he told no not me. and was waiting till she will call to him. thats men... and hun it doesn't mean he doesn't want u anymore and that it is end of urs realtion. they r just like this,
sometimes even if i m right now in relion i feel same that he doesn't care or something. but i learn all time man. and ur situation.... yea he wanna u back... just little stupid messeges...they don't underastand we need something more... whatever... if u care him give a sign.. meet and then u will know what to do then... take care

Answer 9

Text him back and ask him to not contact you again; be serious. If he really wants to get the relationship up and going again, texting in the middle of the night is NOT the way. He's playing games.

Answer 10

I think the both of yall should get together and talk things out and see if yall still have feelings for each other. The only thing to make u stop gettin angry is for you to talk to him and if he doesnt still have feelins for you then tell him to leave you alone and dont text you nomore.