why do people ignore me?

Question

Today was the first day of school & I thought it would be diffrent but it was exactly the same but only worse than before. I honestly don't think I look bad people who look horrible and who have done worse things have friends. I have friends well...had and basicly I have this one friend a "best" friend who basically said "hi" and din't talk to me for the rest of the day and we're in the same class also their kinda divided into groups and I'm in the middle AND DON'T WANT TO BE. How do I talk to classmates who I think don't like me??? Please this is serious. (BTW. my school is divided into girls and guys sections) Also I live in the ae and we have one classroom 4 all subjects.

well i can't just walk up to them and start talking

Answer 1

Have you taken a personality type test? I test in the 1% of the population so I guess that explains why people ignored me and why they thought i was a snob . ..just nothing in common, quiet personality, introvert; also they were all church going Christians I think and maybe werent supposed to be friends with me since I didnt go to church

If you feel uncomfortable people will likely pick up on it; if you feel good theyll respond well to you. People like what feels good

Answer 2

Aaaww, poor you.
I was not popular in school at all and it really got me down so I know where you're coming from.
I think a lot of it was because I had very low self confidence cos I was bullied a lot when I was very young. I didn't get bullied in high school just got completely ignored like you're describing! However, after school I felt I could be much more outgoing and what a difference it made! I am popular at work and I feel happy at last.
The thing to remember is the kids at school may have lots of aquaintances but they are probably not true friends- would they be there thru anything for each other? Probably not. Most people have less than 5 really genuine friends it doesn't mean you're any less important.
Try not to let this get you down, just be positive, approachable and focus on the fact that you'll not be in school forever :-D xxxx

Answer 3

Sweetie? I know how it feels. I was really tiny, new kid in town, afraid of everyone because as grown ups well know, junior high kids are probably the cruelest towards each other because everyones hormones are kicking in. Then there are the homophobes that can make it hell on everyone too. My foster mom bought all of my clothes at Goodwill and made me wear really awful clothes. At my foster mom's insistence, I reluctantly tried out for the 7th grade talent show. It was 1975 and John Denver had just come out with Country Roads so I did that song along with my equally as uncool twin sister. We both could play the guitar really well and sing really well. Our foster Mom made us wear these goofy little stretch polyester, houndstooth checked, green bib outfits with butterfly capped sleeves on stage. They were horrible to say the least.

After a beautiful performance and a standing ovation by everyone in our class, we were liked by everyone. Everyone kept walking up to us all that week, introducing themselves and pretty soon, I wasn't afraid to talk to people. I still dressed like a dork because I had no other choice. Find your niche. Find what your talents are and expound on them. Pretty soon, your peers will be wanting to talk to you. And yes, hygeine is very key. Smile a lot. Put your best face forward every morning and stay out of trouble.

Also, maybe your best friend from last year has had some type of experience or was hanging out with other friends over the summer. Why don't you just walk up to her and ask her, "Have I done something to offend you because I feel like you are ignoring me? I would much rather know than feel hurt the rest of the year. I can handle the truth. I just cannot handle your silent indifference". Hear her out and even if her answer hurts your feelings, graciously tell her that is all you wanted to know, thank her and go on.

Sometimes, there are things, good and bad that happen in our friends/classmates lives that we don't know about. A lot of times, they do not want to talk about it, ie...parents divorcing, being dumped by a gf/bf, etc. From about 5th grade on through high school, most girls are in the full throes of puberty which can change their moods and they way they feel about any and everything.

You will have a lot of different best friends. Mine changed every school year. Don't let it bother you. Always remember, people are drawn to happy people. Smile and don't worry, be happy. Everything else will fall into place.

Answer 4

This happens to a lot of people in the middle or high school years. Just because someone's not talking to you doesn't mean they dislike you. They may be shy, or in your friend's case, they may be trying out a different social clique.

I know it's hard, but try chatting with those near you can help you make friends. I was painfully shy during those years, but was lucky enough to make friends for life by talking to a few new people.

Answer 5

I actually were skipped over before, and the feeling replaced into more desirable painful than something i'll imagine. i might want to really no longer communicate it in spite of the reality that, it is contained in the previous and that i'm excess of that now. i might want to in no way ignore about everybody, regardless of how they make me experience. i do not conceal from my issues and verify out to dam people out. I favor to administration issues up the front and settle for people regardless of how indignant they make me. i know a huge number of people i might want to like to pores and skin alive, yet each so often you basically might want to suck it up and be the bigger human being. Ignoring people does no longer lead them to disappear, it surely motives more desirable issues. Libra

Answer 6

You know what - you aren't ignored anymore - look at all the replies you've got now! That's something, ain't it?

You don't have to be loved by EVERYBODY! I don't. If you are popular with everybody, it either means you are a very nice person, or people are attracted to your charisma, or you are too good to be true and not really what you appear to be!

Try to nurture your strengths and talents, as a student. Sooner or later, people are going to notice your own unique abilities - and who knows, they might need your help or advice, especially when you've got group activities or projects to do.

Answer 7

You say "done worse things" and that puts up a red flag... What did you do?

Make sure of three things

1. hygene

2. social skills

3 . the look on your face.


If you stink or look dirty people are going to stay 50 feet away even if you are the nicest person in the world. If you don't learn now, what to say to whom and in the company of whom, you will be setting yourself up for misery! Watch what you say to people about other people, especially around girls, they will turn on you on a dime if it gets them somewhere with someone else. and finally... A scowl on your face will make people stay away. I know, but I do it FOR that reason.

Just learn to be antisocial... none of them are probably worth your time anyway.

Remember this: "You teach people how to treat you." Lou Tice

Answer 8

Dont let people get to you if you think they have a problem with you then ask them...alot of times people just think stuff and not really know nothing if it bothers you enough to wanna know how to cope just do as i do say f*** it

Answer 9

either try to not care if they like you or not or ask one of the guys out if they say yes im pretty sure youve got into a "group"

Answer 10

You need to pay less attention to how others perceive you, or if they perceive you. I know it is important to socialize, but its not healthy when your psychological well being depends on it. Focus on yourself, happiness resides from the inside, its not provided by others.