After only about 3 months of dating my bf broke up with me through an e-mail! He is 23 years old. I am 21. He was far away visiting his dad who lives in another state, so I understand he couldn´t do it face-to-face, but he could have at least had the balls to call me and end it. I could understand if he was like 15 or 16, but 23 years old? I personally think that´s a bit whimpy, but whatever. What´s done is done. In the e-mail he wrote "My feelings for you have not changed but have become more distant" and he also wrote "I think we should put this relationship on hold". What do these phrases mean? I am hurt, obviously, but just for your info I wouldn´t get back with this loser if he was the last guy on earth! I have too much diginity and self-respect for myself to stoop to his level.
Thank you for your responses.
9-11-01...we will NEVER forget.
2006-09-11 02:38:32 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget the spineless wimp and move on - he's dumped you thats what his email means, so the sooner you get through the "sad" stage and into the "angry" stage and out the other side - the better. Good luck! Chin up, and remember the cleaner the break the easier it is to move on.
2006-09-11 02:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it was very childish the way that he did it but understandable all the same. He was trying to break up with you without hurting your feelings and still leaving room to get back with you later if he could not find what he was looking for in someone else. The my feelings have not changed but are more distant. That is a contradiction all by itself. It is like saying I like you but don't like you enough. The I think that we should put this relationship on hold means I still might want to sleep with you later so I will be nice and go out and do what I want and then come back. Find someone that will act like a person in their 20 and not someone that acts like they are in high school.
2006-09-11 02:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he's not ready to be in a serious relationship right now. Something like this happened to me I was date this guy and everything was going well until he took a trip to visit a relative that was ill. He was gone for about a month when he came back he start telling me about how he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. It came as a shock for me mainly because we had been dating for about a good 6mos and everything was great between us. He said that he had rushed into a relationship with me to fast being that he had just not to long ago come out of a long term relationship before he got with me. A relationship was what he thought he wanted at the time but in the end it wasn't. It hurt like hell mainly because I had really fell in love with him and his change of heart made me feel like it was something I did or like there was something wrong with me. Furthermore men sometimes don't know what they want. Therefore he probably does love you and want to be with you in the future but for right now he just doesn't want a relationship for whatever his reasons are.
2006-09-11 02:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you girl. The immortal line "I think we should have a break for a while" only ever means one thing in my experience - the person saying it wants to end it, but hasn't quite got the balls to come out and say so. Your man compounded this by sending you an email, of all things.
Glad that you're being upbeat and positive about it. All the old cliches are true - he wasn't worth it, good job you found out what he's like now rather than later, plenty more fish in the sea etc. etc....
Goooo girl!
2006-09-11 02:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lily & Stu Too 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just cowards and can't face a girl when breaking up with them. I would have more respect for a guy who broke up with me to my face (even if he said he was sleeping with my mother!) rather than by e-mail, text, phone, letter, S.O.S, Homing pigeon, whatever. This guy was obviously not worth it. Fair enough, he was in another state but couldn't he of waited until he got back???
Forget about him. As the saying goes, "There are plenty more fish in the sea".
2006-09-11 02:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by b97st 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me it sounds like he has an other lover and the whole put things on hold is to make sure he has a backup plan if it all goes wrong with his other lover in fact send him a mail (by accident that is like cc him and mail a friend ) with you and a hunky man with me and my new man just pick a hunk in the bar and get a pic with him and send it watch his mails come in once he realises you have moved on then tell him to take a long walk of a short pier
enjoy your self forget him totally and move on your the growen up not him good luck
2006-09-11 02:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think he is a coward for not talking to you face to face. I also think that he loves you too much.( hear me out okay!) He wants to have a relationship with you in the future,so obviously, being 23 he wants to marry you oneday, but isn't ready for it right now. Wait on him. I am in a similat situation. The guy I love told me that he is not ready for a relationship with me right now, but he wants me to wait for him untill we are old enough to get married. I am 19 and have been waiting since 16. He is 23. Yae, waiting isn't easy, but it is all worth it. I know he still wants me to wait, because he lets me know. I hope this helps you. Good Luck!!
2006-09-11 02:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it means he found anouther girlfriend and probably told you through email because she was in the house at the time of the incident. You should just move on sorry
amen to the 9 11 thing fight for our freedom
2006-09-11 02:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you have already made your mind up about him Have your tried to call him to see why he wants to put this relationship on hold, he may well have a lot more things on his mind that he is saying. My advice would be to call him and sort it out. By the way he could have at least waited till he came back to talk to you about it.
2006-09-11 02:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Steveh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it right with the description of this lad right BOY Friend. No man would treat a lady in that fashion, as for the phrases as they say in my neck of the woods a load of political correct cr-p. he must have heard a politician speak. using a load of words that do not actually mean anything he`s tosser, better off without him
2006-09-11 02:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jim G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋