i cant believe that im living this kind of life, i have family members and friends but something bad always seems to come out of this. My mother hates me and will do anythign within her power to let me know this; my sisters are around but i cant get them to be nice to me unless they need something. I have a boyfriend and he tellsme to get out half the time and when i do he wants me back and my friends arent friends after all! i can never seem to get anything done for me out of the kindness of their hearts unless they throw it up in my face, i have to pay them back or else they will cause more pain and hurt to me...
and get this they all still feel they can put there hands on meif i even say anything about they way they treat me.
im not very rich becuase i attend 2 schools and work parttime, so its not like imlazy or freeloading i pay my way, so why do they seem to hate me. Is this badluck or a curse ?
2006-09-11 02:36:20 · 18 answers · asked by uabgurl22 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are not cursed. You don't have bad luck. You have a poor self image. You are allowing yourself to be a Vitim of everyone around you. If you don't think highly of yourself, how do you expect everyone else to? No one has a right to touch you!! If they do, respect yourself enough to call the police. If someone wants to do something for you, make sure they know that although it is appreciated, you don't want to be owing to anyone. Then if they continue it's their prob. Your mother is probably jealous, going to school, working and having your own life means she isn't needed and sounds like she couldn't or didn't do those things for herself and if you do it then she was inferior. The boyfriend is playing games. Cake and eat it to comes to mind. You don't need a man to complicate your life. Your friends, you might be right but then they might be tired of hearing you complain without doing something. You take care of You. You're the best friend you'll ever have.
2006-09-11 02:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain but I do not know your family circumstances to give real good advice but I will say that you must try to have some positive people in your life and that will help you to become more secure. Drop the boyfriend and the unworthy friends I know it`s not easy to find new ones but you are at two schools and have a job you will meet a few really good friends there. Congratulations on striving to better yourself through education and for trying to pay your own way things will get better, honest.
2006-09-11 02:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the hell out of town and start somewhere fresh. Get away from all of the negativity around you! I'm serious! You need to transfer schools, try to line up another job via the Internet in whatever place you're relocating, and tell all of those punks to kiss your grits! I would be in jail if I had to go through what you're going through. If you're old enough to get employment, you're old enough to leave. Some people would think that's running away. I feel it's running towards a better life for you. If you continue to take the abuse, you will be stressed out to the point where you might lose your damn mind!
Girlfriend do not continue to be tortured by people who are suppose to love you. GET AWAY!
2006-09-11 02:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in curses so...
Either your family/friends/boyfriends are all jerks, and you should try and distance yourself from them, or you should take a good hard look at yourself, and how you relate to other people.
Could you be attracting the wrong sorts of people, or could your actions be putting others on edge.
It seems a bit odd that everyone you mentioned is so negative towards you, are you sure you are not in some way provoking this behavior?
2006-09-11 02:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are people hitting you? Do you live with these people? If you are being physically abused, call the police and press charges. If you are working, save your money and get your own place or even a room to rent. You don't have to stand for that kind of treatment. Don't ever let anyone miss treat you or mentally or physically abuse you. Stand up for yourself, don't act like a victim any more!
2006-09-11 02:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not bad luck or a curse it sounds like your just surrounded by people who treat you like a doormat and feel they can say and do whatever they like to you - sounds harsh but maybe your persona attracts them as well as your boyfriend seems like this - you cant chose your family but you can chose your friends so I would start with them - if you dont feel they respect you then move on and eventually you will find friends who do respect you - next time your boyfriend tells you to get out do just that and go find a man who also respects you !
As for your family unfortunatly you cant chose these but you can chose how much time you spend with them and as you get older and finish your studies you will also be able to chose how near you live to them
Choices - remember this :-)
2006-09-11 03:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club,very few people have domestic bliss with family,we cant pick our family but certainly we can choose our friends.If your friends are disrespecting you that much,then they arn't really your friends,you need to find some new ones.Its not a curse,its life and every family has its own issues.There is no perfect family.Try to do things to make yourself happy instead of relying upon others.
2006-09-11 02:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens in my wife's family. Your problems may stem from the fact that you are trying to live for God. Worldly people do not like that. In my family we were taught to love and help one another, so this kind of behaviour is puzzling to me, why would they treat some one in this fashion when they one day will depend upon that person? This makes no sense to me. It is ignorant behaviour.
2006-09-11 02:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty grim. I don't believe in 'curses' or any of that supernatural nonsense - You're just unlucky in the people you have in your life. I would say dump the boyfriend, distance yourself from your family and find some new friends!
2006-09-11 02:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad decisions girlfriend..These people are not helping you they are hindering you..why are you trying to hang on to them.. Give them the boot for now.. tell them that you have had enough.. especially the bf.. Your family does not respect you, and they won't if you let them walk all over you.. live your own life.. make new friends.
2006-09-11 02:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋