Can anyone help me???anyone?

Question

I'm 14.My boyfriend is 4 years older than me and lives in another city(we're together 1 month).I realy love him and I think that he loves me too.We were just friends 2 years and now,well we are a couple.Here's the problem: 2 months ago I met one guy on the internet.He's 1 year older than me.Yesterday we went out for the first time(just like friends) but I feel that I want to be something more than friend with him.I realy realy like this guy and he likes me(he told me) but I also like my boyfriend and I have no idea what to do. PLEASE HEEELP!!!! P.S sorry if there are some mistakes in the writing

Answer 1

Dump the boyfriend and start over.

You wanted advice, not a lecture, so I'll keep it at that.

Answer 2

I noticed that with the older guy you use the word 'love' and with the second you use 'like'. But there are other things you have to think about. 18 years old is probably a little too old for a 14 year old but give him the benefit of the doubt until you find out otherwise. Why not continue to see the internet guy - just as a friend and give yourself a time limit to see how you feel - say three months. Honey you are still very young to worry about this but having been through it all I speak from experience. Don't worry about it - good luck

Answer 3

At 14 you have no business having a boyfriend especially on four years older. He's 18? He is a sexual predator So is the guy you met on-line. Sorry to be harsh but if you want to be rape and abused keep going the way your going. no good can come from dating a guy that's that much older that you. Don/t be in such a hurry to grow up it is not all that.Slow down before your forced to grow up in directions you will not want to go. Tell your Mom that you are meeting guys on-line and Meeting up with them. If she's all for that then good luck. Chance are you don't want to tell her because you know how dangerous your activities are.

Answer 4

Explain to the first guy that you like him a lot and want to still be friends with him, but that you need to get to know other guys for a few years before you make a decision about who you want to marry. If the first guy is the best one for you and you for him both of you will figure that out when you have lived long enough to finish college and start your careers. Those events should best occur before marriage.

Answer 5

Some guidelines for you:

1. If you want to date (not endosing this since you are young), you date your BF.
2. If BF post is occupied, then he gets your attention.
3. If you like someone else, you need to deal with BF first.
4. Once BF slot is vacated, you can date whoever you want.

So... let me get this straight. Given the timeline, you sound a little wishy-washy on what you're supposed to do in a BF/GF relationship. I'm not sure either one is a BF at this point. Seems to me like you are just hang out with both. If you decide you want to be with internet guy, eject BF first. (I would recommend this anyway... he's in a different city and he's too old for you.)

Keep it clean, keep it fun.

Answer 6

At the age of 14 I have a hard time believing you know what love is. Anyway, you're still really young, you shouldn't have to be tied down with a serious relationship. Keep seeing the other guy and see where it takes you. You have your whole life ahead of you to find the right guy

Answer 7

Fickle. Look up the word.


There will be lots more than these two along the way. You have puppy love. Mature love means a deep friendship must be in place. YOu hardly know these guys.


Concentrate on what you want to do in your life, shcool, clubs. That will take you in the direction where the right guys will eventually show up.

Answer 8

Honestly? Your problem is that you are14. When you are that young you change your mind about guys as many times a you change your outfits in a day! I know that is not the answer you were looking for but it is the truth. Dating is to find the person you are going to marry, and we shouldn't date unless you are ready to get married. That way you are mature enough, and know what you want in a husband. That knowledge comes with age and experience, and you should just be thinking about school, and what you want to be when you graduate. Guys are not any good at your age anyways, they aren't interested in you as a person. Youshould know what they are after and that sex should wait until after marriage like God intended. And that dating should be for young teenagers, but for mature adults like God intended. Ask your father for dating advise and see what he says.Good luck.

Answer 9

Wow this is a hard one. Well to me if you chose to go out with this guy form the internet then that tells me that your not in love with your boyfriend and really domt want to be with him,long distnace relationship is really hard to do especially when the realtionship is based mostly on the phone etc. your 14 years old enjoy your teenage yrs and go with the guy you met on the internet.

Answer 10

Your bf is 18 which makes this relationship illegal and also get the drift that most guys aged 12 to 25 are general sexaholics..."i think that he loves me too." is a phrase i heard way too often and proven false more times than not...generaly dudes older than you think of you as pardon the expresion a"sex doll" i mean sorry to say it but if your easily swain by them and easily fooled they will pass you around more than a keg of beer.

Honestly sniff them out and which seems to be sexualy interested in you is the one who should get the boot.

Answer 11

first off your only 14 years old why not date both of them don't get in a committed relationship until your lil bit older have fun out there but don't be giving them anything like sex or you just be a lil hoochie lol just date them. Also let your boyfriend no how you feel that you rather just date him instead of being in a relationship with just him if he dont like it Fu** him. Good luck and have lots of fun while you can sweetie