I met this guy on a Thursday went to hang out with him and his friends then we went to his house i slept with him ( i know i can slap my self right now) and same thing on Fri, Sat. So now i want to get to know him to see if this can be something else for the near future. Funny thing i really thought i was not going to get a call from him the day after but i did (surprising) So what to expect? I have never done something like this before.
2006-09-11 02:35:29 · 21 answers · asked by It Happens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, there is always the Double Standard....okay for a guy to **** you on the first date, but not true for you. I'd say your only hope would be to first, not chase him. Second, if you do see him again, make sure it is for a real date, not just sex. Then talk with him and tell him that you are embarrassed and you really do not usually have sex on a first date. Blame it on being really drunk or horny or whatever. Ask him if he is interested in 'starting over' and see what he says.
2006-09-11 02:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are maybe expecting something serious to develop... don't waste too much time doing so... He met you and bedded you on a Thursday, then on Friday, then on Saturday... In his mind he probably sees you as a "good thing"... Easy lay to put it politely... and he more than likely believes you do the same thing with every guy you meet, even though you may have told him otherwise... So don't expect much from this encounter...
2006-09-11 02:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what u really want from this guy cuz if u d wanna deepen the relationship then broach the subject carefully n see what he says or does but if he humms n harrs n dodges the question or shuts down then he was never relationship material n just keep him on ur f**kbuddy list. If not then enjoy it for what it is n dont pressure everything so much n see what happens. U neva know u might just get under his skin....
2006-09-11 02:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, your screen name's "it happens". It takes one day to start to do something you have never done in your life. However, forget about what you've done, the question is "how do you place this guy in your life - a casual friend, a sex-mate, or what? You'll be in the best position to answer that question. But, you've really NOT known this guy well enough before you started sleeping with him. I'm not saying you shouldn't sleep with a guy but you should sleep with a guy you know and love and he loves you too.
2006-09-11 02:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship based on sex will always be about sex no matter how much you like him. Next time you like a guy and want more than sex DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM.If he really likes you he will wait. There is no way to take back what you've already done. My advice is not to sleep with him again. Find someone that you can develop a real relationship with not one that is ONLY about sex. Try not to be so EASY.This guy only thinks of you as HIS WHORE. That will not change. Move on and find some morals
2006-09-11 02:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hope you had fun, but don't expect anything from a guy you slept with on the very first date...he has already formed his opinion of you and what your good for...and it's not a committed relationship. Ok, you scred up once, dust yourself off and don't make the same mistake again, it never works out.
2006-09-11 02:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although men are really good at getting into bed without a second thought, they have real issues the day after ... akwardness, self-esteem, ego, etc etc etc ... he's probably just avoiding dealing with the emotions and just flooding them with sex. So youll get more sex, but I doubt he feels safe enough with you emotionally to get closer in a different way.
Its really rare that a relationship forms from just sex, although if he has been building you up in his mind for a while its been known to happen. If he has been into you for a while ... etc..
2006-09-11 02:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by shellsandscripts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So? Just continue going out with him, and keep your eyes open; it should be apparent pretty soon if he's only interested in sex, or perhaps he too wants to get to know you better and get more serious. There's nothing wrong with having sex WHILE you're getting to know each other, there's no rule that the latter HAS to preceed the former.
2006-09-11 02:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you worked it good on him lol my bf and me together now 2 yrs I did him too like the 2nd day and we live happy and are planning on getting marrid. So there is hope especially if he called dont worry i think you will have something in the future Goodluck
2006-09-11 02:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so I'm not a guy.....but....I would say that just because the one-night stand lasted more than one night doesn't mean that it should be looked upon any differently.
However, if he likes you let him chase you, don't chase him - just until you know that he is actually interested, otherwise you may end up looking like a stalker.
2006-09-11 02:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋