I told this girl I’ve been dating for 3 months that I had strong feelings for her and I was falling in love with her. She was very surprised and said at the time it was a good thing and she was happy to hear it. Well a week went by and now she says she is freaked out a little because she’s been thinking about it. I’m not head over heels in love with her but do have strong feelings for her. I told her that I wasn’t like let’s get married in love but I do have strong feelings and wanted to convey them in some way. My choice of words may not have been the best but I’m not really good at this sort of thing. Anyway, we saw each other yesterday and things seemed to go ok. I still felt a sense of awkwardness though. Should I back off and see how it goes some or should I forget this one? She has a hard time conveying any feelings toward me and said that it was just the way she was. Should I continue to show her affection or back off some to see if she starts showing me anything?
2006-09-11 02:30:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would continue on as you were BEFORE you stated your feelings... I wouldn't mention it again or try to explain your words any further. I wouldn't back off, but don't push either... just maintain as you have in the past. Eventually, she'll come back around.
2006-09-11 02:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are wierd about it... she will be too.
Just let the statement pass... and see where it goes. She's still seeing you, so it's not like you've blown it. She's probably hoping things get back to status-quo. (As are you.) So, the best thing to do is nothing. Don't make the mistake of spending your time together defining your relationship -- cause, you'll miss out on all the fun you could be having. Now, in a couple of more months, if she hasn't sorted out her feeling towards you, and if you still feel the same way... then you need to RUN -- -RUN LIKE THE WIND!
2006-09-11 02:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are moving way too fast for most people.....It sounds as if you may have scared her a little bit. If you wish to have any hope, I'd tone it back a notch, or else she is going to feel smothered and will back off from you, or maybe break it off completely. You must respect her feelings too. If she chooses to love you, it must be her choice. Just because you have strong feelings for her, doesn't mean she does, nor ever will have the same feelings for you.
FYI-In my own experience, and my observations of my buddies, guys who find it necessary to be the first to say, "I love you," wind up "dumped," or "whipped."
Lastly, If she gets a restraining order, you should probably quit.....
2006-09-11 02:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once dated a guy for about the same amount of time before he told me he loved me. It freaked me out, because I was still too unsure as to where the relationship was going. I wanted to take it slow and just have a good time with him. He was the sweetest guy ever! But... this caused our relationship to fall apart, because I felt guilty about not feeling the same way as he aparently did. If I were you, I would give her her space and not push her into anything serious. Maybe she is simply not looking for love right now. That doesn't mean that she won't fall in love with you, because she very well may! But sometimes lots of time is all that is needed. Good luck to you!
2006-09-11 03:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like you said its hard for her to express her feelings so give some time to digest your confession and get used to the idea - don't force her and don't dump her - if you say you have strong feelings for her then you wouldn't want to let go.
Maybe you should question your own feelings why else are you considering letting her go...
If you don't see any change then just ask her how she feels.
2006-09-11 02:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably just caught her off guard a little bit. Tell her that you didn't want to scare her, just that you wanted to let her know how you felt about her, and that you want to see where it goes, you're not in any hurry to jump into something really serious.
2006-09-11 02:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
diferent men are atracted to diferent personalityes so we cant realy anser you. personaly i like clever women particularly than extremely suitable and stupid. finding a woman that i realy know and dont choose her in basic terms for intercourse: now i'm geting maried, i had like 7 girlfriends, i cared for 2, geting maried with the 2nd i fell in love with.
2016-09-30 14:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off. if she had feelings for you, she should not have a hard time showing it. she's stringing you along. back off so that you can see the person out there who is truly interested in you for you.
2006-09-11 02:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really think that you should just ask her whats going on and if she wants to continue on with the relationship.
2006-09-11 02:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. she's playing a game and she wants to make you obsess over her
2. she's scared she might be feeling it too
3. she thinks your playing a game with her
Just stay cool for a bit, let her work it out.
2006-09-11 02:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by shellsandscripts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋