Me and my ex decided to give it another shot! I told him that I want us to take things slow. But he is really stating to freek me out and I dont know what to do anymore. He is starting to talk about marrige and wants me to move into a flat with him. And the more I say no I dont wanne. Then he tells me I'm scared and we are ment for each other!!! I dont wanne move in with him or get married cause we use to live togheter and I know what its like. He also tends to lie about financial issues and that scares me!! What do I do when he knows that I'm the type of person that will give in and say yes just to keep him qaute!!! Help
2006-09-11 02:25:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Opel,
Take care. Be keen. Men are liars at times. Be slow and consult your mind. Pannel beat the whole idea once more and decide it yourself.
Be observant. If you see any of his past characters still existing, please pave way and dont consent to move to slavery. Especially if he is the one who caused a break up at first.
Thanks and bye.
2006-09-12 03:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent years giving in to other people. You have to make up your own mind to end it and FOLLOW THROUGH. I know it's hard. I've been there. You must learn to take control of your own life. Life is short. Follow your instincts with this guy. From what you've said it sounds like, he knows just what to say to manipulate you. Grow a backbone, woman. I finally did and I don't regret it in the least. Good luck.
2006-09-11 02:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the type of person that will give in just to shut him up then pack up and move in with him.Otherwise remember the reasons you broke up with him in the first place those issues are still there/ a leopard doesn't change his spots.
2006-09-11 02:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may over simplify your situation but get out now. If you know its not gonna work and he is pushing you into a freak out . This is not the right man for you so stop spinning your wheels and go find Mr right. Remember there is a reason he is your ex
2006-09-11 02:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
opel. Please listen to me. you are talking about the exact guy I used to be. DO NOT go back to him. IF he is lieing to you about money it means that YOU are not important to him and money is. if you are scared it is for a reason. Ring your friends or your family everyday. Tell your self everyday the reasons he is your ex.
the truth is you dont want to be with him. tell him this and tell him that if he respects you at all he will leave you alone. If he keeps hounding you put a restraining order on him. HE sounds like a control freak, he is trying to control everything around him because he has no faith in controlling himself. EXACTLY who I used to be.
2006-09-11 02:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know it is not going to work... why even give it another try. That is the reason he keeps pressuring you because he knows you are just going to give in... I say move on and let him see that for once you say and mean no.
2006-09-11 02:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay firm. You know what you want and don't want. Tell him what your feelings are, he should be supportive and if not get out now. If you are not happy, only YOU can make the changes needed to find your happiness.
Above all else stay firm.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-11 02:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_n_sassy2204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answered your own question. if you know how he is and what might happen, don't move in with him. if you love him and want to give it another try then do it, but DON'T let him talk you into rushing into things before your ready. if he cannot accept this, then tell him to forget it.
2006-09-11 02:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from your ex. Don't just "yes" your way into a one-sided relationship.
This takes some effort on your part.
2006-09-11 02:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a reason why you guys broke up and now you see it clear why you need to leave him again maybe he isn't the way for you maybe you need some time to think about what it is you really want and if you really want to be with him
2006-09-11 02:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋