So i love this girl from work, and she said she's loved me even longer, but she just got out of a bad relationship. i have spent hours upon hours talkin to her, and we get really close. One night she fell asleep on me for half an hour. then when she woke up, we just kept talking some more.
So i asked her if she wanted to be more than friends, and she said she just wasnt quite sure yet, cuz its only been 2 weeks since her break-up, but i know she likes me. everytime we hug (which is a lot) her head is just right there on my shoulder, and i REALLY just want to kiss her, even a peck on the cheek, but she said 'just friends' for now.
would it be wrong to kiss her?
2006-09-11 02:01:32 · 23 answers · asked by MM&FF 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The Kiss....
Dude,you better do something soon,or else you're going to be moved to the "I just want to be friends catagory" Permanantly!
You will be the guy she thinks is perfect.(For one of her friends!!!)"
You'll end up being the guy who is always picking up the peices of her broken heart,every time a guy dumps her.
You'll be the perfect man.(For one of her friends!)
In othe words,a Wussy!
Early on, I
often was at a loss on when it was appropriate to kiss the girl at
the end of the date. The penny eventually dropped as I noticed some
consistent body language and behaviors, which gave me some direction
on how to proceed.
Here is what I learned:
- Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has
clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is
not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will
not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
- If you're not quite sure on the status of things -- for example if
you can't really tell if her reticence is due to shyness (but she
likes you) or disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to
initiate some physical contact.
Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you
into her personal zone. Casually tease her and then put your arm
around her waist -- if she hugs up on you a little, that's a great
sign; if she cringes you're probably kissing the dog tonight. Put
your hand or arm near hers to make it easier for her to touch you.
Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she
smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear
uncomfortable?
The basic point is to casually put her into some situations where
she cannot avoid giving you some body language signals about her
feelings for you -- either positive or negative.
- Once you've analyzed the situation and you think it's okay to kiss
her, then square up to her and just kiss her. Don't say anything
unless it is unusually profound or funny.
Never ask her if you can kiss her. By now her body language and/or
comments should have given you all the green lights you need. Give
her a good kiss; a meek, hesitant kiss sends the same message as a
weak handshake ('I am a wussy,with a capital W !!!').
I have found that girls rate that first kiss as an important
indicator. If you do it at the appropriate time, and do it
assertively yet smoothly, then you'll score some big points.
2006-09-11 02:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by yablomee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's already stressed that she just wants to be friends for now... to kiss her would really risk you losing THAT.
You should start to work your way past that "friend" stage by just kissing her on the forehead when you say goodbye. Eventually, when you greet her, before you hug, give her a light peck on the cheek and continue on with the hug.
You have to make both actions like it was a natural friendly gesture. If the subject comes up stress that you don't kiss every girl on the forehead or cheek, but with her it just comes across you naturally.
2006-09-11 09:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. As much as you think this is the right thing to do, it might not be best for her. She just needs a friend right now and she trusting you to respect her wish of "just friends." If you force the issue, you may loose a good friend. But, and this is crucial, if you do kiss her: DO NOT LET IT LEAD INTO SEX! This will certainly destroy your friendship. If you really care for her the way I think you do, just be patient.
2006-09-11 09:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's sounds like you two are really into each other but if she says just friends a peck on the cheek would be fine it seems that you two are pretty close... she probably just wants some time to get herself sorted out, just let her have her time and she'll probably appreciate you for it.
hopefully it'll work out for you,
good luck
2006-09-11 09:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by lymphaticgothicvamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she is ready.You need to be sure she is ready for a new relationship.If you do before she is ready,the friendship can be over.Talk with her, ask her if she want something more and when.If she say is not ready,apology to her (be very smart),and the friendship will continuous.When we deal with women,sometimes we need to act as" surgeon doctor", (with knowledge and tact).Good luck.
2006-09-11 09:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be wrong to kiss her!!!! she has said she JUST wants to be FRIENDS! if you kiss her and take advantage now...when she is ready for a relationship it wont be with you!!!! dont ruin your chance by letting your hormones( or should i say your d*ick) take over!!! calm down and give the woman a break here!!! its only been two weeks since her break up!!!
2006-09-11 09:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it isn't wrong u just expressed ur feeling....she said just friendship as of now then wait until that friendship turns to a greater relationship...give her a long time to think but don't eave her alone just dn't mention the thing she doesn't want to talk (i mean the relationship to be lovers), in times she'll be the one to open that topic........
2006-09-11 09:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
breakups are hard she is in recovery and you are hoping you are in that recovery so let her recover because kissing is moving too fast at this point . your already getting hugs and her sleeping on you don't push your luck. let it be at least another couple wks you can judge for yourselve the way things are going
2006-09-11 09:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really like her give her time she just got out of a bad realtionship do u just want to be the rebound guy or have something serious???? Just be there for her that is what she needs right now.
2006-09-11 09:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. Cause the longer she waits the more you will get.
If you try too early she will just think you are after nothing but sex.
All good things come to those who wait.
2006-09-11 10:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋