why all the dishonesty?

Question

was in a long distance relationship. girlfriend told me that she had been seeing other men for a long time off and on and she was recently in a relationship in which she broke off, but she's 3-4 months pregnant. she claims that our relationship was over for her a long time ago, but at the same time we constantly,communicated and i always helped her whenever she needed help. she made it sound like, even though our distance was getting alittle fustrating, our relationship was cool and we just had to work together and try to bridge our distance. she pretty much played me. she had been acting funny, more moody, seemed short tempered with me, seemed like a totally different person. whenever i asked her if she was cheated etc...she would blow her top, but in reality, she was cheating. she just stopped trying with us and put the whole thing on me. if i didnt come "get her" then i didnt care for her. she just stopped working at our relationship. money was tight. we both had to work towards it

she moved on, but never told me she moved on, so whenever i would talk about whats going on, she would act like she didnt want to hear it. like i had the problem with not moving on. but she never told me anything about moving on. i dont get it. she used to call me all the time, then her mood changed. she was extremely moody. would hang up on me, holler at me, short tempered. anything would blow her top. but she cant call me and tell me the truth about everything!! cant figure it out. now, she blames me for everything, says its my fault, i didnt move fast enough, im crying and feeling sorry for myself. if i was a man i would have came and got her. but whenever she needed help i was a man and i helped her. but she never brings that up. i never cheated on her, was always honest with her, super nice to her, i dont drink or smoke, always encouraging her. but she paints me to be this bad, person who never did anything for her or our relationship.

my question is,why the coldness on her part. when we first met, she begged me not to leave her. when she cheated on me a few years ago, she begged me to take her back and give her another chance and i did. if you have a good guy in your corner, why treat him like crap and play him out. when she wanted me to treat her different then all the other guys treated her in the past. i did. now shes treated me the same way she didnt want me to treat her. she seems totally oblivious to what she did and i shouldnt feel bad or anything like that.she used to tell me that she wanted to marry me and have kids and i was gonna be the last relationship shes ever gonna be in. what a joke. feel like a totally idiot. especially now that she seems to have zero pity for me.her big thing is she doesnt want to have any guilt or feel guilty about anything.she just want to have the baby. she doesnt care about anything else.doesnt care how she treated me.forgets all the times i helped her. what a waste of time

Answer 1

oh !! create a habit to summarize huh...who will be interested to read all those stuffs.?

Answer 2

Sorry, man, sounds like a one sided relationship to me. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you. There are many women out there looking for a guy that will treat her right.This chick is causing too much drama. It's not worth the heart ache!

Answer 3

3 words should sum this all up for you. Long Distance Relationship

Answer 4

she's dishonest because she's using you. wake up. you got played because you allowed yourself to be played. it was inconvenient for her to have a long distance relationship, but she knew you would help her if she asked, so she messed around but she kept you hanging on. you're a security blanket to her. that's all. leave her be.

Answer 5

what i suggest is: move on dude really. it seems like the best thing