what is a break?
my bf told me he wants a break.. but he loves me were still together he just needs a lil space,
and if we touch another person sexually it is still cheating, what do you see from this?
i wont see him tll he is over his problems and i understand that but im hurting and i need your opinion pls be nice about it and honest
thank you
2006-09-11 01:35:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A break is that he doesn't want to see you exclusively. If you agree to the break and you touch another person sexually it is not cheating because you are taking a break from your relationship.
If you are not seeing him then you are (and he is) free to do whatever you (and he) wants. He probably wants to date another girl but he wants to keep you on hold in case it doesn't work out.
2006-09-11 01:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awfully ambivalent message, that. He's feeling smothered, whether in actual fact that's true or not. Many younger men do feel that way when they percieve their girl getting too clingy and controlling. It's also difficult for young men to make the emotional transition from being free to do as they darn well please to submitting to the idea of an exclusive relationship.
You can do several things to ease your way through this stage. (1)You can give him a bit more space - but remind him that if the two of you are to remain lovers, he cannot go dating others, because that's not love, it's cheating. (2) You can refrain from checking up on his every move while you are physically apart. Such "checking up" is usually expressed by a demand to know from him whenever you're together a detailed history of what he did while you were apart. (3) you can decide that you are going to really let him have a period of time to get his act together by saying "Okay, we can be friends, but it's time for us to back off, and even date others on a casual basis." Yes, you risk his getting interested in someone else and dumping you, but he runs exactly the same risk. Sometimes you just gotta take the risk. (4) You can simply say "end of relationship" and move on. If I'm right in what I read between the lines of your question, this is where your relationship with him needs to go. It can be painful, but if it's plainly inevitable, the sooner you make the break, the sooner the pain will be past and the sooner you can start working on new relationships. Good luck,
2006-09-11 02:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf told me he wanted a break too. It's just a fancy word to breaking up. If you get involved with someone else it's not cheating. There is no guarantee that you and your man are going to back together. Don't wait around him. Go live a little.
By the way me and my EX have been on this break for 2 months now. We still talk and all, but he's got a new girl and I gotta a new man.
2006-09-11 01:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys perspective, a break can sometime mean just that...a small break. I once asked for that as well, and I had no other girl "in the wing." I simply needed some time to get my things in order, re-evaluate some things, and simply make sure that I am happy with how things are going...and all of that does not even have to be about the girl. That added free time and space, is just a clearing of the mind in some cases.
2006-09-11 01:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by d2113 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a break usually means to a guy is that he wants you to remain faithful to him while he sees other people. Of course, this may not be the case in your situation. Do you have any friends between the both of you that you could trust to do a little detective work for you? The best policy is to be upfront but if he keeps avoiding telling you what's exactly going on in his mind then he's obviously hiding something. The point, you won't be able to sleep at night until you know the whole truth, however painful it might be.
2006-09-11 01:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A break is just a "nice" way for one person to break-up with another. Maybe he just wants to keep you on the sideline in case he doesn't find something better. Either way I would say keep looking this boy is not in your best interest. People who are "in love" do NOT need space from each other, this you can count on weather you are 15 or 50.
2006-09-11 01:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he told you why he wants a break? I don't think I could do it, you are either together or your not. You need to tell him you are not happy with this situation and want it sorted out. Don't let him call all the shots, you are in an equal relationship and so he needs to make up his mind and let you know whats going on.
2006-09-11 01:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How foolish the young mind is....He is seeing someone else. If you love someone, you do not need a break from them. He is doing this so he will not feel guilty about getting with someone else, and he is saying there will be no touching of others to keep you sitting and waiting while he goes out and gets a nice healthy dose of AIDS!
2006-09-11 01:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by MICHIGAN PI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your other half becomes aggrevating sometimes. Nothing that you do, but just being around or talking to them can become so mundane. Think of it like school, you like to go for the friends and socializing but sometimes you need a break. But when you come back you have so much more to talk about. ANd trust me when you do get back together, it'll almost be like when you first met.
2006-09-11 01:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might not be the answer you want to hear but.....
true love doesn't need a break
wouldn't you rather be with someone who truly makes you happy. wouldn't you rather be with someone who doesn't need space from you.
there is someone out there for everyone. true love does exist.
i know you probably love this guy heaps and he is probably heaps cool to you. its gonna be hard trying to get over it so im not even gonna say that but in the mean time (while he's having his break and you cant touch anyone else) your true love might pass you by.
2006-09-11 01:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋