I went out with this guy the other night and he wouldn't pay for the champagne I ordered, frankly I was insulted - isn't that why HE ASKED me out, to wine and dine me?
2006-09-11 01:34:45 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he asked you out, then he should pay.......but these days its a 50-50 thing, so he should have paid at least half!!
2006-09-11 01:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by thumberlina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh here we go! I can't believe you think you have a right to act this way! My God, you ladies wanted equal rights and now that you have them you still whine! Typical! Ok, if you're out for a meal the bill should be split down the middle, 50/50. If on the other hand he asked YOU out on the date well then fair enough, the asker should pay the bill, that's FINE! Now here's the funny bit about you. You take advantage of his generousity and good nature by taking the liberty of ordering CHAMPAGNE just because it's his shout? If you were spliiting the bill or if you had asked him out and you were paying fine then order whatever the hell you want, I mean, who taught you your manners?
Seriously, as I said, you wanted equal rights and now you have them, tough! Immature girls like you who live in a dream world where you're a little princess and everyone swoons at your feet just because you enter a room make me laugh, grow up! Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean here but you really don't seem to have a clue!
2006-09-11 02:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by T M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you check with him before you ordered the champagne? That is a lot to ask someone to pay for. Just because he asked you out to wine and dine you, doesn't mean you should order expensive.
2006-09-11 01:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I'm very traditional. If a man really likes a woman, he feels the price oof things like DINNNER and GAS and ENTERTAINMENT are woorth being with me and gladly picks up the bill. after a few dates, I pay for something small like the tip at dinner or reciprocate with tickets to a play "that a friend gave me" and invite him to go. but he pays for popcorn and everything else while he is there. I'd also do things like Bake cookies or a basket of muffins or soemthign liek that. nonmonetary stuff. They DO say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. But this guy not paying for the champagne is ridiclous! TRhe last guy I was with, I made Tea whenever he asked. That was what he wanted. he always had Tea in his fridge. (Neither one of us drink alcohol.)
2006-09-11 01:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies, this is 2006. We all work and we all like to have a good time. As a guy, I don't mind picking up the tab with someone and do the 1st couple of times because I can afford to. However not everyone can afford to take you out to an expensive restaurant. It is good manners to offer to pay because if you went by yourself to the same place, you would have to do so anyway. Not sure of the situation here, but maybe what you ordered was out of line for a first date and you should have paid for it. From what it sounds like, he bought your dinner. Just not your drink.
2006-09-11 03:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Champagne! No wonder he didn't want to pay. Do you know what wine and dine means? WINE....!
I'd be surprised if he even calls you again if you were dumb enough to order Champagne. Are you a gold digger by any chance? was he rich.
I think it is wrong to expect ANYTHING on a date - especially in the early stages. you are just getting to know each other and to expect is to be disappointed.
2006-09-11 01:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by GravyG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you expect him to pay then ordering champagne is really rude because that is something reserved for 5 or 6 dates down the line. Plus women have fought for years to be treated equally which means sharing the bill. However it is your choice how you lead your life, if you don't want to be treated equally expect the jobs of washing, ironing, cleaning, preparing dinner for your husband etc. if you need anymore help try looking in housekeeping monthly. which is a 1950's magazine. Anyway i think its safe to say good luck to you sister i think you'll need it
2006-09-11 01:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Purple_Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if HE asked you then yeah I think its acceptable for him to pick up the tab - for the first date - but the fact you ordered champagne may have been a bit cheeky - I mean it is alot more expensive than other drinks, so perhaps you should have offered to pay for that yourself.
He didnt do himself any favours by refusing to pay for it though. Maybe you're just not well suited to each other!
2006-09-11 02:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he pay?? You should have at least offered to pay half!!
As you said he asked you out to wine and dine you not for you to take the piss and order the most expoensice thing on the menu!!!!
2006-09-11 02:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had asked you out and you ordered champagne, and didn't protest or talk about going dutch treat then yes I would have paid for the entire evening.
2006-09-11 01:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gentleman who asks you out should always be happy to pay - unless there has been a prior agreement.
Additionally, I disagree with the suggestion by one Answers friend that payment should rely on the intention to finish the evening with a shag. Although, of course, its a good ending if it happens.
2006-09-11 04:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋