Long distance relationships...what makes it work?

Question

He tells me 'he really really like me' & I do too, how can we make our feelings grow if we're so far apart???

Answer 1

I have a long distance relationship and what makes it work is we try and see each other when we can. I met a man in my city in Canada then after a month he got a job transfer to the US. This relationship has been going on now for 6 months now and when we can we meet each other half way. We also talk every day on the phone , on line , via e-mail. What I believe makes it works is we both have very strong feelings for each other and we make it work. It is not easy if he was transferred to a country over seas I think it would of been harder. The key is you must meet you can not have a relationship with any man or woman you never met. That never works, there are to many people out there believing they are in love because of the pretty words that are said online. When you meet in person things changed we all know we can say anything online but to actually do those things or be those things in person is something else. Good Luck I hope you meet soon and it works out.

Answer 2

Long distance relationships do work. Anyone that tells you otherwise is too blinded by their own selfish needs to make them work though. You have to be patient. I know that this is a foriegn term to most people, but it is easier. Just accept that you are going to talk a lot on the phone. Realize that when you are away from each other for a long time, it is going to be a little wierd when you see each other again. If your relationship is strong though, that should not matter; you should realized rather quickly that you are still in the same spot you were last time you were together. Also, be open sexually. Unfortunately, sex is what ends a long distance relationship. There is a need in everyone for sexual confirmation. You should try as little as possible to be exposed to this part of your partners life. Sex does not equal a relationship. If you can get through this time of distance, and allow some lee way, things will get better. A lot of people want the convienence of someone closer, and they like to think it wasn't possible with the other person. This is a shame considering they most likely gave up on someone who was a very good friend.

Answer 3

The world has now become a global village. A lasting and fruitfull relationship (be it long or short distance) can only work based on trust.

Nonetheless, for a long distance relationship like yours, the following must be strictly adhered to:

A. Trust: This is very fundermental because without trust in a relationship, both of you may be leaving a world of illussion.

B. Committment: The two sides must also be committed to one another. This will go a long way to manage the resources of union.

C. Responsibility: Each one of one should be responsible to one another. In every given situation that you might hear your partner is, show each other that you are giving it your sense of responsibility to the course of the union's success.

D. Loyal: Because you are far appart does not give you the room to be an infidel. Once you established a worthy relationship and for it to weather the test of time, you must remain loyal.

E. Love: As simple as it may sound, you must love your partner. Without love being given a chance in the relationship, it will surely collapse.

F. Contact: For your relationship to be realy yours, each and every means of communication channels should be explored to their full advantage. These comes more easily accessible and cheap in the modern day twenty-first century. They include:

Phone calls; Letters; emails; Imessaging; webcams amongst host of others.

Since the world is now a global village any relationship be it long or short that takes into consideration all aforementioned indices must surely work out successfully.

Answer 4

No matter how far apart people are, if feelings are true there should be no reason that you cant make it work. Of course you will need to put a lot of effort in to it, but if you really mean you like him and you believe there is something there between you both then make the time, put the effort in. Call each other, send letters and emails. In todays world there is no limit! Trust each other. Enjoy!

Answer 5

Usually long distance relationship do NOT work out. The longer apart the couple is, the more difficult it becomes!!
How long can a couple write emails to each other before u realize that u need more than an email??

Answer 6

Lot's of conversations. that way it never gets boring!

If this is the real deal. Feelings should grow distant or not. When it's there it's there. I've been in long distance relationships, since I've been dating so for about 6 years now.

Its hard. But it's the best way to get to know somebody. Phone relationships!

Answer 7

Long distance relationships do work .. if you are both commited to put the work into it. It takes a lot of trust, loyalty and communication. Things that helped us in a 2 year plus additional 1 year deployment was web cams, Instant Messaging, phone calls, emails, photos of one another .. and in addition we created a blog to write to one another.

Needless to say our relationship was successful and are happily married today.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 8

I found out that long distance relationships don't work.... I was in one recently.....we both loved each other....we talked constanly on the phone....I ran up a HUGE cell phone bill....3 e-mails a day...I was in heaven...but then she came to visit me and we found that the chemistry wasn't there...I wasn't what she expected and she wasn't what I expected...Our feelings grew before that but upon meeting in person, they quickly disappeared! We ended up "just friends" the last 5 days of her visit and there was nothing I could do about it..I was willing to try but she wouldn't...the previous 4 months of our "long distance" relationship suddenly meant nothing and it's been hard for me to get over! Just hope for the best but expect the worst if you continue your long distance relationship! I hope you have better luck than I did!!

Answer 9

Commitment and nothing else. If you are truly committed, do not stray, and communicate this clearly, then it CAN work. But it takes the MOST amount of work of any relationship. Most people are either too lazy or require instant gratification to put in this much effort.

I know military folks who stay together even with 10,000 miles seperating them by doing just those three things. If there is no commitment or trust, then it ain't gonna work.

Answer 10

The two of you need to use every means of communication that is possible. Emails, telephone calls, texting, letters, etc.
Communication is key in long distance relationships.
Trust is also huge, you guys need to trust each other in order to have a HEALTHY long distance relationship.If you don't know the guy very well then you probably don't have alot to go off of, but if you have been seeing each other for awhile then you know who he is and you know if he can be trusted.