and we used to email each other and forward jokey, comical emails. He asked me to meet up with him and when I refused, (as I told him I just want to keep the friendship email only), I hardly hear from hiim now. The comical forwarded emails have now stopped.
2006-09-11 00:55:31 · 33 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What went wrong?
2006-09-11 00:57:52 · update #1
And?
2006-09-11 00:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a particularly christian thing, it just sounds like he was a bloke looking for more than just an on-line friendship. A pity, and I guess you must feel bad, but the net is big and there are plenty of potential friends out there; I think cyberculture is wonderful, I have friends all over the world; most of them I will probably never meet in the flesh, but we share jokes, off-load to each other, and learn about different societies. It's worth a few disappointments.
2006-09-11 01:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Avondrow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wondering: What does his Christianity have to do with anything? The fact that you mention it suggests you had certain expectations of him. Sounds like he had expectations, too, and that's why the e-mail exchanges have diminished.
I think you're completely correct in wanting to keep it e-mail only and not caving to his request to meet. I'm sorry you were disappointed.
If it's a cyber-friend you're seeking, you'll have no problem hooking up with some simpatico correspondents. Just be careful, as you clearly did with the religious guy.
2006-09-11 01:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal that friendship has to set up on some rules, on line friendship is not meant to be to last for ever. when you chat or send jokes,emails whatever to someone you've never met, it's quite hard because the human being nature is based on social communications and if that is not exist, it would be like your are communicating with a "FANTOM" and this is of course against the human being's nature.
you should accept his reaction, he realized that you are actually not interested in him when you refused to meet him, you only got yourself intertained by his jokes and the feeling of not being lonely and someone is giving you attention.
well, maybe he needs more. its quite hard to build a solid friendship between a woman and a man for a long time, always someone needs more, this is very normal.
2006-09-11 02:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are a very lucky person, you should think very carefully about who this person is and why they want to meet up with you, i think you should report his details to the right authorities who can look into this as it seems very much as though you have been what we call targeted,you could have been at great risk,if he is genuine then why can he not accept that you were happy just chatting via emails, he may be targeting other vulnerable people and you have a duty to yourself and to help protect others, if you feel that you are unsure how to proceed then send me an email (dont worry i do not want to chat or meet you) i will send you details on how to do this, or send me his details and i will get it looked into, take care be safe.(when i said earlier you were lucky i meant lucky you did not go to meet him) (just a clarification)
2006-09-11 01:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by mentor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be better off without him. there are predators out there and i would personally be cynical of anyone who wants to meet unless I could be guaranteed there was a way I could safeguard my person " just in case " something went wrong. You need to protect yourself at all times and if a " Christian gentleman " or any other type of gentleman doesn't understand that then they are not very understanding about the situation at all.
2006-09-11 01:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone who says they are a Christian are Christian. And beware of people you meet on the net, not all of them are as they seem.
You are probably better off now that this person has decided to call it a day. Could be he was deceiving you.
2006-09-12 12:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by ManoGod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure anything "went wrong"!
It could be a misunderstanding, he might not have been a Christian.
If he was, many would say he should only be looking for exclusive leading to marriage relationships with other Christians.
2006-09-11 01:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by WillORNG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety just because he said he was a Christian doesn't mean that he is anything to do with God.I'd say God did you a favor.There are plenty of men that are wolves in sheep's clothing.
Remember this because you could learn it the hard way and I wouldn't want that for you.
2006-09-11 01:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wanted more of a relationship and when he found you weren't interested, he moved on. This has nothing to do with his Christianity, just that he was hoping for a more serious relationship and decided to look elsewhere. He could have said that, tho, I agree. It hurts when someone you thought was a friend just "ices" you like that.
2006-09-11 00:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by anna 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was playing you, he wanted to meet up and then more than likely try and seduce you. Now he is not interested as he knows he is not gonna get what he wants. I doubt he was a true christian man.
2006-09-11 00:58:12 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋