having a reception, I don't want to be rude, but I want
gifts. How do I put on the invitations that I just want money,
no crockpots and junk like that?
2006-09-11 00:47:05 · 18 answers · asked by msboobhead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
tell them you will be following the greek tradtion of pining money on the bride
2006-09-11 00:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, why would you not have a reception? You should not expect any gifts if you not have a reception. It's not appropriate to expect gifts from someone who does not attend the reception. Even if you had a reception - if the person you invited could not attend, normally that person would not send a gift.
Should you have a reception, you should not put that on a wedding invitation. If you don't indicate any wedding registry, when people ask you if you are registered, simply say that you are requesting monetary gifts in lieu of money.
What are you going to use the money for? You wrote that you wanted gifts, so why not just register for the things you would have used the money to buy? Weddingchannel.com is a good place to register b.c you can register for more than one store through the website.
But it is absolutely not appropriate to write anything about money gifts, etc. on the invitation. When people ask, just explain what you would prefer, especially if this is some sort of cultural preference. In many cultures, money is given in lieu of gifts so people will understand.
2006-09-11 09:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can NOT put that on the invitations! It is completely tasteless, rude and ungrateful if you put that on an invitation. I have seen it before and I'm disgusted.
As a bride-to-be, I would never dream of asking anyone for cash. I would never dream of asking for a gift PERIOD.
You don't deserve gifts if your idea of a wedding is just getting gifts. You should entertain your guests with something after a wedding. You don't just have a ceremony, take gifts, and send everyone home!
2006-09-11 10:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are pretty stuck with the reception I think
You can put any request you want on the invitation - Money please no gifts etc..
My wife and I had the wedding reception together on a boat it was all over in 5 hrs - pagan ceremony quick .
If you do come up with a way to have a wedding without a reception let me know - it's too late for me but I'd be interested
2006-09-11 07:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are rude. Wedding gifts are optional, even if you have a reception.
If you don't want household gifts don't register, but remember, if you don't have a reception for the guests that have come to your wedding you cannot expect they will bring gifts.
Brides who pass the word that they want money usually get much less because it angers people.
Tacky.
2006-09-11 14:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot put anything on the invitations without being rude and tacky. This is just not acceptable. Most people don't get married just for what they will receive from others; a wedding is a family and community celebration, and some people gift the couple to help on their start in their new life. It is up to the people as to what they want to bring, if anything. It is not up to you to tell them what you want.
2006-09-11 08:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not put anything relating to gifts on your invitations. Now, if you are having a shower that is a different story.
The best way to get this out is to have your close family tell people you want money for......fillintheblankhere.... instead of gifts. People like your parents or maid of honor and best man. But make sure they don't come out and tell people to bring you money... it has to be subtle.
There is a question very similar to this on the knot. visit www.theknot.com
Congrats!
2006-09-11 08:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should at least have a hour d'ouvre reception or a next day brunch with your attendees.
It is very rude and tacky to write ANYTHING related to ANY sort of gifts in the invitations. Go by word of mouth. Tell your parents his parents and your entire bridal party to convey the message.
2006-09-11 08:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by jeniel17 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can find nice little poems asking for cash donations for you new home or whatever my sister in law wrote a poem for their wedding to help with their honeymoon. but they had a reception. You may find people are reluctant to give up money if there is no reception, after all it is a celebration of two becoming one and not how much money you can get!
2006-09-11 07:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow, I am glad I am not your friend. It will always sound rude if you try and ask for money gifts.
2006-09-11 11:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always put on the invitation " no boxed gifts", they'll get the hint.
as for reception, you may have to have one to get your money!
2006-09-11 08:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋