Would you kick him out of the house since he wanted to play like a man then he can go be one?
2006-09-11 00:45:13 · 33 answers · asked by GrnApl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He knows very well the difference between right and wrong from infancy. His entire family has dedicated their lives to Federal levels of Law Enforcement. He has a scholarship and a future that did not factor in a child.
2006-09-11 01:54:52 · update #1
Damned straight I'd pay for the abortion. There is no sense messing up the boys's life and the girls's life with an unwanted child. Anyone can make a mistake, but only fools repeat them. Be sure your son understands that.
2006-09-11 02:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're really perfect!! He didn't want to play like a man, he was being a normal teenager. The teens and parents need to have a meeting to decide what to do. If you opt for abortion, I recommend a 3-D sonogram first - it will change your mind. If they keep the little one, then your son must get a part-time job in order to help with his child. In no way should he or you turn your backs on the girl.
My son became a father at 16, the mother was street-wise and 19 who just wanted to see what it would be like to have a baby. She tricked him behind our backs. We took her into our home and supported her. The baby was born and, within 7 days, the "mother" didn't think it was fun any more and wanted us to adopt the baby. We took custody of the baby and it was all finalized within about one month. I have never regretted a day of this. That baby is now a wonderful, almost 18 year old who is adored by everyone and has brought so much joy to our lives.
Go to this site:
http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/pictures.html
All of you should look at it.
I know this is hard on all of you, but please don't be mean to your son. He needs you to love him right now, NOT reject him.
2006-09-11 01:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABORTION.........NOT JUST NO, BUT H E L L NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not only is that taking the life of an innocent child who unfortunately was brought into this world by YOUNG people, but the girl can also suffer major complications.....
I wouldnt kick him out of the house either. I would be there for him, and be supportive and help him through this... He must be absolutely terrified knowing that he has a child on the way while he is still a child himself.
I would make him get a job AFTER SCHOOL to start making the money to help financially support the child, but would also recommend he be there with the mother while she attends Dr. Appts., and birthing classes etc.......
If you want him to learn how to act like a man, then YOU and YOUR HUSBAND are the one's responsible for teaching him how....... If your mom would of gotten preagnant at 17, and had an abortion: Would you be her to ask this question?????
You are going to be a grandmother now, now is when your son needs you the most!!!!! Be a loving grandmother, and help your son...... Abortion is not the answer!!!!!!!!!!! If they choose not to keep the child there is always the option of adoption!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 01:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off - this is their relationship, let them make the decisions about what to do with the baby. If they come to u and ask about abortion options (and if u believe in abortions), then make the offer. But in the end this could also backfire - they may resent u in the end if they decide to keep the baby. Honestly, why would u kick him out of the house? They need support, family and love in this situation --- not alienation! I agree he is 17 and "a man" so just let them come to u with what they decide. Be happy/supportive (even if ur not), u want to keep him in ur life; offer support, advice and options...he'll thank u for ur ability to not butt in later in life. Once i had my little girl, i had a whole new appreciation for my mom!! that's for sure!!
2006-09-11 01:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will be a lot cheaper than having to pay for it for the next 18 years. If your son is irresponsible, either keep him in the house, or tell him he needs to get a job so he can live on his own. Remind him of that thing called "child support", and how much that will cost him, for the next 18 years, and if he doesn't pay, he will end up in jail, but that won't let him off the hook. And, looksie at all of the other problems that will occur. {link below.}
2006-09-11 00:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that you would have a sincere talk with your son and let him know that you are there to support him. Its a hard situation to be in, but needless to say it happened. Right now what is best and not your decision if there will be a abortion or not. As to kicking him out, what would that solve, just creates more problems for him.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-11 00:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 17 years old!!! He made a mistake, do we all not learn life's lessons from the mistake's we make? If they had both discussed and agreed on the matter, then yes, I probably would.
Would you rather your son ask for the, say, 200 to have the abortion now, or continuously ask for money coz his kid needs this and that constantly over the next 15 years or more?
2006-09-11 00:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all this is your grandchild you're talking about killing, how savage is that?Anywayz "Thou Shalt Not Kill. One thing I learnt in life, is the best thing in life is life. Your son (& his girlfriend) made a choice not to use protection and this is what has resulted. It was probably meant to be. Accept what has happened and forgive him. Step back and weigh up your decisions. Dont act out of anger and kick him out, I know you love him, as he is half of you. This is a test for you. Don't get too caught up on the system for you are going to have a beautiful grandchild. And i'm sure he can still maintain his future goals if you support him 100%.
2006-09-11 02:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by thaskux 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would discuss it with both of them. If abortion was their joint decision and they didn't have any money, I would help pay, but they, both of them, would owe me the money back within a specified amount of time, such as 3 months or 6 months. And, I would state that this is a one-time offer.
I would definitely not kick him out of the house for being stupid for not using protection and not waiting until they were both prepared to face any consequences of their actions.
2006-09-11 00:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is murder. The fact that you would even consider paying for it probably explains why he is in this situation in the first place. He should have been taught the difference between right and wrong at an early age.
2006-09-11 00:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋