Not that I would have a problem with it if I was, but it sort of limits your options with men when they think you don't fancy their sex.
What could it be? I wear make-up, girlie clothes (not all the time, but often enough) and high heels, but I also have short hair and sometimes wear dirty old jeans when I put off my laundry too long.
2006-09-10 23:56:21 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take it up the what?
2006-09-10 23:57:55 · update #1
NB: don't give me tips on how to change the way I look, that was not what I was asking for. Just tell me then that it is because of my short hair.
2006-09-10 23:59:48 · update #2
Because (a) you show self-respect, humor and erudition and (b) a lot of people find those qualities hard to equate with someone who would be attracted to them.
2006-09-11 00:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by bubbacornflakes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People, in general, are dumb sheep. If you don't have the latest look, do the latest thing, have the trendy mobile phone etc., you're tagged as some sort of deviant. I mean, look at some of these answers; grow your hair, wear nice girly clothes, simper and giggle a bit more...HURL!
Just hang on in there, because, frankly, if you're being snubbed by a guy because he's taken a look at you and put a mental tick in the "dyke" box, if somebody tells him you're straight and he comes sidling up at the bar, is he really going to be the sort of chap you want to invest time and effort into?
The right guy(s) for you will turn up. The chances are you're just comfortable and confident with yourself. I, personally, look for that over making sure the right designer label is sticking out of your exposed thong in the oh-so trendy manner. Unfortunately I can name a dozen chaps who wouldn't know how to begin a conversation with you. Or with a well trained chimpfor that matter.
Don't change yourself for anyone but you, or the person who falls for you will have fallen for someone who's actually not quite you...if you see what I mean.
2006-09-11 00:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a male dressing as a female talking to straight guys??
Seriously, I don't think it has anything to do with you way you dress - hundreds of girls have short hair and can look fabulously feminine,etc. It all depends how you put yourself across. If you come across as desperate then that would be a turn off. I know of girls that would not be considered conventionally beautiful but they are confident and their fine personalities show through and that makes them attractive to men. Perhaps you try too hard. Just relax and enjoy being yourself. If you are looking for a partner then the right man will find you.
2006-09-11 00:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you look like any other girl, so I can only conclude it has something to do with how you act.
Anyway, most people these days wouldn't conclude sexuality on appearance alone, would they? Maybe the bigots.
Are you particularly confident? Sometimes men (certainly the brash ones who are not really confident themselves) find this a bit scary. Although in your Q, you say people rather than men. I wonder how many have actually told you this, or much it is your own perception of yourself? We are often our own worst critics!
Good luck!
2006-09-11 00:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by fruitbat7711 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not the cloths that you wear, it may be the way you acted, some female come on to strong like a man, Plus you may have a manly fig, Or you may walk like a man instead of a lady, Or you are in a area were people judge for what you wear Or just because they are mean. Or somebody is passing a rumor around that you are.
2006-09-11 00:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on, all, doesn't everyone have that old comfy pair of jeans for being a bum on laundry day? you sound really cute and i can't think why people would think you're gay. i don't wear makeup at all. (but my hair is shoulder length--even though i can't see what that says--i have lots of friends with the cute pixie cut.) could be that you're really confident and that intimidates some guys. . . either way, if they're going to let those kinds of things alter their judgment right away, then don't worry about 'em!
2006-09-11 00:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by serasotto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your hair is black? I suppose you have a bit of a TaTu look, which intimidates some men. Don't get me wrong men totally dig lesbians but it also means minimised chances of getting a score.
Don't change your look just start being more open, less sarcastic and perhaps a little flirtatious.
2006-09-11 00:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by yasiru89 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zoek, I think it has nothing at all to do with looks.
You seem to be very confident, smart, tough as nails, and a bit aggressive. I think as far as men are concerned, it's the intimidation factor at work. Many men (not all, but many) can't handle women they find intimidating or 'out of their league'. It's easier to assume that you're gay, rather than face your rejection or ridicule.
The strong guys are out there. Don't change your look or your vibe. You don't need to.
2006-09-11 10:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why do you even care what people think of you! Let them think of you what they want!!! You know what you are! And just be that!!! When any guy really fancies you he would come to you and ask if its true... guy's that go on assumptions isn't men!And one day you will meat the perfect person that likes you for you! So don't stress!
2006-09-11 00:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It could be the "short hair = lesbian" stereotype, yeah. I haven't seen you, so I can only guess. It's also possible that you have a manly walk, a masculine demeanor (the way you move), etc. My younger sister is like that, except that she now wears her hair longer because her boyfriend likes it.
2006-09-11 07:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no im sure it wouldnt be because of your hair style - or even the way you look - do you maybe feel more comfortable around women? Do you get on a lot better with them than men? Im not sure why but the only logical explanation I can think of would be the above. I seriously doubt its coz of your looks - sure loadsa women have short hair!
2006-09-11 00:01:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋