Why do you think that we (Christians) say that pre-marital or any sex out-side of marriage is wrong? Also, why do we think that it is wrong for two people of the opposite sex to live together? Why do we believe in renewed virginity? Why?
2006-09-10 22:48:29 · 16 answers · asked by Dead 2 Self 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the pre marital sex thing i think its cool i am a catholic though but some see it wrong cause you have to get married in the eyes of god and be the only ones for each other somthing like that. as for the second question cause they think they are having sex which brings you to the first question. and the virginity its just that some people wantto think they have a second chance at being pure i guess.
2006-09-10 23:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Marriage of a man and a woman is seen as the most acceptable state. Sex between married couples is seen as one of the benefits of the relationship, above and beyond reproduction. As such, sexual relations should be reserved for marriage. This explains why pre-marital and extra-marital sex is frowned upon.
2. There are sections of the Bible that indicate that same-sex relationships or just being homosexual is against the will of the deity. If one takes the Bible literally, then this means that same-sex existence is sinful.
3. First of all, renewed virginity is not what it says. The person has had sex and then decides not to have it until they are married. They are no longer a virgin; they have made a conscious decision to reserve their sexuality for their spouse. This follows from 1. above.
4. Why? Because these people are more comfortable with modifying their behavior according to their faith. In some ways, they are avoiding the chance of STDs and unwanted pregnancies with someone that will not be around to raise the child.
2006-09-11 05:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to choose to be a part of the "group" you refer to as "we". You don't have to subscribe to beliefs that are deemed "Christian" in order to be a christian. Being a believer in Jesus Christ means that you've accepted him into your life. You've decided to do what is best for you and live a life where religion is a big part of it. Premarital sex is sex with someone before you are married, or after for that matter and it is my belief that if you love someone and are committed to that person then what you do with them is your business. Religious leaders have often controlled people through shame and guilt in order for people to conform to what is accepted by the western world as "proper" and "christian". If you choose to believe that sex should only be between a man and a woman who are married, like most western religions promote, then that is your answer. However, if you choose to believe that sex is a natural desire and it is to be shared with someone you deeply care about then don't let the guilt of organized religion dictate what you do. The living together part of your question is just another way for organized religion to control your ideas on relationships. Again you have to choose if you're going to let the church decide how you will live your life. It is my belief that there is no such thing as "renewed virginity" because once you have experienced sex, that experience is part of who you are , forever. You cannot erase it from your memory--no amount of prayer can do that. It is a way for "sinners" to repent. Learn from your past, accept it, and go on.
2006-09-11 06:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by aprilgirl_63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found this information... complete with scriptures... and before you read further, I feel the need to say I'm an Atheist and don't believe a word of it.
Premarital sex defrauds your future partner of their right, your virginity. A man should marry a virgin and a woman should also marry a virgin. The blood shed when a woman looses her virginity is supposed to seal the covenant between her and her husband. People seem eager to lose their virginity before marriage, this is a perverted desire, we have lost any sense of the purity of sex. Premarital sex is not only a sin against your body, it is a sin against the other person and finally and more importantly it is a sin against God. The sexually immoral will not inherit the kingdom of heaven (1 Cor 6:9-10), its punishment is indicated in Rev 21:8, therefore it should be treated seriously, it is not a frivolous matter with God.
Adultery is declared unlawful in the seventh commandment (Ex 20:14) and indeed the tenth commandment prohibits coveting ones neighbours wife which is the precursor of adultery. Jesus goes to the heart of the law by saying that 'anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.' (Mat 5:28). The penalty for adultery is death for both those involved (Deu 22:22) which indicates the seriousness of this sin in God's eyes. Adultery is when a married person has sex with someone other than their spouse. Adultery is breaking faith with the partner of the marriage covenant, Mal 2:15 warns us to guard ourselves in our spirit because adultery starts in the heart before it takes place physically. Jesus teaches that it is out of the heart that adultery comes. Adultery breaks the one flesh bond of marriage which can lead to divorce. The scripture recognises that God has made the marriage partners one flesh (Mal 2:15, Mat 19:6). Adultery is therefore not only a sin against the other partner but against God who joined them together and before whom the covenant was made.
In the Bible such a relationship (living together) outside of marriage is called fornication, or if it involves the married, adultery. Just to set the record straight on what the Bible teaches about it we will quote Paul: "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolater, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God." (I Cor. 6:9-11)
And my apologies, I couldn't find any relevant info on "renewed virginity"... though in my personal opinion, it's a load of crap that churches came up with so people who have indulged in pre-marital sex will repent and stop having sex until after they're married when it's "ok with god"...
2006-09-11 06:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by DrkCrwlr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the bible...I was raised catholic, however, I don't let the church dictate things that they just made up along the way about how I live my life...As far as I'm concerned my relationship with God is personal, and no one has the right to jusdge me but Him. I am not a holy roller but everyone needs something to believe in to get through this hell so we can get to heaven.
2006-09-11 10:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause all religions try to create a more conservative way of life, cause modernism ruins religion and it's the last thing they want.. there are a lot of money playing on that table! Religions can easily pass some ideas of what is moral and whats not and bets on human guilt (sinners) to maintain its power! The thing is to keep your morality genuin and uninfluenced!
2006-09-11 06:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by rothsteady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a saint. (But technically, all people who has accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior is...anyway on to the subject matter)
Here is what I have read from www.sermoncentral.com. You can find lots of topics there re: your question but I edited some which maybe able to help you.
Biblical morality is laughed at, belittled, called archaic, and old-fashioned.
It’s not common that you’ll find it. It’s not popular if you say it. The “in” crowd does not believe it. A preacher will be criticized if he reminds you of it. But here it is:
God’s plan for sex includes 1 man and 1 woman, within the marriage relationship.
We’ve allowed Sex to become a dirty word. What should be a beautiful picture of love, marriage, and home, it’s now associated w/ words like perversion, AIDS, prostitution, lesbianism, homosexuality.
Society is learning that there is a penalty for sexual immorality. But rather than coming back to God’s standards, and obeying God’s laws, society says, “let’s see what we can do to alter the consequences of our actions.”
Sex is not a dirty word. Teenagers: your generation did not discover sex. God originated it for the benefit of all, within His guidelines.
Parents: Don’t make faces at me for using the word sex. Your kids are hearing lies about it every day and today they will hear the truth.
Older folks: Don’t look so holy at me for talking about God’s gift…you’re here because of it. (The has been only 1 virgin birth and you’re not it!)
Heb. 13:4 (on screen) “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled.”
Sex is not a physical act alone. There is a spiritual and emotional dimension to sex. If you leave them out, then you lower it to the level of animals.
That’s what the pornography industry is doing. Making women into things, objects to be used. “Bunnies” & “Pets” -Just animals. Nevermind that you have feelings and a soul and a heart.
come to think of it...the viagina is called pussy right? this is what advertising and society is putting in our mind.....they liken us to animals.....
You say, he’s only willing to be w/ me, she’s only willing to be with me. Don’t be so sure! If they’re willing to do it w/ you then they’ll do it w/ others and probably already have.
When you go to bed w/ someone, you go to bed with their entire sexual history, and w/ everyone who THOSE people had been with.
The average teen falls in love 10 times before they get married.
Even if you do marry them, you have reduced your chances for a happy marriage because you have chipped away at the foundation of trust. In the back of your mind you will always know that the person you married is capable of immorality. They were willing to sin w/ you before marriage and they’re capable of sinning against you now that you are married.
“It’s too late for me, preacher.” (I’ve already given it away)
“It’s too late for me, preacher.” (I’ve already given my virginity away- (both men and women have their virginity not only females..)
Good news! One day a woman was brought to Jesus, taken in the very act of adultery. She expected to be condemned, but Jesus said, I don’t condemn you, go and sin no more!
- Reasons why i think we believe what we believe:
1. God doesn't want us to suffer emotional trauma when we have an unwanted child
2. God wants it to be special - I have noticed that the people in the old times- during the times when kings and queens rule lands and in the 18th century, there were no divorce- and I think one of the reasons is keeping the Godly standards of marriage first before sexual union.
3. Because sex within the boundaries of marriage doesn't produce guilt.
5. Medically speaking its also safe to have sex with a virgin isn't it?
6. Live-in relationships does not guarantee commitment and is a sign of lack of commitment on both parties. It means your partner is willing to be with you only to some extent that is amenable for him/her once the relationship is already sour.it's bye bye time....you will both not seek reconciliation or other means to keep the relationship strong.
I am not sure what you mean by renewed virginity....... (am not aware of that....)
anyway hope I was able to answer your questions and offer some bit of help.........
2006-09-11 06:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ten commandments say that we should not commit adultery which is why premarital sex is considered wrong and why we try to avoid the sutuations that could lead to it
2006-09-11 05:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by svt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose the wisdom is once someone has sex , that person cannot give the future husband/ wife 100% their heart, body (obviously) and love.
2006-09-11 06:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the Bible says so ... I'm a Christian too, and I believe the Bible is the inerrant Word of God and that God's will for us is revealed in it.
2006-09-11 05:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Benjamin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋